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In today's high divorce rate, young couples have higher and higher requirements for the quality of marriage, and divorce is no longer a hidden and unseen thing, but has become a common phenomenon in society.
Divorce is bound to hurt the child, this is beyond doubt, but if two people who no longer love each other will live on their lives, they will also let the child live in a family without love all day, or even a family that quarrels every day, which may not be a harm to the child.
Bao Mom asked: After pregnancy, I found that I couldn't go on, did I stop the loss in time or continue to stop it?
Recently, Tuanzi's mother saw a netizen post on the Internet, saying that after she became pregnant, she found that she and her husband could not go on and wanted to divorce, but because of the baby in the belly, they are now a miscarriage decisive stop loss, or look at the face of the child, will it go on?
Or is it choosing to live alone with children, but just not knowing that life is easy for a single mother?
For the question of the expectant mother, netizens also gave different opinions.
Some people think that many couples are good before marriage, and after pregnancy, there are problems, and many problems that they think can't stand at the time do not seem to be nothing after many years, so as long as it is not a mistake in principle, it is still necessary to carefully consider the issue of divorce.
Of course, some people think that since they find that marriage cannot continue, it is best to stop the loss in time, and if they have no ability, then it is best not to give birth to a child; the life of a single mother is very difficult, both to be a full-time mother and raise a child, which is very hard.
Some netizens also believe that if it is decided to keep the child, then it is necessary to live a good life and leave, if it is determined to leave, then the child should not stay.
After becoming pregnant and finding that life is not satisfactory, will you choose to divorce or will you just live?
In fact, no matter what kind of family in life, there will be such or such trivialities, especially after having children at home, it will increase contradictions because of children's problems. So if you don't live a satisfactory life after pregnancy, should you divorce or will you just live on it?
In fact, how to choose, or to determine the situation:
Scenario 1:
If it is just unsatisfactory life, it has little to do with the feelings of two people, the feelings have not reached the point of rupture and irreparability, plus both people have children, then do not divorce easily.
Scenario 2:
If it is because two people have no feelings and have developed to the point of rupture and irreparability, then it is wrong to be wrong again, and divorce is the wisest at this time.
Scenario three:
If it is because the two sides have differences in temperament, high and low in cultural attainment, less common language, and lack of normal communication, which causes unsatisfactory life, these are irreconcilable problems.
If it is an irreconcilable issue and the two sides have reached the point of irreconcilability, it is better to separate.
And for the problem of the child's going to stay in the stomach after separation. In fact, in the long run, timely stop loss is the most sensible, although such a practice looks cruel to many people, but in life, there are too many problems that need to be a single mother, if you do not have high economic ability, do not think about it.
Deciding the issue of retention in a woman's marriage has never been a child, but a relationship between husband and wife
If there is a child, whether it is still pregnant or the child has been born, the parents must be responsible for the child, regardless of whether the couple has feelings or not, they must be taken seriously, after all, the child is innocent.
Therefore, in life, many couples will live for the sake of their children, seemingly for the sake of a complete family for their children, but it is only a superficial happiness, and the two people look like they are separated from each other, which will bring more harm to the children.
Discordant families will distract children's attention and affect academic performance; discordant families will make children not know how to care for others and cannot adapt to the cooperative relationship between people; discordant families will make children form inferiority and irritable personalities; discordant families will make children not believe in the opposite sex, affecting the child's future marriage and family.
Don't think that the child doesn't understand anything, in fact, the parents' feelings are good or not, the child can see it. In fact, whether parents divorce or not for the sake of their children is not a problem in itself.
Divorce is a thing mixed with a lot of complicated factors, children are only one of them, what adults have to do is to measure the reasons for the failure of their marriage, otherwise even remarriage will not solve the problem, whether it is divorce or not divorce, children should not be the decisive factor.
Tuanzi Mama wants to say:
Many facts have proved that love and marriage need to be cautious and have always been empty words. Husband and wife can not survive, only I know. Don't leave because of the impulse, but if you really can't get by, you should also stop the loss in time.
Today's topic: Do you think that after having children, the days will not go on, is it a stop loss or will be?