I have read such a passage: "I have never been firmly chosen by a person, and I hope that the person I meet in the future is moved because I am the person he likes." Not a person who weighs the pros and cons and makes a trade-off that feels good. ”
When I saw this sentence, I thought that was probably why men and women preferred to miss it in those days and not take the initiative! Therefore, in fact, contemporary young people are not willing to miss it, but also do not take the initiative. It's just that the reason he doesn't take the initiative is that he doesn't like you. That's why he doesn't take the initiative.
Therefore, it is not that Ning Yun missed out and did not take the initiative, but that you are not the person I like, I do not want to take the initiative, I believe you must have experienced such a situation.
Stay up late until late just to see each other's circle of friends over and over again, holding the phone and not letting go, just to wait for someone to reply to you with a "good night".
So, it's not that we'd rather miss out than take the initiative. We will also take the initiative, meet people we like, and will also take the initiative to come forward, but everyone has a different meaning for your initiative.
It's as if you're in love with someone and you're actively approaching him. Know him, but the other party has not replied to you, you feel that you have worked so hard for so long, you are him, you like he has become something that everyone knows, but he does not know.
So you will give up, but you have taken ninety-nine steps toward him, but it seems that you have not taken a single step in him, so you give up. In the end, the other party said how you can't stick to it at all, how you don't take the initiative at all.
But obviously I have taken the initiative, but I can't get a response. So in waiting and disappointing again and again, you understand that it is not that the other party does not take the initiative, but that you are not the one who lets the other party take the initiative.
Therefore, contemporary young people are not willing to miss or take the initiative, but the initiative of others is sometimes invisible to you. So the initiative is more, get less response, people who take the initiative for a long time, people will be tired.
But even so, we still have not lost the pursuit of happiness, so contemporary young people are not willing to miss, not take the initiative, even if they have been hurt before, but when they meet the people they like, they will still take the initiative.
I remember reading such a book, "Maggie's Gift." This book is the story of a poor couple.
Jim is an ordinary little clerk with a busy job and a small salary. Della, on the other hand, was doing the housework day after day, taking care of the family. She never wanted to dress herself up, nor did she have beautiful jewelry.
But even then they will still show their love for each other. There is such a plot in the book. At one of the festivals, Della wants to buy Jim a bracelet worthy of Jim's ancestral gold watch. So she cut back on food and clothing, and even sold her hair. So I bought Jim a bracelet.
What she didn't know was that Jim had sold the gold watch and she had bought the beautiful hairpin she had dreamed of. Although the last two people's elaborate surprises, each did not come in handy. But the two people did not complain to each other because of this, but looked at each other and smiled.
Because they know that a good relationship does not necessarily require expensive gifts, as long as the hearts of two people can be for each other, then the relationship is good. Feelings are two people running in both directions.
I remember reading such a line: "There are two kinds of people in the world, some people can easily fall in love with a person, and then very casually do not love, and there is another kind of person who will not fall in love casually, but they can't let go if they fall in love." ”
In fact, this sentence also shows one thing, it is not that we would rather miss it than take the initiative. It's just that we have requirements for feelings, and if it's someone we like, like Jim and Della, even if they are not materially rich, they can still be very happy.
Because feelings are two people's affairs, when two people take the initiative at the same time, you take the initiative and I also take the initiative, then our story will come, so it is not that contemporary young people would rather miss it than take the initiative, but contemporary young people have their own understanding of their feelings. Their inaction is just someone else's definition.
After all, it's not that they haven't been in love. It's just that they're waiting for someone they like, someone who can be favored. If you meet them, you will definitely take the initiative. Because they know that only by taking the initiative can there be hope. So do you think that contemporary young people really prefer to miss rather than take the initiative?
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