Since ancient times, the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been unsolvable, especially when encountering mother-in-law who does not understand things, treats the daughter-in-law as an outsider, and points fingers at the life of the little two, so there are many contradictions.
Especially after living together, bumps and noises are inevitable.
Nowadays, with the living standards and economic conditions getting better and better, young people also try to move out after marriage and live their own small lives.
In this way, both sides are not bothered by the eyes, the distance produces beauty, the daughter-in-law occasionally buys a small gift for the mother-in-law, the other party will be very happy, and the mother-in-law's care will also make the daughter-in-law moved.
It is said that the distance between the two sides between a bowl of soup is the best.
But in fact, in the end, the key point of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lies in the son, if the son has high emotional intelligence, knows how to build a bridge of communication, and maintains the relationship between the mother and the wife, then the family will be very happy.
There is no contradiction between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, the family and everything are happy, happy and harmonious.
But most of the above beautiful scenes exist in the ideal, in reality, many men do not say that they can maintain the relationship between the two women, but it is very good not to destroy.
It may even be the initiator of the damage to the relationship between the two parties.
Cheng Hui in Henan has done such a wrong thing, because his misconduct has caused his mother to fight with his wife and turn against each other.
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Cheng Hui went to persuade his mother to apologize to his wife and invited her back from her mother's house, but as a result, Cheng Hui was furious as soon as she saw her son, and when she came up, she slapped her, and no one could stop her.
So why would Cheng Mu make such a big fire? Cheng Hui has been working abroad, and his wife Haidan has two children in her hometown and lives separately from her mother-in-law.
A few months ago, Haidan complained to Cheng Hui on the phone about what his mother-in-law had done, and his words were quite dissatisfied, and Cheng Hui, angry, sent a text message to his old father to scold them: Why don't you die?
This kind of disrespectful words made the old couple very sad, they thought that they did not help their daughter-in-law on weekdays, but also watched her alone with the two children to work hard, but everyone who could help on weekdays would go over to help her.
I didn't expect my son to treat his parents with such an attitude, but in hindsight, the son of a foreign migrant worker came up with anger, and it must be his daughter-in-law nagging his in-laws in his ear.
In the end, the root of the whole thing lies in his daughter-in-law Haidan.
When the mother-in-law saw this text message, the blood rushed to her brain in an instant, and without saying a word, she rode the tram to her daughter-in-law's house to ask her for clarification.
As soon as she arrived at the courtyard of her daughter-in-law's house, she was prostrating her head and making a fuss, quite a posture of throwing and rolling, and the daughter-in-law saw the situation and quickly pushed her out of the door, asking her not to do this in the courtyard, shame.
Seeing her daughter-in-law pushing and shoving herself, Cheng Mu was even more angry, directly grabbed her daughter-in-law's hair and began to beat, she shouted while hitting, accusing her of obstructing it, instigating Cheng Hui to send that hurtful text message.
Haidan shouted that he was wronged, things were not what his mother-in-law thought, it was purely Cheng Hui's own idea, and after sending that message, Haidan also accused Cheng Hui of not doing this.
But the mother-in-law did not listen to her explanation at all, and the two people beat each other in the courtyard, and this beating, the two sides completely became enemies and became opposites of each other.
Haidan returned to his mother's house in a huff and wanted to divorce Cheng Hui.
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Cheng Hui knew that he had done something wrong, and considering his two children, he refused to divorce.
Therefore, Haidan offered to let her mother-in-law come to her mother's house to ask her to go back and apologize to her, otherwise the matter of going home would not be discussed.
This can make Cheng Hui feel worried, his mother has always been strong, and he and his daughter-in-law are sworn enemies, this thing will definitely not be realized.
So he asked the media to help him persuade his mother.
Who knew that just after arriving home, As soon as Cheng Mu saw him, she was angry and slapped him, which Cheng Hui did not expect.
But after fighting, the matter still has to be solved, and the family sits down to discuss how to solve this matter.
At the beginning, Cheng Mu made it clear that she would not ask her daughter-in-law to come back, and the daughter-in-law first pushed and shoved her to cause her to return her hand, if because of this matter the two want to divorce, then she does not matter, leave.
