Behind most rebellious children, there will be a mother who is overly controlling.
From the birth of the baby, the connection with the mother begins, after all, in the process of breastfeeding, it is the best time for the child and the mother to cultivate feelings. Even in the future, when I am growing up, my mother's company is getting less and less, but the good times will not be forgotten.
A few critical moments when the relationship between mother and child warms up
When breastfeeding
When babies are born, their vision is very limited, and before three months they had a visual distance of only about 25 centimeters, and his world was also black and white.
However, this distance is also very sufficient for feelings with your mother. Because when his mother breastfed him, the eye distance between the two people was just about 25 centimeters.
In this way, even if the child can't see everything in the outside world, he can see his mother. Moreover, you can really feel the full body temperature and the smell of your mother, which creates a special dependency relationship.
Separation anxiety developed at age 1
One year old is an important turning point in the baby's growth, at the age of one year to begin to learn to walk, talk, think and develop, especially in the face of raw people, will make them have a very anxious mood, that is, the so-called separation anxiety.
Although such a situation will make many mothers feel very headaches, they feel that their children cannot be separated from themselves for 1 minute, and they have no private space at all. But it is precisely because of this performance that the mother will be informed that the child is developing rapidly.
And most children choose to be attached to their own mothers. After all, from birth, my mother has been by her side with her. Although Mom is the most important person in her own life, there is no one.
Role recognition at the age of 2
When children grow up to be two years old, they also enter a sensitive period of role cognition, and have a strong interest in the role play of family members, which is also a key period for the father role to come in handy.
But even so, not all fathers can understand this truth, take time to accompany their children, and guide their children's growth. In this way, the child will rely more on the mother, and how the mother explains to the child is very testing.
At this time, the mother must pay attention to her attitude and description of the father, once the personal color and denigration of the father, the child's heart will also be very negatively affected.
Mothers who are too controlling will let their children form three major problem psychology, resulting in lifelong impact
Because the mother's personality is different, the guidance and intervention made to the child are also completely different, and some mothers' guidance is like a gentle spring rain, gentle but lasting. Some mother-in-law guidance is like a rain of bullets, fierce but short-lived.
For different mothers' behavior, we can't tell who is right and who is wrong, and how is the most correct way to guide, but we can be sure without question that control and excessive behavior must not be!
Become a mother treasure, without your own ideas and judgment
Nowadays, more and more children have become mothers, if girls are not much criticized, but if they are boys, it is difficult to raise their heads, and people around them will throw strange eyes at him.
After becoming a mother treasure, the child's life will become very gray, although his mother will not hurt himself, but his life has become what his mother wants, will he really not leave regrets?
Moreover, having become accustomed to the mother controlling her own life and making decisions for herself, these mothers will not have any doubts and doubts, but feel accustomed to it, which is normal.
Timid and cowardly, it is easy to become a victim of school bullying
If the mother's personality is too strong, always vigorously commanding the child, the child will choose to stop thinking because he is afraid that his mother will reprimand him, anyway, his resistance is ineffective, there is no need to resist.
In addition, some children will think that they are always used to sitting and enjoying their success, and their mothers will help themselves to complete the relevant requirements anyway, so that they can save a lot of effort, and even their brains do not have to move.
Generate a flattering personality
Such a child will be higher in emotional intelligence than the two children above, but it will become a flattering personality, and on the surface there is no disadvantage, in fact, the child's heart is full of holes.
Children always behave in order to cater to other people's preferences and ideas, and over time they will be labeled as hypocritical. And think that if you are used to covering yourself up, the happiness index of life will be very low.
Today's summary:
If your child becomes a mother, how will you guide him? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!