Text: Xi Xihuan
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Love has always been magical, some people say that love can make people lose all the principles, especially a woman who really moves her heart, in the face of the beloved man, if she can be conquered, then she will definitely give everything to love.
But a woman's mind is often difficult for men to guess, sometimes she will be happy, and the attitude of responding to men is also very enthusiastic, and sometimes it suddenly becomes ignored, and the man himself is still scratching his head, not knowing where to do badly to annoy women.
In fact, in a woman's heart, the desire for love will often be accompanied by some requirements and standards, because she wants to have further interaction with this man, then she will unconsciously have some expectations, looking forward to men to meet her standards.
And if men happen to do it, it is naturally easier to conquer women.
There was once a friend who was struggling to pursue a woman he liked, and for this woman, the friend gave almost everything, whether it was time or energy, he was willing to do everything for the woman's happiness.
But half a year has passed, and the woman's attitude towards him has always been lukewarm, neither explicitly rejecting him, and the relationship with the lover is a little worse.
Friends feel that they have never been able to conquer women, which is why they will be like this. After understanding the way friends give to women, I can't help but be dumbfounded, it turns out that he is a man who does not know how to refuse.
Maybe some people will have puzzlement, really love a woman, men are naturally reluctant to reject women, otherwise it will appear that they are not sincere enough, how can women refuse?
However, in love, men need to use some small skills, which can not only grasp the woman's heart with half the effort, but also give women the feeling of love that they want more.
01 "Rejection" makes it easier for women to feel a man's presence
The friend was never willing to refuse the woman he liked, he defined himself as a woman's backing, on call, as long as the woman was in need, a phone call, he could almost quickly appear in front of her.
When a woman is hungry when she works overtime, her friend immediately sends her favorite supper; the woman has a problem that can't be handled, make a phone call, even if the friend himself is busy at work, he will first go to the woman to solve the problem; the woman is in a bad mood, a WeChat, the man will bring a variety of delicious accompaniment to the woman while eating and chatting.
In the eyes of many people, this practice of friends is undoubtedly enough to make people move, but it does not move women, and women always feel that there is less feeling between two people.
Later, the friend changed the way he got along with women, he was no longer on call, and he no longer always sacrificed his time and energy to cater to women.
Sometimes, friends will also reject women, but this rejection is also selective, for example, if a woman has difficulties, he will never refuse, or will appear around women as quickly as before.
But if the woman is bored, the friend will often refuse, even if the woman is obviously unhappy, he will not be an unprincipled man as before.
What men do not expect is that the more they refuse like this, the more women want to see him, and even sometimes take the initiative to find him.
It didn't take long for the two to establish a formal relationship, and the friend understood that it was his "heart" that finally allowed him to conquer women.
In fact, the reason is very simple, if men are always responsive to women, then it will only make women less and less cherished.
Because people are all the same, the more a person is good to you, the more he never rejects you, the more you can't feel the surprise and romance he brings you.
Over time, all the efforts of this person to you have become a matter of course in your heart, and even if he does not do as well as before, you will blame him.
Feelings also need gratitude and satisfaction, if men give too much, even their own happiness and freedom are deprived, then women will not value men.
Knowing how to refuse will sometimes make women feel more about the importance of men to her, men will have a greater sense of existence in front of women, and women will unconsciously rely more on men.
02 "Rejection" can make women feel the principle of men
What kind of man is the most attractive in the eyes of a woman? Believing that the answer is different, because every woman's need for affection, as well as the measurement criteria are different, this makes the shining points that men can be appreciated by women different.
In the eyes of women, men with macho are more masculine and more able to conquer them, while principled men are undoubtedly more attractive.
Especially in the face of external temptations, a man's "rejection" sometimes makes women see his principledness, and rejection is an attitude of emotional loyalty rather than indifference.
Girlfriend Ai Qing fell in love with a man, in her opinion, although the man did not say it explicitly, she could clearly feel that he also had a good feeling for himself.
But the two people had been getting along so tepidly, no one had broken through the window paper, and although Ai Qing liked him, he had not reached the point where he had to.
However, in the process of getting along between the two people, Ai Qing gradually changed her attitude and view of men, especially when she saw that he rejected other women, Ai Qing was even more convinced that this was the person she wanted to cherish, so she took the initiative to confess and finally established a relationship with the man.
Men are not particularly outstanding, but they have their own principles, and once when two people went to dinner together, they met a female colleague of the man.
Out of the woman's intuition, Ai Qing felt that this female colleague was interested in men, and even deliberately went to the table to eat with them.
After eating, the female colleague made an excuse to want the man to send her home, but the man directly refused, even if Ai Qing was not his girlfriend.
Ai Qing found that the man's refusal was not deliberately proving to her how decent he was, but that he was a very principled man, he knew what kind of distance he should keep from the opposite sex, and he also knew whether there should be ambiguity in the feelings he wanted.
Women do not want to meet an unprincipled scumbag, such a man will undoubtedly not take on their responsibilities in the relationship, especially in the face of external temptations, it is easier to hold on, to find various reasons and excuses for their own indulgence.
Men who know how to refuse are different, they have clear goals, often better know what they want, women are more assured of such men, and they are more willing to trust, so the more they know how to reject external temptations, the more they can conquer women.
There is no absolute dominance in the relationship, but two people need to cherish and understand each other, so as to get a more perfect love.
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