Whether a woman will be truly loved by a man, the answer to this question is not actually in the man, the decision is in the hands of the woman herself.
Because although a man's love is a man's subjective emotion, and the exporter of emotion is also in a man, the foothold of this feeling is on the woman.
That is to say, men's love arises because of women, if women do not have the value of making men pay true love, then even if men have emotions, they will only be a shallow taste of liking.
Love is a matter for two people, and one person can decide what its ultimate direction is, whether it is happy, happy, or sad.
This shows that if a woman wants to get a satisfactory love, she needs to be strict with herself and first give herself the ability to be loved, so that we have the courage to consolidate our position in the relationship between the sexes.
Therefore, whether a woman will be truly loved by a man depends on "one person", and this person is the woman herself.
You must first learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others
Life is a mirror, what attitude we have towards life, what life feedback will be to us will be what attitude.
There is a projection effect in psychology, that is, things that exist in real life are partly the state projected by our minds.
For example, if we feel that the world is beautiful, then the information we receive is beautiful;
If we think the world is terrible, the message we receive is negative.
Back to love, if we lower our posture bottomlessly because of the appearance of a person, we tolerate the other party hurting ourselves over and over again.
Even if we encounter betrayal, an understated "I'm sorry" will be soft and forgiving.
Then such love will certainly not let us experience what it is like to be loved, because we have lost the ability to love ourselves.
How can a person who does not even love himself get the love of others?
The psychologist Philom said, "Lovers, start by loving yourself." ”
A person who does not know how to love himself will never truly love others.
Therefore, in a relationship, you must first learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others.
Always remember: make a living first, and then love later
I used to think that the doorman was too worldly to this word, full of romantic love, how can it be linked to such a tacky thing?
Later, when I grew up and became the protagonist of other people's stories, I found that if love is not the right door, if love is divorced from reality, it will be a fantasy.
I remember that Cai Kangyong said before in the variety show "Strange Story": "My impression of the door-to-door pair includes my own education class, cultural background, etc. Different family backgrounds, different social circles, the topics exchanged with each other after marriage will be less and less, and finally lead to couples going farther and farther. ”
Not just marriage, but love as well.
To take a simple example, suppose our lover is a graduate student at Peking University and has achieved financial independence through entrepreneurship during her school days.
And we are just double non-school graduates, it is difficult to find a job, and the money earned is only a fraction of the boyfriend.
Such a gap is in front of us, and it is self-deception to say that there is no pressure.
And the identity of the other party is there, the people he contacts in his circle must be better than us, and after a long time, whether the other party will feel that we are not worthy of him is still an unknown.
Therefore, if we want to have the true love of a man, the premise is that we have the ability to obtain true love, that is, our own value is very good.
Good people tend to be more likely to fit in tune and more likely to resonate with their souls.
You must have the skills to manage love, in order to be truly loved by men
Love is something that needs to be managed after it is acquired, and if you sit back and relax after the relationship is established, then it will soon dry up due to the lack of management.
Therefore, if we want to be truly loved by men, we need to master some skills, of which the most cost-effective is sweet talk.
Teacher Zeng Qifeng once said: "Men are very narcissistic animals, and they like women who are interested in them. ”
On the surface, it seems that men are always looking for the women they like, but in fact what they need more is women who are interested in themselves.
In short, they want women to show admiration for themselves, which makes them feel that women are interested in themselves and attractive.
With positive psychological cues, men will want to continue to rely on women because their sense of existence is satisfied, and they will be willing to pay.
Those who have taught children know that children usually exaggerate more and more energetically, and the more they praise, the more they like to be themselves in front of others, and men also have a child in their hearts, and they also need to be praised.
Therefore, when getting along in daily life, we must give men encouragement and affirmation, and we must also trouble men more and let men help themselves. In this way, the man's sense of existence and value is satisfied, and the relationship will naturally last.