I on your body to let you serve me that time, your disgusted expression, I remember you for a lifetime, Xiao Lu!
After Fang Yinuo gave birth, the was pulled on her pants, Xiao Lu wanted to help her clean up, Fang Yinuo always refused him, this is because Fang Yinuo did not trust him, because she knew that Xiao Lu did not love herself enough and would not be willing to do such a thing.
After the divorce, Xiao Lu also used this matter to humiliate Fang Yinuo, seeing here, the only bit of sympathy and goodwill for Xiao Lu was completely gone, and his "scum" was really thorough.
First, the wife gives birth to a child, Xiao Lu "hit the soy sauce"
In the few days that Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child and was hospitalized, Xiao Lu's irresponsibility was too obvious.
Fang Yinuo broke the amniotic fluid, hurried to the hospital, her mother accompanied her next to the bed, at this time the most important to accompany her husband, Xiao Lu did not see anyone.
The nurse said that he would not be able to live for a while and a half, Fang Yinuo said to let him go home and rest, Xiao Lu actually went home, not even polite. The wife is about to have a child, as a husband, his heart is so big, back home, turn on the TV, watch the ball game, drink beer, sleep until dawn.
People who have experienced the birth of a child should know that during the days in the hospital, the mother's family is basically in a state of high tension, especially when the child has not yet been born, and there is no heart to sleep. After the birth of the child, the family's emotions gradually relaxed and took turns to rest.
Xiao Lu can sleep at home with peace of mind, and when he arrives at the hospital, his performance is even more incomprehensible. Fang Yinuo entered the delivery room under the escort of his parents, Xiao Lu was not by his side, and after the child was born, the nurse sent the placenta out first. Xiao Lu did not wait for his wife and children to come out, he first gave the placenta to his mother. When the nurse pushed Fang Yinuo out, Xiao Lu was not at the door of the delivery room, others gave birth, the family was waiting to meet the mother and the newborn, but Fang Yinuo needed the nurse's help to send it to the ward.
Seeing this, it was really not worth it for Fang Yinuo, and she kept saying that Xiao Lu didn't want this child at all. When he was in the hospital, Xiao Lu's performance proved that Fang Yinuo was right and really did not frame him.
Xiao Lu did not look forward to the newborn child at all, when he saw the child, he was also like looking at someone else's child, there was no excitement and excitement that a novice father should have, just like a bystander, the wife gave birth to a child, he was "playing soy sauce" the whole time, in a state of wandering.
After being discharged from the hospital, Xiao Lu had almost no sense of participation in taking care of the child, completely trusted his sister-in-law, ignored Fang Yinuo's anxiety and worry, and thought that Fang Yinuo was overly anxious.
Because the child was seriously jaundice, he was sent to the hospital to take a blue light, and Xiao Lu actually went home by himself, and said lightly that he had been hospitalized. His own daughter, who has not yet reached the full moon, is now in the hospital, and in Xiao Lu's body, she can't see that there is even a little worry and anxiety.
Whether men have a sense of responsibility or not is evident in the process of raising children. Xiao Lu told his mother that she had spawned it, which was not false at all, if there was no old man to give birth, whether there were children or not, Xiao Lu should not care, because he did not love children at all.
Two or three details, exposing Xiao Lu's true feelings for the other party
In this marriage, Xiao Lu's dedication to this family is all material, and he completely ignores Fang Yinuo's emotional needs, that is to say, Xiao Lu's feelings for Fang Yinuo are not deep enough.
From these 3 small things, it can be seen that Xiao Lu's love for the other party is too vain.
1. Eat noodles
Xiao Lu himself ate at the noodle stall, brought two pieces of noodles back, he looked at Fang Yinuo to eat, Fang Yinuo asked him why he did not eat, did he eat outside? Xiao Lu immediately denied, saying that he had not eaten and was not hungry now.
Fang Yinuo is pregnant, wants to eat the noodles of the old Hu family, people who care about their wives should quickly pack up and go home, eat with their wives, Xiao Lu happily "steals food" outside, and when he returns home, he lies without changing his face, completely ignoring Fang Yinuo's heart, and only cares about his own cold, warm, hunger and thirst.
Seeing this is particularly uncomfortable, some people say that in the matter of eating, it can be seen whether a person is selfish, some people never wait for people to eat, Xiao Lu is selfish.
2, let Fang Yinuo let the mother-in-law
When Gao Caiping took her granddaughter, she committed a card addiction, and due to her negligence, the child fell from the stroller. Fang Yinuo returned from the hospital with the child and went to the corridor, xiao Lu said to her:
"Don't make my mother look bad when you enter the house!"
Fang Yinuo is not an unreasonable person, this matter is That Gao Caiping did something wrong, and it is normal for the daughter-in-law to be angry, and it is not normal to think that nothing has happened.
