Why are you single and not married?
For young people, the question is a bit like", "Why don't you go to Tsinghua Peking University?" "Same over-the-topping; hahaha.
However, have you ever thought that if you are young now, you can't get married, and when you get older, you may really be... Don't want to get married anymore!
This uncle is 50 years old, single and not married; the current personal concept of marriage is -
Celibacy!
The uncle said that when he was young, he didn't think so (celibacy), and the cost of marriage at that time was not very high; whether it was the cost of raising children or social life, it was OK.
It's just that for various reasons, I didn't choose to get married at that time
(Maybe you missed someone, or maybe you've been waiting for someone))
But now at the age of 50, if you want to get married, it seems a little awkward
The first is that social costs have become higher:
I married at the age of 50 and began to have children from scratch; some were late, because when others were at this age, the children were already adults and even had grandchildren.
I have only now begun to get married and have children, and when the children become adults and become independent; I am already seventy or eighty years old.
The real age is here, so I think it may not be suitable for marriage.
The second is your own mentality:
Because in the past half of my life, I have lived alone; many things have formed habits, and my autonomy is stronger.
If you get married, even if you are deeply in love, two people living together will inevitably have ups and downs that need to be run-in and contradictory; they need to make concessions, compromises, and change themselves.
If you say that at the age of twenty or thirty, it is normal to change the run-in compromise or something;
But at this age, it may be more difficult to change yourself...
So based on the two practical reasons of social cost and his own mentality, this uncle now chooses celibacy; he does not intend to get married and have children.
The uncle's attitude towards the second half of his life has won the support of many netizens; everyone also agrees with the two reasons said by the uncle, especially the social reality. Originally, the cost of getting married and having children is high now, plus their own age; so it is also common for people not to get married and not to have children.
Uncle said that now as he grows older, he feels that he is actually quite good!