In real life, whether it is a man or a woman, if you are too clingy in a relationship, the relationship will not last long.
Some people will say that a person clings to you because he loves you too much, so he will behave like this. But in fact, everyone doesn't like this way of getting along.
Indeed, many of us think that the more we love someone, the more dependent we are on the other. The more you like someone, the more you want to be with that person every day.
But we ignore one thing, that is, this mode of getting along is not what the other party wants, you think this kind of performance is a kind of love, but in the other party is an invisible pressure.
As someone said, in addition to love, there are many things in life that we need to face and deal with, and there is no way to be with you twenty-four hours. After a long time, the other party will want to escape from you, because in the relationship with you, he will feel too depressed.
Of course, a person is too clingy in feelings, and the deeper reason is that he has a natural sense of insecurity about feelings, so he wants to find his own sense of existence all the time.
However, they forget that no matter what kind of relationship, there is their own personal space, that is to say, every interpersonal relationship is distant, but some are very close, and some are very far. But too clingy distance, in the feelings, is a disaster.
Especially if this feeling of being too clingy continues to be maintained, then the relationship will end sooner or later. Because he will feel depressed in front of you.
As someone said, a good relationship should be a kind of mutual growth and companionship, a relationship that is greater than two. Instead of taking possession of each other's time in the name of I love you. You should know that this kind of sticking to each other every day does not make the other party feel very safe, and in the long run, it just makes the other party feel that getting along with you makes him very suffocated.
I remember reading a netizen's sharing on the Internet.
She said she had been with her boyfriend for half a year and she was starting to get a little overwhelmed, he was really clingy. In the beginning, I still enjoyed this feeling. But as time went on, I found that I had nothing to do with myself.
The first thing he did when he got up was to video chat with me, and on the way to work, when he was working, he also had to report to me. By the evening, he would also be on time to chat with me and call me.
Honestly, in the beginning, I really felt very happy. But over time, this kind of getting along really made me feel bad.
Sometimes it's hard to talk to family and friends around you at night. Usually, whether it is when I go to work or when I am resting, he always surrounds me every day. Slowly I want to end the relationship.
Because I think he's too clingy and never considers me, I also need personal space, I also need to deal with my own things. Because then our quarrels have become more numerous.
Yes, there are many conditions for wanting to have a good relationship, but the most important thing is to find a suitable mode of getting along with two people, and this mode of getting along that is too clingy is obviously bad for a relationship.
After all, everyone has their own life model, and love is only part, not all. Therefore, in intimate relationships, it is also necessary to maintain distance.
So what should we do when we encounter such a situation. First of all, we learn to review the pattern of two people getting along, empathize with it, if the other party treats me in this way, can I accept it for a long time. If you can't accept it then you need to change it.
At the same time, two people also need to form a good communication mode, do not feel embarrassed to say, there is a problem to say, but the way can be euphemistic. After all, many emotional failures are due to failure to communicate effectively.
As someone once said, "The best love is when two people are in company with each other, not bound and entangled, nor possessive and entangled, but the two of us, standing side by side, and we have our own sight and mind." ”
Of course, in an intimate relationship, it is normal to want to rely on each other. But beware, you can't turn this dependence into clinginess. Because a long-term clingy relationship can't last.
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