I never thought that my girlfriend would also divorce, and when I learned the news, it was already three years later, which fully showed that she disguised herself well enough that even my fiery eyes and golden eyes could be confused.
I asked her, why? I remember, he was super handsome, had a successful career, was very good to you, at the wedding, do you know how many people envy and hate you? They all know your fate. After marriage, he also let you quit your job, became a full-time wife, unlike us who still have to work hard, you are beautiful every day, practicing yoga, shopping, and from time to time to Travel to Xinmatai, I dream of having such a man, want to live such a day.
The girlfriend's shallow smile, today is different from the past, those are bubbles, exclusive to men to coax little girls bubbles. I can tell you now that few women can live that forever, even if they can live for a while, but definitely not for a lifetime.
Seeing my puzzled look, she added, when you are married in this little transparent marriage, you will understand how I have come in recent years, but I can tell you now that if a woman wants to live confidently and calmly in marriage, brushing up on the sense of existence, she must always remember these four words: financial independence.
Yes, the biggest confidence of women in marriage is not appearance, nor academic background, but economic independence, these four words are beautiful, and they speak the voice of many female compatriots.
01
I believe that many women with posture have heard this sentence: After marriage, I earn money to support my family, and you are responsible for being beautiful as a flower. What about the facts? When a man makes money easily after marriage, everything is easy to say, once he has twists and turns at work, return home, see you, to say something bad, where are you a flower face, you can only be ugly like a flower!
Spending a man's money is based on a premise, when he loves you, you spend his money, he is happy, does not love you, will only think that you are a loser old lady.
Therefore, in order to avoid you from being spat at by men as "such as flowers", you must have money, only this time, men love you, spend their own money, comfortable is their own, besides, want not to transform into flowers, what kind of high-end cosmetics do not need money to offset? Therefore, women don't be stupid, for their own good, do not let themselves become passive forever, they must be financially independent.
02
The girlfriend said that the reason why she chose to marry her ex-husband was not to find a rice bag, in fact, her beloved man was a poor boy, she liked him, he was good-looking, gentle personality, she liked to watch him play guitar, liked him to recite those sour poems under the moon... However, once he returns to reality from these bitter romances, he thinks that he, like himself, was born into a poor peasant, and will live with him in the future, work hard, and work for chai, rice, oil and salt, even so, he may not be able to survive and have a head start. She'll lose a lot of hair, lose sleep, and then she'll keep asking herself, what to do, what to do...
In the end, her answer was obvious, and it doomed her not to be happy.
My girlfriend sighed: If the time can be turned back, I will be very rich after graduating from college, and I will find ways to make a lot of money, and I can choose the man I love without scruples, rather than the man who loves me. Therefore, women make money for nothing else, just to meet in the next love, and will not miss each other for financial reasons.
03
There was a quarrel, the girlfriend was beaten, I knew about it, the corners of my eyes were swollen, at that time I insisted on finding media exposure, was stopped. Looking back on this past now, my girlfriend asked me, you know what? That time, he beat me not the most chilling, but he said let me go back to my mother's house. He obviously knew how unbearable my mother's family was, I married him at that time, that is, I never wanted to go back to the small mountain village of my mother's family in this life, and now he actually attacked me with the most pain...
In the end, the girlfriend endured the humiliation, and she never wanted to go back to her hometown, but she also hated it and bit her lip out of the blood. In the following days, after the girlfriend calmed down, she made a crazy and great decision, she wanted to work, she wanted to learn skills, she wanted to start a company, she wanted to make a lot of money...
I asked her, why? The girlfriend said, you think, if I have money, the house I bought, he does not let me go, I will also turn away in a dashing manner, not to nowhere to go; the most important point is that the house is mine, what qualifications does he have to drive me, I should scold him loudly: get back to your mother's house.
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This is the story of the girlfriend, a little distressed about her, but also a little envious of her, very appreciative of her can come out of the failed marriage, get reborn, more valuable is that this somewhat indescribable marriage taught her a big truth in life: the biggest confidence of a woman in marriage is: financial independence!