Recently, I saw a lot of articles about "double female households", and everyone generally believes that raising two girls will not have a pension in the future, and it is difficult for daughters to marry far away and even the family is difficult to return to, let alone support the elderly.
Then I would like to say that raising a son will definitely prevent old age? Doesn't the son need to go to work to earn money to support the family, but stay in his hometown every day to take care of the elderly?
In my opinion, the happiness of a family is not about having a few boys or girls, or having children and daughters, but also about the family's environment, ideas and education.
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Our family is full of daughters, and now my parents live with me, and my sisters are all in the same city, and they often get together, and the family always has endless words.
When I was a child in the countryside, the older generation said that my mother was too tired, what is the use of raising so many daughters and reading? But my mother didn't listen to anyone, so she worked hard to earn money for us to go to school.
Now that we are all older, every year when we come home together for the New Year, everyone will say to my mother, "I envy you so much, the girls are so filial, it's good." ”
My mother will happily close her mouth whenever she hears these words, especially now that I have twins and two babies, the family is more lively, watching the little ones grow up day by day, and often pop up a sentence: "Love grandma, buy food for grandma." "Mom is even happier.
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I also gave birth to two daughters, never thought of having children to prevent old age, old and Mr. should also have their own life, after all, there are so many fun things, play does not move to go to the nursing home ah.
Now with the children every day, give them more companionship, because they need it the most now, when they don't need that day, I will go to play with my own, not all tied to the side is love, I hope they have the ability to make themselves happy, whether it is married or around me, happy and happy. As Long Yingtai wrote in "Eye Sending":
"The so-called father-daughter mother-son relationship only means that your fate with him is that you are constantly watching his back drift away in this life and this life." You stand at this end of the path, watching him fade away into the bend of the path, and he silently tells you with his back: no need to chase. ”
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I have a colleague married to a two-man family, brother and brother are working hard in our city, and then the brother's family has a baby, the parents are taken over to help with the child, and so the colleague and the husband also have a baby, the grandmother will come to help bring the little grandson, the grandfather takes care of the eldest grandson every day, on the weekend the two of them get together, the life is quite good.
Colleagues always say that her husband goes to his brother for a little thing, the two sit and do nothing, just chat and remember to chat for a day, good like a person, never feel that the in-laws are more partial to anyone, all treat the same.
So, you see, whether it is a double male household or a double female household, where they say so desolate, I admit that there are definitely many old people who have a bunch of children and have no one to take care of it, but most of them are ordinary families like us, when there are things, everyone has someone to discuss together, parents are willing to come to us when they are old, it is best, if you are reluctant to come home, it doesn't matter, we often go home to see it.
At last
I want to say, "What is the point of raising children?" Is it really about raising children and preventing old age? "Maybe in mom and dad's time, that was the way it was, then we just took responsibility."
But for our generation, just as there is the most beautiful answer that burst the circle of friends: "Raising children is just to pay and appreciate, in order to participate in the growth of a life, there is no need to fight for me, no need to pass on the generations for me, and there is no need to help me retire." I just want this life to exist, to walk in this beautiful world, to give me the opportunity to walk with her (him) for a while..."
How beautiful, and indeed speaks to our hearts. Whether we have one or two, we all have the same purpose, and to say that there is a little bit of selfishness may be to participate in growth again.