Xiao Lu was a bit indistinguishable from right and wrong, just like he knew that Fang Yinuo could not accept eating placenta, he still gave the placenta to his mother.
Xiao Lu likes to be with thin mud, right and wrong, Fang Yinuo wants to reason with him, it doesn't make sense at all, he only does it according to his own ideas.
After sister-in-law Yue left, Fang Yinuo wanted to find another sister-in-law, and without consulting with Fang Yinuo, Xiao Lu brought his mother here. Fang Yinuo couldn't believe Gao Caiping at all, thinking that she was unreliable, but Xiao Lu insisted on his own.
In handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Xiao Lu did not do a good job, fortunately, Gao Caiping is not a "bad" mother-in-law, otherwise, Xiao Lu's way of handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will definitely be like Li Yaping.
3, retention, no sincerity
Fang Yinuo always wanted to give Xiao Lu a chance and did not want to divorce, but Xiao Lu himself did not argue.
Seeing xiao Lu's way of admitting his mistakes, I felt that he was not sincere at all, as if he didn't care, and he kept explaining his difficulties, implying that the mistakes he made were forgivable, he was for the good of this family, just wanted to make more money.
Zhu Zhu this matter, Fang Yinuo is actually not very concerned, after this incident, Xiao Lu's approach is the most sad for her, his redemption is basically a broken jar and a broken, the other party Yinuo and Hehe, he can also be dispensable.
In the divorce, the staff asked them to think again, Xiao Lu dragonfly saved a little, Fang Yinuo answered a phone call back, Xiao Lu had signed it.
Xiao Lu's attitude of admitting mistakes was not sincere at all, and he also felt that he was very wronged, and Fang Yinuo was completely disappointed in him.
Xiao Lu's love for the other party Yinuo is particularly vain, invisible and untouchable, and he says that for the sake of this family, in order to let his wife and children live a good life, in fact, he does not love Fang Yinuo at all, just to satisfy his own material desires, want to succeed, and let others look up to him.
I think that when he marries Fang Yinuo, he should not have very deep feelings, but he just thinks that Fang Yinuo is suitable.
Third, the bottom line
Zhu Zhu is interested in Xiao Lu, she really likes Xiao Lu, Xiao Lu should also have some likes for Zhu Zhu, but because he is a married man, he knows that he and Zhu Zhu will not have results, so he keeps his sanity.
When this matter was made public, Xiao Lu had been defending himself, he felt that he was not wrong, that night, he just drank too much, and he couldn't blame himself.
In front of Fang Yinuo, he explained that he was for business; in front of his friends, he said that his work was not easy, no one understood him, and he was too wronged. If it is just a simple business transaction, Xiao Lu should draw a clear line with Zhu Zhu, talk about work in the place where work is discussed, there should be no cross-line behavior, any "derailment" will not be premeditated, most of them are half pushed and half done.
In dealing with the matter of Zhu Zhu, Xiao Lu had no bottom line, and he believed from the bottom of his heart that he was not wrong in this matter. I think that if you do something wrong, you should admit that no matter what the reason, wrong is wrong.
Xiao Lu's relationship with Zhu Zhu has long surpassed that of his partners, and he can feel it himself, but in order to win the order, he chooses to keep a distance from Zhu Zhu while doing business.
"Stealing to eat" is stealing to eat, Xiao Lu is admiring Zhu Zhu, a young and beautiful girl, who likes it when she sees it, Xiao Lu just doesn't want to admit it.
Although Xiao Lu has also been rejecting Zhu Zhu since then, his handling method is enough to prove that his bottom line is a bit low, and the matter of "sleeping" is too simple.
Fourth, the humiliation after divorce
"As soon as I came in the house and watched you play a good wife and mother, I was disgusted with the crookedness there."
I think such words are really hurtful, and at this time, it should be xiao Lu's words that have been suppressed in his heart for a long time!
Fang Yinuo just counted the money with him, and when he said such a thing, he was personally attacking, and there was no difference between directly punching him in the face.
A man like Xiao Lu, who just has no measurement, has been divorced, why do he have to say such hurtful things? He is just to express the dissatisfaction in his heart, and wants to humiliate Fang Yinuo, frustrate her self-esteem, and belittle her.
As a wife and mother, Fang Yinuo did a really good job, and was willing to communicate with Xiao Lu, but Xiao Lu only considered his own feelings.
He said that Fang Yinuo was pretending to be a good wife and mother, and this sentence denied all the merits of Fang Yinuo and hurt a person, and the most cruel way was to deny her and make her feel that she was worthless.
Fortunately, Fang Yinuo was relatively strong in her heart, otherwise, she would have taken Xiao Lu's words to heart, and she would really become unconfident in the future.
When divorcing, you should get together and disperse, humiliate each other, in fact, you are denying your marriage. Fang Yinuo did not say that Xiao Lu's was not, but discussed the matter on the matter, saying that he and Zhu Zhu were not right, and did not deny his value in this family, let alone demean him as a person.