For this son, he was also discouraged.
Whether it is left or not, it depends on her son's ability, and she will not give in the slightest anyway.
The words were very desperate, but when she was sad, she still couldn't help but cry, thinking that this son was raised in vain.
But no matter what the son did wrong, the love between mother and son was still there, and under the persuasion of others, Cheng Mu reluctantly agreed to go to her relatives' house to find Haidan to mediate.
But there was an accident when I walked to the top of the stairs.
Because of this incident for a long time, Cheng Mu has been depressed and in a bad mood, resulting in physical health problems, coupled with the excitement just now, blood pressure rises, squatting in the stairwell and crying bitterly.
Seeing this scene, everyone suggested that she calm her emotions first, and let Cheng Hui and her father go to her own home to do Haidan's work.
When she got there, Haidan also cried bitterly, she cried that it was too difficult to be someone else's daughter-in-law, bluntly said that her mother-in-law was too strong, and she had to look at her face when she spoke and did things, which was quite depressed.
Originally, it was not easy to bring two children at home, the husband was not around, and any problems could not be solved in time, and it was really painful to have such a strong mother-in-law.
This time, the mother-in-law did not say a word, and came up and dragged her hair to beat, which brought great harm to her body and psychology.
The father-in-law on the side quickly apologized for his mother-in-law and promised that such a thing would never happen again.
But Haidan did not accept it, and she proposed a condition for her father-in-law to take out 100,000 yuan as compensation.
Haidan explained that this was not to blackmail them for money, but to teach her mother-in-law a lesson so that she would not dare to come to her house like this in the future.
But their family just bought a house, where can they get the money? Hearing that the father-in-law said that he could not pay the bill, Haidan immediately got up and left, refusing to continue to mediate and communicate, which made the father-in-law embarrassed.
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In this matter, Hai Dan's family also advised her daughter to think about it, but on the other hand, she saw that her daughter was wronged and was distressed.
But from the perspective of the elderly, they hope that each other can be more tolerant, more responsible, more tolerant, more understanding.
To tell the truth, the father-in-law and the mother-in-law are quite reasonable people, but why does the mother-in-law have so many opinions about the daughter-in-law?
Speaking of this, the mother-in-law revealed the dissatisfaction accumulated in her heart, she said that her daughter-in-law often scolded him on the short video platform, saying "She doesn't know what to do, she won't care about her when she's old, don't serve her" and so on.
The mediator also watched the relevant video sent by Haidan, and indeed scolded it more ugly.
It is precisely because of this that the mother-in-law has a great opinion on the daughter-in-law, and these negative emotions slowly accumulate on weekdays, and finally broke out on that day.
But from the perspective of her daughter-in-law, Haidan thinks that her mother-in-law does too much in her daily life, and she is angry before scolding her on the short video platform.
For her daughter to make such a move, her mother also felt inappropriate after reading it, and she felt that it would make things bigger and unwise.
It is said that the family is ugly, the daughter does this, in exchange for who will be very angry, there are problems can be clearly explained in person, if the other party does not change, then directly away, there is no need to use this way.
Sometimes even their little two quarrels, but also the anger of the mother-in-law, so it is even more wrong.
The mother said that she was also a mother-in-law, and if her daughter-in-law did this to herself, she would also feel uncomfortable, complain, and inevitably have dissatisfaction.
In the end, there are problems with the practices of both of them, but the root cause is that Cheng Hui did not do a good job in the role of "son".
From the text message sent by the son to the father, you can see that his emotional intelligence is low, do not ask the parents under the blue and red, the mother-in-law contradiction to this point, but also his credit.
But then again, many men are weak in their ability to handle the relationship between mother and wife, and they can change it if they are wrong.
In the end, Cheng Hui also realized his mistake and should not use excessive language to hurt his parents, he said that he would honor his parents and in-laws in the future.
In the extended family, the relationship between husband and wife ranks first, but the relationship with the parents cannot be ignored.
Marriage is a practice, a little more understanding and tolerance, more empathetic thinking, will make you quicker to understand the true meaning of life, too shrewd and strong may eventually lose more.
You may wish to let a little, endure a little, and be precious, treat yourself well and treat each other kindly.