The mother-in-law, who was good at calculation, was swept out of the house by the eldest sister's family

01.

What is filial piety to the elderly?

Blind obedience, or even not considering their own small home?

Zhang Juan has been very upset lately, and she wants to go out and sue for divorce, but she feels that if it is too big, the child will be pointed out.

But the agreement to divorce, husband Zhao Ran did not agree, saying that there are feelings between the two, and there are children, this matter is not worth divorce at all, saying that Zhang Juan is small-minded and too pretentious. (Narrated in the first person)

Zhao Ran and I are college classmates, and during college, he and I were just alumni we knew because we often met in the library.

It may be fate, after graduation, although the majors are different, we entered the same company and were divided into a project group.

Everyone was not familiar with him at first, but he and I were classmates, so we naturally got close to him a lot.

Later, when we were getting along, we had feelings for each other, and when we worked for a year, we established a relationship.

Girls, really, before getting married, try to spend as much time with his family as possible to see if he treats a thing the same way as he treats a family with you alone.

Can't take it for granted like I did and regret it.

After being in love for half a year, he offered to live together, saying that he would save money and get married anyway.

I said that I was going to get married in the end anyway, so wouldn't it be better to get married directly now.

He nodded his head and said yes, but a few days later he told me that there was no bride price in his hometown, saying that I was not a vain girl, and I should not mind.

Blame me for trusting him too much, not only did I not hear how inappropriate it was to say this, but I did not inquire, after all, we have colleagues in our company and he is in the same place.

My hometown has dowry, dowry, and other marriage customs, so my parents did not agree at first.

But I couldn't help it, and then I thought that as long as we both had a good relationship, anyway, the bride price was brought back to me, so I didn't say much.

02.

Later, the two of us got married, and the marriage house bought a room and a living room, and the house price was not high at that time, with a down payment of 150,000 yuan.

The first time I met my in-laws was after I got my marriage license, and my mother-in-law cried and cried and told me that she was not easy.

In the end, this marriage, the in-laws did not have a penny, the marriage room down payment of my parents out, me and Zhao Ran more than a year of work savings, simply bought some home.

Because it is a second-hand house, the original decoration looks good, plus there is no extra money, there is no redecoration.

I learned more than a month after I got married that my mother-in-law had been helping my sister-in-law with her children and living in the next city together.

Before that, I always thought that my in-laws were in my hometown.

Originally this was nothing, I did not feel wronged, and then I became pregnant and gave birth to a daughter, ready to go to work as soon as the maternity leave was over, the child's expenses were large, the family relied on Zhao Ran's salary, and life was a little difficult.

My mother took care of my pregnancy and confinement, my sister-in-law was pregnant with a second child at home, this is not a day or two things to take the child, I really can't keep my mother.

I thought of my mother-in-law, and I thought that my mother-in-law would definitely agree, after all, my sister-in-law's children are in the 2nd grade of primary school, and they are far away.

But the mother-in-law refused, how to say that I did not want to come, although I said a little cold, but I thought it is not the mother-in-law's obligation, she is not willing to come.

So after my maternity leave, I quit my job at home with my children, and I could earn some pocket money in the odd jobs I could do at home.

And then it went on for a few years, until the child was 7 years old.

In the past few years, my family's house has become a school district house, the house price has risen a lot, and although the life of the small family is tight, it has also survived.

When the child goes to elementary school, I will be able to work again, and it will be fine slowly.

But at this time, the in-laws and mother-in-law who had been living in the eldest sister's house were driven back to their hometown.

The eldest sister two sons to do business, the income is good, the house fully bought 2 sets, about 3 million bar, the original in-laws there with children, to manage the housework is very good.

But the child graduated from junior high school, and the high school was a residential school, and there was no need for mother-in-law care.

Coupled with the age, the in-laws are also unwell from time to time.

The husband of the eldest sister proposed to let the two old people return to their hometown, saying that as a son-in-law, he had taken care of the two sons of the old man for more than ten years, and if the eldest sister did not agree, then divorce.

The eldest sister finally chose her husband and children and let her parents return to their hometown.

Zhao Ran heard that his parents had been wronged, so he called his sister at that time, but the sister's married daughter did not need to be blocked by the pension.

03.

When you need the old man, say that your son and daughter are like this, and let your parents take the handle.

Now that I don't need it, I start to push that the daughter who marries does not need to retire?

Also raised for more than ten years, the pension of the elderly is all in it, as well as the living expenses we give every month, but also help with children, take care of the family, who is this to help whom?

I knew that after this incident, I was also chilling for my in-laws.

Later, the mother-in-law, who had lived in her hometown for a few months, said that her sons and daughters lived in the city, and they both lived in the village, and everyone laughed at her.

Talking and crying, Zhao Ran was distressed, and it was estimated that he also held his breath, so he proposed to let his in-laws come and live with us.

If I hadn't heard his conversation with his mother-in-law that day, I wouldn't have known that he calculated me and my child so much for the sake of so-called affection.

I had made an appointment with my friend that day to go out with the kids, but she had a temporary affair, so I came back, the kids were asleep, and I didn't go out watching TV in the bedroom.

Zhao Ran, who came home at noon, did not know that I was at home, eating fruit in the living room, calling his mother, and opening the outside, the conversation between mother and son, I listened to it clearly.

Zhao Ran said that he inquired in the past few days, although our school district house is a one-bedroom, but the house price is high, if you sell it, you can buy 2 one-bedroom rooms in the suburbs, and then you can pick them up.

The mother-in-law said: Then your wife can agree.

Zhao Ran smiled and said, she can trust me, when I said that there was no bride price in our hometown, didn't she also believe it; you said there was no money, and her family did not ask you to pay for it.

I'll tell her first, saying that you two are going to subsidize us, sell this house, change into a big school district room, and when your parents come and live in it, she will definitely believe it.

After hanging up the phone, Zhao Ran, who was in a good mood, even hummed a song.

I was chilling, the man I loved dearly, who had lied to me from the beginning, and now he was going to disregard the feelings of his wife and children for the sake of his filial piety.

I slowed down for a while before I opened the door, and I said to him with a stunned face: Divorce, you count me with your mother for your so-called love, this day can not be lived.

He began to apologize and did not agree to the divorce, but did not give up selling the house, turning over and over trying to convince me.

In the end, I began to say that I was small-minded, that I was calculating, that it didn't matter if my children went to elementary school, that we had worked hard for a few years, and that it would be better to buy the school district house back.

I was completely dead hearted and insisted on divorce.

I wonder, am I wrong to choose divorce? I'm really worried that if I put up with it this time, there will be more outrageous things in the future.

04.

Written in the end: Although marriage is not easy, it is not easy to persuade people to divorce, but for Zhang Juan's marriage.

From the beginning of talking about marriage, Zhao Ran began to cheat, until finally he actually wanted to cheat his wife and sell the marriage house of the two.

It's hard not to suspect that he doesn't have much sincerity about the relationship.

Filial piety to parents is not wrong, and it is also right to be a sentient and righteous son, but there is a better way, why not consider the wife and children at all?

The deceptive means also used are really chilling.

I think that Zhang Juan's approach is correct, this marriage must be divorced, otherwise it is not certain that there will be something waiting to calculate herself later!