| Rice grain mom
A few days ago, My mother watched a video of 3 girls in the same dormitory at Peking University, 10 years after graduation, sitting together and chatting.
They talked about their respective savings at the age of 30, the changes in the 10 years since graduation, the troughs of everyone's life, life choices, and what kind of life situation different choices point to, and of course, what Peking University has brought to them.
The 20-minute video, after watching the feeling of the rice grain mother is very comfortable. Proud but not arrogant, positive and not anxious, gentle and powerful, authentic, calm, and self-consistent.
Therefore, why does the rice grain mother often tell everyone that she must lift hard within the scope of her ability, and let the child study hard and strive to enter a good university? Maybe that's the answer.
The economic base determines the superstructure
Let's start with a bit of a cheesy one.
The bank card deposits of the three girls when they were 30 years old were: 7 digits, 7 digits and 7 digits.
Whether a person is excellent or not, the ability to make money is of course only one aspect, but it is the most real and direct in the evaluation system.
As we all know, The rice grain mother has been chasing a workplace variety show in the past two years, called "Heartwarming Offer", from lawyers to medical students, learning to bully is like a fairy fight, too good-looking.
When watching the second season, I wrote an article "Because I was not a graduate of a famous school, was Ding Hui wronged?" 》。
When a lawyer from a top law firm was interviewed, when he heard an intern, Wang Xiao, graduate from Stanford, his first reaction was: "This is the person we want." ”
And another intern, Ding Hui, an ordinary second book, a sales change, and an older naked resignation, although he later took the Fa Shuo of East China Political Science and Law, after all, he was a "halfway out of the house". During the interview, I was questioned in every way. Less than half of the internship period, he was eliminated.
That's the reality of the workplace.
Speaking of three Peking University girls:
After graduating from Peking University, he went to Hong Kong for graduate school, returned to Beijing to enter the media industry, and then joined a startup;
Jiajia, after graduating from Peking University, went to the UK for graduate school, has been working overseas, and later joined a domestic entrepreneurial team to explore overseas markets.
In the middle school, Peking University graduated from the university to study for a master's degree, gave up a doctorate in the fourth year, graduated with a master's degree, won the iron rice bowl, and then resigned to join the entrepreneurial team.
Rice mama is not saying that a good school necessarily equals a good job, but it is first and foremost a stepping stone.
More importantly, a good university can cultivate a person more comprehensively from different dimensions, construct a person, and give them the ability to match and take on a good job.
Life goes on and on and on
Three Peking University girls Xi Xi, Jia Jia and Shi Zhong, the undergraduate majors are: liberal arts experimental class to journalism, science experimental class to political philosophy and economic direction, law school to Chinese department.
Rice's mother found that being admitted to Peking University was not the end of their lives, and from the moment they stepped into the university door, they had been looking, exploring, and adjusting their direction until they found a path that suited them.
When they graduated, all three of them went to graduate school, and although they were in different fields and different industries, they all eventually joined the entrepreneurial team.
Dare to toss, is the foundation brought to them by Peking University.
On the one hand, it is the source of self-confidence.
That is, when you encounter difficult things in your life, you can say to yourself: I can pass the peking university, and I can probably get it done.
The other is the belief in making yourself better and better.
Probably all Peking University people have to face a difficult problem: if my life is now only left with "Peking University" this thing can be said, this is the biggest failure in life.
They will eventually reconcile with themselves, but they will not give up their efforts and give up the possibility of making themselves better.
Stanley, the best buddy of Melee Dad's college days, grew up with the goal of getting into "Morgan Stanley" (Morgan Stanley). For four years in college, he copied several Wall Street Journal articles every day. One is to familiarize yourself with the financial markets, and the other is to practice writing in English.
He did it: read an article first, then buckle it and write it in his own words. Then compare it again, buckle it again, and write it blindly again. Until it is almost the same as the original wording.
He insisted on this habit for four years, which made me and My rice grain father admire me to the ground.
A few years ago, he resigned from Goldman Sachs and joined the largest private equity firm in the United States, becoming the youngest partner and the only Asian face in management, with an annual salary of several million dollars.
His American colleagues, who needed to write articles, asked him to write them. (Native Americans, English writing is not as good as Chinese students who went to the United States after graduating from high school)
It is precisely because of the four years of college, day after day of hard work, that there is enough confidence in the pursuit of career and the realization of ideals.
Like we often say, you have to work really hard to look effortless
What kind of school was chosen
It also chooses what kind of people to walk with
What kind of school you enter, which means what kind of people you will walk with, especially in your teens and twenties, the construction of that outlook on life and values is very important.
When the 3 Peking University girls talked about Peking University, they said that the teachers they had seen in the university and the classes they had taken were not the kind of immediate results that they could get immediately, but it would become a magnet in your life, and this magnet would slowly sail in that direction on the distant coastline, pulling your directionless ship slowly.
In this atmosphere, everyone around you will bring you some influence and change to a greater or lesser extent.
In a good school, surrounded by teachers and professors at the level of big cattle, and the students around them all have shining qualities in one or many aspects, these are the nutrients that our children can absorb.
Jiajia is the most thoughtful person in the world, the most able to maintain a rational and sober attitude to face and examine life;
Xi Xi also said that her personality construction comes from Peking University, and the template of this construction is Jiajia, she will graft the shining points on Jiajia to herself, and then infinitely enlarge, only to achieve her current self.
This kind of positive influence and role between people, in the soil of a good school, is more likely to breed and spread, Xi Xi and the world for Jia jia, why not part of the construction of life outlook and world view?
Old fans all know that the rice grain mother yin and yang mistakenly stepped into the famous X Big Annex Middle School in Haidian District. At the age of twelve or thirteen, everyone lives on campus, and the influence between roommates is the most direct.