For the sake of children, Xiao Lu should not say such hurtful words, there is a saying that hitting people does not hit the face, scolding people does not expose the short, Xiao Lu scolded Fang Yinuo, specifically picking up the sore spots, the words are heartfelt, scolding Fang Yinuo to the skin, there is no benefit, seeing her feels "disgusting", really too cruel.
Seeing Xiao Lu like this, many people said that if you are divorced, you definitely don't have to care so much, and you can say whatever you want. I think this idea is not right, broke up, should also break up peacefully, Fang Yinuo did it, she had complaints, or chose to deal with it calmly.
If the two people in the accounting, Xiao Lu does not say so hurtful words, Fang Yinuo will not let him see his daughter, after the divorce, Fang Yinuo really saw Xiao Lu clearly, and only then did he really see through this marriage.
Fifth, Xiao Lu only loves himself
Fang Yinuo wants to have a stable home, does not need a big house, does not need how luxurious life, simply. What she needs is a confidant, who can understand her and really care about her, and that's enough.
Xiao Lu put his work first, because the family conditions were not good, he wanted to get ahead, hoping to mix things up and make those who looked down on him shut up, so he desperately tried to earn money, and the family's affairs did not matter.
Fang Yinuo clearly said that his material requirements were not high, and he only hoped that Xiao Lu could accompany her more, and Xiao Lu felt that Fang Yinuo did not understand himself.
Every night, the child cried, Fang Yinuo coaxed alone, Xiao Lu fell asleep on his head, without reminding him, he did not know how to take the handle. When Fang Yinuo needed him the most, Xiao Lu concentrated on his career, thinking about how to make more money.
I think that a person like Xiao Lu, he doesn't love anyone, only loves himself. He is good to his mother because his mother has a nurturing way for him, and it is a responsibility to be good to his brother, he has a promise to the other party, there is no blood relationship, it can only be a cohabitation relationship, and he has no concern for his daughter.
I don't believe in people who are cold by nature, just not loving enough!
Xiao Lu is very his work, he can abandon his family and go all out to busy his career, between his family and career, he chose a career.
In terms of family, he is not willing to pay more attention, when Fang Yinuo wants to divorce, he is just unwilling to change the current state of life, want to keep the marriage complete, for Fang Yinuo and Hehe, he did not show a particularly strong concern.
Sixth, Xiao Xu borrowed money, which should be counted on Xiao Lu's head
Fang Yinuo likes to keep accounts, she wrote down the 3 sums of money borrowed by Xiao Xu, Xiao Lu was very angry after reading it, he felt that Fang Yinuo calculated too clearly with him, and did not regard Xiao Xu as a family.
Therefore, Xiao Lu spread out the matter of sponsoring the travel of his parents-in-law, and also secretly ridiculed Fang Yinuo for being partial to his parents and not being good to his mother-in-law.
Filial piety to parents should be, if Gao Caiping wants to travel, Fang Yinuo is not willing to give money, this is her fault, the key is that the mother-in-law did not mention, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not very harmonious, this matter does not blame her. In addition, since Xiao Xu said that he was borrowing money, he should pay it back, and if Xiao Xu said at the beginning that he wanted money, Fang Yinuo could directly refuse.
Xiao Xu is such an adult, he has hands and feet but he is idle, borrowing money is not used in serious matters, he should not borrow, Fang Yinuo gave him face, agreed to borrow, I think it is even good.
If not divorced, Fang Yinuo should not let Xiao Xu pay back, like bookkeeping is her habit, not deliberate calculation, now divorced, the loan is counted on Xiao Lu's head, it is what it should be, otherwise let Xiao Xu pay it off.
After the divorce, xiao Lu's words proved that he had long been dissatisfied with the other party's promise and had resentment in his heart. If he does not divorce, the resentment in his heart will become deeper and deeper, and Fang Yinuo feels that he has done nothing wrong, and in the long run, the cracks in the marriage between the two will become bigger and bigger.
Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu divorced, really divorced, living with someone like Xiao Lu, will be particularly tired, very typical widowed marriage.
At last:
The appearance of Zhu Zhu, let Fang Yinuo completely recognize Xiao Lu, the marriage has long been a problem, she gave Xiao Lu face, did not want to expose his irresponsibility, she said thank you Zhu Zhu, I think it is the truth.
Marry the right person, have a child to know, Fang Yinuo married the wrong one, and finally decisively gave up this bad marriage. After the divorce, Fang Yinuo's life returned to normal, although the child was less accompanied by his father, but growing up in a harmonious and warm family was much stronger than following Xiao Lu.
Marriage is like a shoe, whether it fits or not, only you know, if you don't fit your feet, you continue to wear them, and the last person to be hurt is yourself.
Author: Muzi