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In a marriage, some women will think about divorce once they are not happy, although most people do not leave in the end, but there are still some people who are very stubborn. They always blindly believe that they are divorced and can definitely find a better man.
Because they were more popular in the past, or felt that good women are scarce now, a good woman like herself, even if she is divorced with children, can meet good objects.
But the real situation is that the second marriage market is actually more realistic, divorced women, it is difficult to find a satisfactory quality man. This is an indisputable fact. We have to acknowledge our ordinariness, and when we enter into marriage, when we sink and fall in an unsatisfactory marriage, we inevitably become the most ordinary, ordinary woman.
And such ordinary conditions can no longer be ordinary, it is difficult to find a satisfactory partner after divorce, unless the woman herself has certain advantages, for example, in a certain field is very successful, or rich in family, or very social status, of course, good beauty and temperament is also an advantage.
Divorced women have this advantage, and it is also possible to meet a man with good conditions. But if she is just an ordinary woman and does not have a certain advantage in herself, it is difficult for her to find a better partner than the first marriage after divorce. Because men with better conditions rarely consider divorced women.
Therefore, women must not divorce hastily because of blind superiority. Unless you encounter a matter of principle.
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First: domestic violence.
As we all know, there is only zero times and countless times of domestic violence. Although we advise everyone not to blindly choose divorce, if you encounter the principle of domestic violence, then there is no need to hesitate, divorce is the most correct choice.
In a marriage, some women, if they are slightly unhappy, want to divorce and find a better man, while some women, even if they have encountered domestic violence, choose to endure it.
This may be related to the woman's original family, it may also be related to the woman's financial ability, of course, it may also be related to the child. In short, some women, even if they have encountered domestic violence, do not dare to file for divorce.
But the result of women's patience is that men's domestic violence against women will continue, and even develop from the original slap to fist and foot, and the last careless, women may be beaten to death.
Don't think it's impossible, when a person becomes violent, he will gradually lose his mind, a person who has lost his mind, and do everything. Therefore, once a woman encounters domestic violence, then do not have any hesitation, must end the marriage as soon as possible, do not have any concerns.
Although the second marriage market is very realistic, it is difficult for a woman to meet a satisfactory man in her second marriage, but even the kind of ordinary men who are introduced and known are stronger than this kind of domestic violence.
Women must have zero tolerance for domestic violence, do not think about the past love, do not think about his usual kindness to you, as long as he beats you, then those so-called love points and so-called good are false.
Therefore, once a woman encounters domestic violence, she must file for divorce with the other party at the first time, which is the most correct and the only choice.
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Second: More than two derailments.
Although we advise women not to easily decide to divorce, but in some cases, it is really necessary, after all, some men are really difficult to say, not to say that they can continue to live with a lot of patience.
Especially the kind of men who cheat again and again, this kind of man really doesn't have to put up with it all the time. If this is the case, women can endure to live, then the second half of a woman's life is so sad.
Of course, we do not want to kill all the cheating men in one shot, although the cheating men are hateful, but some situations can still be salvaged, after all, we still have to take into account the reality of the problem. Divorce is not so easy to do, involving family property and children, as well as all kinds of messy problems, the average person, if not really feel that they can't go on, it is estimated that they will not really go to the step of divorce.
Therefore, if the man is only cheating for the first time, and it is still the kind of impulsive infidelity, and it is not long with the woman outside the marriage, and the man is willing to return to the family completely, then this can still try to save it.
As long as the woman grasps the financial power of the family in the days to come, and controls her husband more strictly, that day can still go on, after all, divorced women, it is really difficult to find a satisfactory quality man. No one can guarantee that the second marriage partner will always be loyal to the marriage, and who knows if he will also cheat. And there are many contradictions in the second-married family, instead of living a life without a sense of belonging, it is better to adjust the husband well, and then live a good life with the husband.
Of course, if men are not cheating for the first time, it is habitual cheating, then there is no need to endure it, this kind of habitual offender cannot be changed.
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Third: Extreme irresponsibility.
Marry a man, dress and eat. When a woman marries a man, it takes the man to take on the responsibilities of a family. It is not that men are required to work hard to earn money to support their families, but women can do nothing, but that men must at least have the consciousness of taking care of their families and supporting their families, and they cannot all count on women, but they do nothing and do nothing. This is extremely irresponsible behavior.
Some men are like this, there are still many such men, many women because they can earn money, but also because they think about children, so, even if men are idle every day and do nothing, money is not earned, children do not care, they will endure to live, but this is not a long-term solution after all, time is long, women's hearts must have accumulated too much dissatisfaction, one day will erupt.
Instead of living so stubbornly every day and waiting until the day when it is unbearable, it is better to end this marriage as soon as possible. If a man is extremely irresponsible, then the man is not saved. In the beginning, women can also think of saving it, but if they can't change men, it is better to give up early. A woman marries a man, not to raise one more son, rather than being tied to such a person for a lifetime, and taking care of him when he is old, it is better to quickly divorce and find a responsible man to live a normal married life.
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Although the husband and wife are still the original match, it is generally difficult to find a better partner than the first marriage after divorce, but not all the original matches are good, and not all marriages are worth cherishing.
If the marriage encounters problems of principle, such as domestic violence, more than two infidelities, and extreme irresponsibility, then there is no need for the marriage to continue.
In marriage, there are some things that can be tolerated and can be tolerated by each other, but when it comes to this kind of principled issue, it is absolutely impossible to take a step back. For once you take a step back, you will fall into the abyss.
We Chinese women are always very extreme, a kind of women are extremely conceited, they always have a blind sense of superiority, they are obviously very ordinary, but always feel that they are particularly excellent, always feel that as long as they go out, they will be favored by men. She believes that as long as she divorces, she will definitely be able to find a better man than her husband.
The reality, however, is that divorced women have a hard time finding a quality man who is satisfied, because men with better conditions rarely consider divorced women. Therefore, this type of woman will definitely regret it after impulsive divorce because she is not satisfied with her marriage.
The other kind of woman is extremely inferior, they are obviously fine, but they feel that if they leave this marriage, they will not be able to live. Therefore, they have an extraordinary attachment to marriage. Even if they have encountered domestic violence, encountered frequent cheating by their husbands, even if their husbands are extremely irresponsible, they are not willing to divorce, they always have such and such concerns, so that they can not make up their minds to divorce. And the consequence is that you are either driven crazy by yourself, or after giving everything, you can't bear it and explode.
Therefore, when a woman treats marriage, she should be cautious when she should be cautious, and she should be decisive when she should be decisive, only in this way will women not fail themselves.
Text/Fenghua