The bully girl who slept in my bed, loved the history of World War II, and dreamed of being admitted to the "West Point Military Academy" in the United States.
I asked why? She told me that in addition to producing the most generals in the United States (MacArthur, Eisenhower, General Patton...). It has also cultivated more than 1,000 former chairmen, more than 2,000 vice chairmen, and more than 5,000 former CEOs in the Fortune 500. No business school in the United States has produced so many management elites.
(▲United States Military Academy at West Point)
I was deeply amazed by her vision, insight and dreams. So, I changed my dream from "being a white-collar worker" to "admitted to West Point", you see, how much influence between children.
Later, although she did not really go to the West Point examination, in the process of pursuing this dream, the rice grain mother followed the girl in the bed, read more than a dozen detailed histories of World War II, and watched a lot of World War II documentaries (although now they are almost forgotten).
For the physical requirements of the military school, we both worked very hard to exercise, running 1200 meters every day, jumping hundreds of steps, 100 sit-ups... We also worked hard to learn English for the sake of our dream of studying abroad.
From the worst English student in the first class of junior high school, I worked hard, recited a new concept three every day, and also used the winter and summer vacations to read the old friends almost 10 times.
Good schools change the way you see the world
When the 3 Peking University girls evaluated each other, they said that they were the kindest people she knew in the world, the kind of kind elites, and the most stable people that this society could rely on.
Many times, the more people who come out of a good school, the more humble they are, this is not a pretense, but in a good school, together with excellent people, it will change the way you see the world.
Your pattern and vision are open, and when you look at a thing, you can start from many dimensions, consider it more comprehensively, and be more inclusive and respectful of other people and other things.
Before I went to college in China for a year, I felt that being motivated = examining. Senior sister told me, no matter what it is, go to the test! You are from Beijing, and you also have to take the Mandarin test! In short, one more certificate is better than one less certificate. Except for research, there seems to be no way to become better.
At that time, I was full of "good study" - every course was A+, got a near-perfect GPA and a shiny GRE, got recommendation letters from professors, applied for graduate school in cattle schools, and then went to Wall Street or Silicon Valley to find a glamorous job... All in all, be an exquisite egoist
Later, I transferred to the United States and encountered many changes, no, teachers and classmates who subverted my outlook on life and values.
A ph.D. senior, from a poor background, saw that the American university library sold tons of 1 cent old books (in fact, it was a free gift), and in his poor hometown, the left-behind children were so poor that they did not have books to read at all.
He set up a public welfare organization to help rural children read, hundreds of international students went to the countryside every year to support teaching, and also established primary school libraries for many poor villages, helping thousands of rural children.
A senior who was one level higher than me, because it was inconvenient for him to call his parents in China, founded the top three Chinese calling card websites in the United States. He was only a junior in college and had millions of dollars a month in revenue. We use his calling card platform to contact family and friends in China, which is convenient and saves money.
There are many more students, because it is inconvenient to buy Chinese ingredients (mushrooms, vermicelli, fennel, peppercorns, these American supermarkets are not available), and have created Chinese supermarkets (now a large chain supermarket chain in more than a dozen states in the United States!). ）
Because I wanted to eat a taste of my hometown too much, I opened an authentic Chinese restaurant; because I often used to be a "local companion" of domestic relatives and friends to come to the United States, I opened a large-scale travel agency chain in the United States... Some students, who are also studying undergraduates, not only earn their own tuition living expenses (American tuition fees are 300,000 a year!). ), and can also subsidize the family, it is really cattle.
After being deeply shocked, I began to think, not just to be a refined egoist, to change the world, to help and influence more people.
Step by step
Accept the hard-working and ordinary self
Among the 3 female students in Peking University, the world seems to be a very capable "toss", from the first law school to the Chinese department, is still in the top 5 in the department, a proper fighter in the school.
After graduation, she originally studied for a master's degree at Peking University, but in the fourth year, she gave up her doctorate and graduated as a master's degree and worked.
She said that she has always felt that talent is important to a person, and she does not seem to have the "talent" to do academics.
But now that she looks back, talent and talent are less important.
She had firmly believed that talent is a pair of wings, and you can only fly to the other end of the mountain if you insert it. But it's not. You walk through the mountain step by step, you just have to walk forward with your head down.
In our opinion, the players who have been "talented" have met better partners and stronger opponents, and they have begun to slowly release their feelings and accept themselves calmly: just try to move forward.
For us ordinary people, why not?
Of the 7.5 billion people in the world, perhaps only 10,000 are standing at the top of the pyramid? 1000 people? Even 100 people.
But not being able to climb the spire does not prevent us from trying to climb up, stand in a higher position, and see more beautiful scenery.
Even grains of rice from happy planets have questioned whether they are not smart enough because they can't understand or can't do a math extension problem.
I believe that such things happen to countless children every day. The running speed is always so slow, the song can't be played well, the composition never knows what to write...
But I will tell the grain of rice very solemnly: If life is a marathon, you are not even out of the community door now, do not rush to deny yourself. In the future, you will slowly find that you will have more powerless things and more highlight moments in life.
Tell your child: As long as you try to move forward, you may not be able to change the world in the end, but you can definitely change yourself. Building a "me" that satisfies you is more important than anything else.
A good school not only has good resources and good teachers, but more importantly, what kind of peers our children grow up with, they will most likely become what kind of people.
In good schools, you will see that those who are smarter than us, who are more talented than us, who work as hard as we do, even harder than us, you will understand the meaning and value of hard work.
Many years later, when we look back at our efforts, we will find that we have become strong enough and good enough compared with our past selves.
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