"Heart Dwelling": Parents love their children too much, but it may ruin his happiness

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The TV series "Heart Residence", in addition to talking about the marriage and love of young people, also talks about the original family, and talks about the emotions and ties between parents and children.

On the topic of the original family, we have discussed a lot, very much, and we all know that the influence of the original family on a person is huge, and what kind of family a person lives in and what kind of parents he has directly determines his personal destiny.

We know that being born in a family without love will become a very insecure person with a very lack of love in the heart, and if you are born in a family where parents love their children very much, then this person will inevitably become a person with a very rich heart when he grows up.

But after watching "Heart House", I have a new view of this point of view, the love of parents for their children will indeed give their children a great sense of security, will make him full of love in his heart, but sometimes the love of parents for their children may become his cage, he will become less free, and everywhere restricted.

It is not that as long as the parents love their children is enough, the key depends on what the parents' love is based on, if the purpose is not pure, then it is likely to be counterproductive, which will make the children extremely unfree.

Shi Yuan, Gu Xin, and Ge Yue in the TV series, their parents love them so much, but it is precisely because they love too much, but they become very unhappy.

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First of all, let's talk about Shi Yuan, he is the most painful in life, the most depressed one in his heart.

His parents loved him very much, gave him very deep expectations, and when he was very young, they had high requirements for him, and they cultivated him according to the elite, hoping that one day he would be able to stand out.

But the creation of people, his life fate has undergone a great change, and finally can only go to a tourist college, and then as an ordinary tour guide, because his mother is sick, the family situation has plummeted, life is getting worse and worse, no car, no house, living in a very backward lane in Shanghai.

Because mom loves him so much, her love has turned into a very terrible desire to control, manipulate him at work, in love. He knew that his son was close to Gu Qingyu, but he looked down on Gu Qingyu because he had rented his house, even though he was now a company executive and earned several times more than her son.

She hoped that her son's life would come according to her vision, what kind of work she would do, what kind of people she would marry, these pervasive manipulations, knowing that he was married, directly fainted.

Shi Yuan and Gu Qingyu's marriage later stumbled, but it was also because his mother was behind the ghost, and has been dividing their feelings and giving them a trip.

Such a mother is really terrible, but whenever the child does not follow her heart, she will use her emotions to morally kidnap him, originally has a very bright future, but it is ended up being messed with by her, and even the best marriage will be broken up.

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Then there are Gu Xin and Ge Yue's parents, in fact, their fathers are fine, not so bad, the problem is their mother.

Gu Xin's mother must love Gu Xin, but her love for her son is full of a kind of showing off, a tool for her to show off outside and give her a long face.

Once Gu Xin had a very good object, but her mother did not agree, and then they broke up, he found a new girlfriend, originally she also hated Ge Yue's height is not enough, but as soon as she heard that her father was the director, she immediately laughed and blossomed.

Since then, her son has been her biggest face, showing off to others how powerful her son is, showing off that he married the daughter of a rich family and bought tens of millions of mansions.

And Ge Yue's mother also has a lot of complaints about the object her daughter chooses, and she can't look up to Gu Xin anywhere, thinking that his family is not well-off, and even looking down on his parents.

Even if she is married, she is a family, and she always throws gu Xin's face. I can understand that she loves her daughter, hopes that her daughter can marry a person who is right in the door, and is worried that she will marry Gu Xin and have no good life.

However, he did not care about his daughter's feelings at all, and gave Gu Xin a face, making Gu Xin live a very wronged life in their home, and he was not happy at all. Their marriage is bound to not be long off.

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The emotions and entanglements between these parents and children mentioned in "Heart Residence" are very real, and there are indeed such parents in real life, and their discipline of their children is pervasive.

It can't be said that they don't love children, they also love children very much, but their love is like flying a kite, holding the rope at all times, finding that the child flies a little far, pulling back, they are the manipulator, controlling the child's life and happiness.

But everyone should be an independent individual, especially after growing up, if you are still so disciplined by your parents, it is impossible to achieve happiness.

Shi Yuan, Gu Xin and Ge Yue are very typical examples, they will only feel extremely suffocated under such love, they will always live in the control of their parents, they cannot have their own ideas, they cannot live according to their own wishes.

The love of parents for their children, if there is no degree, then it will become a cage for children, and they will never be happy. All love should be based on equality, freedom and respect, so that children can truly live the life they want.

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Article illustration | Stills from "Heart Dwelling"