Since the beginning of 2022, the marriage drama has been continuously staged on various platforms, from "Two Conjectures of Marriage" to "Our Marriage", with the operation of the male and female protagonists "up" and "down", busy hot search, tired audience.
However, as soon as haiqing and Tong Yao starred in "Heart Residence", it grabbed the hot topic at the first time, yes, this family drama that focuses on a series of hot topics such as "house", "long marriage", "female value" and so on, every detail can touch the heartstrings of the audience.
And the sister-in-law war between Haiqing and Tong Yao, two powerful actors, has attracted wave after wave of melon-eating masses.
Although the character setting in the play is "ordinary rich man" and there is some distance from life, the contradictions presented in the play are extremely realistic.
As stated in it, the marriages are very representative, that is, the marriage in the play, and it is also our real marriage.
When a woman marries high, is she scheming?
Feng Xiaoqin is gao married, at least in the eyes of the Gu family, she is the son of Gao Pan's own family.
Although Feng Xiaoqin is very capable, in the past few years, she has taken care of the elderly and children in the family without complaint, so that the happy life of the Gu family and the fourth generation of the family has been carried out in an orderly and rational manner.
But she is "high climbing"!
The people of the Gu family naturally enjoyed her efforts, a dish was not done well, or complained, while carefully embankmenting Feng Xiaoqin.
Only because Feng Xiaoqin is "highly married", even if her husband Gu Lei is a man who does not seek progress, that is what Feng Xiaoqin wants with all his "heart".
Because Gu Lei is a local, the family conditions are good, there is a retired father of a teacher, and there is a sister who has a million commissions. As for Feng Xiaoqin, she has no academic qualifications and no ability, as well as her sister who lives at home and a "younger brother" whose blood is unknown.
Therefore, no matter what Feng Xiaoqin does for this family, she will feel that she has ulterior motives.
Until she wanted to own her own house, she asked her husband to ask her sister to borrow money, but accidentally heard the other party analyze her "heart".
At this moment, Feng Xiaoqin understood that it was better to take care of the family with a mind, although it would be difficult and bitter, but there was real money in hand.
When Feng Xiaoqin's husband died, in order not to reach out for money, Feng Xiaoqin inadvertently showed a series of talents when she went out to find a job, and many viewers left doubts in the bullet screen:
"If you are so capable, why didn't you go out to work in the first place?"
This is the common disease that the highly married "Feng Xiaoqin" will make, thinking that the husband's family conditions are good, instead of going out to work, it is better to deal with the relationship between the family, and you can get what you want.
But I didn't think that the more you didn't work hard, the more the other party would feel that you were marrying into this family and had a plan.
On the contrary, if you constantly improve yourself and improve yourself, if you don't want anything from them, you will also get along as equals, so that it is easier to take off the hat of "heart machine" and "high marriage" and become a real family member.
Just like the marriage of Guo Jingjing and Huo Qigang, the two people have their own aura, even if the man's value is not cheap, there is no so-called "high marriage", and the family gets along very well.
Marrying someone is just to give yourself a new platform, a new starting point, to reach the end of what you want to go, you still need your own efforts, otherwise, "high marriage", just like standing in a circle that can't be integrated, physically and mentally tired.
If a woman marries low, is it worthless?
If Feng Xiaoqin's encounter is because she has a plan for the conditions of the other party when she marries, then ge Yue, who is lowly married, can be said to be pure love for her husband Gu Xin.
But Ge Yue's marriage was not without much happiness.
Before Gu Xin fell in love with Ge Yue, he had a girlfriend Sun Qi who had been running for ten years, but in the face of Ge Yue's father's status as the director, Gu Xin decisively dumped Sun Qi and walked with Ge Yue.
Ge Yue has lived a superior life since childhood, and her parents are also very fond of her, which makes Ge Yue have an absolutely simple nature.
Ge Yue's father, who is scheming in his career, will naturally not be as simple as Ge Yue's marriage for his daughter. He was well aware of Gu Xin's psychology, but he did not care, he believed that as long as he gave Gu Xin a little benefit, he could control Gu Xin in the palm of his hand and ensure the happiness of his daughter's marriage.
It's just that he didn't expect that the end of his career would come so quickly, and Gu Xin's true face would be exposed so early.
After the Accident of the Gu Family, Gu Xin and Gu Xin's family did not bring comfort to Ge Yue, but began to "fall into the well":
Gu Xin secretly blamed the Gu family in his heart for tiring his career and no longer had patience with his mother-in-law's words;
Gu Xin's mother began to make requests consciously or unconsciously, and her speech was even more unguarded, regardless of Ge Yue's feelings, even if she was pregnant.
