Raising children with high emotional intelligence is more important than IQ education

"Cultivating children with high emotional intelligence is more important than IQ education"

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In previous years, a large survey of employees of Fortune Global 500 companies was conducted. What are the main factors that affect the results of the work? The conclusion is startling: EQ and IQ are very important regardless of industry. Career achievement has an impact, but the impact ratio is IQ: emotional intelligence = 1:2; the further you go to the top of the company, the greater the gap between this effect, and even reach IQ: emotional intelligence = 1:6...

It can be seen that for parents, in addition to paying attention to their children's studies, there is also an indispensable one is family education, and emotional intelligence education is even more important than IQ education.

How to raise children with high emotional intelligence?

First, help your child understand their emotions.

The most basic skill of the EQ master is to perceive a person's emotional state and quickly understand the current emotion. So, in such a situation, parents first need to help their children recognize their emotional situation: "So aren't you happy?" "Then do you have any grievances?"

There are two benefits to making children aware of their emotional state.

First, the child can understand that the next step is to deal with his own emotions, not "others" . In other words, what you really need to do now is not to find someone else's theory, because you feel wronged, and to realize that the real problem is your own emotional response, then the next step is to try to regulate your own behavior. Emotions and appropriate reactions?

Second, children can learn empathy. This time, I was beaten and felt very uncomfortable. I'll know in a moment. If I beat other people, they would feel the same way. From the perspective of EQ education, this is a very instructive approach.

Second, help your child develop negative emotion management skills.

Parents can encourage their children to develop good interests and hobbies to help them relieve stress. Psychological research has shown that exercise is one of the best ways to reduce stress. Exercise for more than 20 minutes in a row can stimulate the secretion of endorphins in the brain, which plays a physiological role in reducing stress.

The third is to help children build confidence.

Self-confidence is the foundation of emotional intelligence. Confident children can still calmly resist setbacks and pressures in the face of vicious attacks from others, and can get along well with others.

How can parents cultivate their children's self-confidence?

In fact, parents' evaluation of their children will directly affect their self-confidence. If parents are often criticized and not praised, they unconsciously create their children's poor self-image.

Therefore, it is recommended that parents sit down and write down the advantages of their children's popularity. This advantage does not lie in children comparing themselves to others, but in their own personality traits, such as: caring and courteous... Not always based on comparison. If you can encourage and affirm the child more, give the child enough self-confidence, emotional intelligence will be greatly improved.

The fourth is to cultivate children's optimistic and positive attitude.

Psychological research has found that as long as children have a positive view of themselves and remain optimistic about the future, parents can rest assured that their children are not far from happiness in life.

An important manifestation of helpfulness is knowing how to treat things positively.

Once, a kid I knew criticized his historical performances. He is not addicted in public. Instead, he smiled and said, "Fortunately, the teacher criticized me for the worst class." He criticized the discipline and made me worse..." That optimism is really good, if I can be the best person I can be."

To make children understand the benefits of things, parents should often use positive questions to stimulate their children's thinking, such as: "This new classmate, what do you think he has strengths?" When encountering setbacks, parents should not say: "What happened to you today, you behaved badly." Instead, you can say something like, "This time, you may be disappointed in yourself, do you think there's anything you can approve of?" In this way, the child can avoid being disturbed by negative emotions and can find a motivation to motivate themselves.

Fifth, cultivate children's interpersonal skills.

Kids today are just kids, so parents should give them more opportunities to go home and play, learn, and spend important moments in their lives (like birthdays). When children participate in group activities, parents should pay attention to emotional intelligence, and when interacting with people, pay attention to observe whether children actively talk to others. Or is he shy and doesn't speak? When others talk to him, how does he respond? What should he do when he clashes with others?

Children should also be encouraged to learn to share. Some parents just want their children to be the center of the party, but they miss the opportunity to develop their children's communication skills. Parents with very high EQ encourage their children to say hello to others and share their stuff with their friends.

At the same time, don't forget to encourage your child to actively help others, which is a big feature of teamwork. Parents should encourage their children to observe the needs of others, take the initiative to help, and give their children praise in a timely manner, so as to cultivate their children's teamwork and collaboration skills. In the future, work and life will be of great benefit.

Before the age of 14.15 is an important period for the formation and development of emotional intelligence ability. If parents can actively guide their children to EQ and cultivate their good EQ, it can greatly improve their psychological immunity, enable them to cope with difficulties and challenges in learning and life, and enable them to control beautiful things. Coexist with joy.