When Ge Yue wanted to marry Gu Xin, Ge Yue's mother felt that she was married, and her heart was not satisfied, but she also obeyed her daughter's wishes, from the house to the wedding banquet, and paid most of the money, but Gu Xin's family was not grateful, Gu Xin felt that this was an ancillary benefit of marrying the daughter of the director, and Gu Xin's mother felt that her son had been abducted.
There are many such things in life, girls do not seek materials for feelings, some in-laws do not mention the girl's understanding, only that their son has the ability; even the more the girl subsidies, the more they will pick the girl's thorn, feel that there must be a "hidden disease", will be so on the catch upside down.
This is the weak thinking, but also human nature, if you are at the crossroads of marriage, choose "low marriage", then you must be prepared to deal with it.
First of all, be sure to ensure the character of the other person. Only if the character is reliable, no matter what the reason the two people are together, they can ensure that they can watch over each other in the days to come.
Just like Ge Yue, if she valued her character when choosing Gu Xin, then when the disaster came, there would not be so many grievances.
Life is long, it is impossible to always be smooth, even if it is a "low marriage", you must think of danger in peace. Ge Yue's marriage tragedy stems from simplicity and also from her father's overconfidence.
If he had taught Ge Yue to distinguish between people's hearts earlier, he would not have hastily entered into marriage with Gu Xin, and if he valued character, he would not have decided to use power to preserve his daughter's happiness.
Being strong is the best
In fact, whether it is high or low marriage, only if you are strong, you are really married.
Just like Gu Qingyu.
In "Heart Residence", Gu Qingyu also has many unpleasant behaviors, such as always being hostile and defensive to his sister-in-law, and always interfering in his brother's married life.
But I also have to admit that Gu Qingyu's life is the envy of most women, whether it is before or after marriage.
Before marriage, her work and life are exquisite and smooth, and she occasionally has emotional problems, but it will not affect the order of life;
After marriage, although the mother-in-law has a stalk in her heart, she does not care, looking at the face of her husband Shi Yuan, she will go to her in-laws' house from time to time to show goodwill and show her position.
Even if the mother-in-law wanted to provoke her, she would laugh it off, not to seek perfection, but not to care. Not in a head-on conflict, just because she cares more about her husband's opinion.
Compared with Feng Xiaoqin and Ge Yue's patience in front of their in-laws' families, this correspondence is higher.
It is also at this time that everyone no longer pays attention to whether Gu Qingyu is highly married or low-married, and will only lament her "ability" and "high emotional intelligence". It can be seen that being strong is the key to happiness.
Strong, not strong, not incompatible with the in-laws; strong, from the heart, let go of the "waiting" and "relying" heart, you can fight a smooth marriage road.
Coincidentally, the two roles of Zhang Daniang played by actor Wu Xiaoyu in "Knowing or Not" and Xu Jingli in "The Little Woman Under the Gate of Zhengyang" fully illustrate this point.
In "Know It or Not", Zhang Da Niangzi is a low-married, as the only daughter of the British Duke, she originally had a good marriage, but the yin and yang were wrong, and the next marriage to General Shen, although she was an uncle, she was also a rookie, and she had a widow in her heart before, and a wife and sister as a concubine.
At the beginning, in this chaotic relationship, Zhang Da Niang not only did not handle the relationship with her husband well, but even her position in the in-laws' family could not be saved, so that on the day of childbirth, she was almost killed and framed.
After giving birth to a child, she realized that she had a barrier in her heart and no longer waited for her husband and father to pave the way for her, so she lived her own style.
Xu Jingli in "The Little Woman Under the Gate of Zhengyang", the mother's family and in-laws are very powerful, but after she gets married, she can listen to her inner arrangements, work and life, and will not be affected by the in-laws.
This is because she does not have the mind of relying, the mother-in-law has money, she never wants to take it for herself, she wants it, she will work her own.
Of course, she will not be arrogant enough to disrespect her mother-in-law. When she gave birth and her mother-in-law asked her to go back to her mother-in-law's house to sit in confinement, she asked her husband to face her mother-in-law, and in the language details, she used "my mother-in-law" instead of "your mother".
In this way, even if there is a conflict with the concept of the mother-in-law, it will not affect the feelings of the husband and wife.
This is probably what we call the ability to be happy.
It is said that unhappy marriages are different, but happy marriages are mostly similar. As long as you grasp the underlying logic of happiness, let yourself have a strong heart, not strong to the right, nor wronged yourself, in the continuous run-in, you can finally find a self-consistent way to achieve happiness in marriage.
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