If a man puts his mother and wife on an equal footing, when he encounters a dilemma, he can try to balance the relationship between his mother and his wife, and try to make them satisfied, and there will not be too much contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
But most men can not do this, under normal circumstances, they will be more partial to their mother, feel that the mother is older, feel that the mother is not easy, feel that they owe the mother, so when they encounter a dilemma of choice, they will choose their own mother, such behavior makes the wife dissatisfied, and the feelings between husband and wife have problems.
The reason why there is a dilemma is because some mothers-in-law are very ignorant, it can be said that they are very unremarkable, always forcing their sons to choose between her and her daughter-in-law, always wanting to prove that in the heart of the son, she is more important than the daughter-in-law, and then it leads to the son is very embarrassed, the daughter-in-law is dissatisfied, and more seriously, the daughter-in-law will file for divorce with the son because of anger, and the son's marriage is ruined.
01.
The mother-in-law will enjoy it too much
After Ruoting married her husband, she found that her mother-in-law was a person who would especially enjoy, usually as soon as she had a headache and brain fever, she let her husband accompany her to see a doctor, eat skin care products all year round, often go to foot therapy, in short, there was no grievance at all.
For these behaviors of the mother-in-law, Ruoting did not feel that there was anything wrong, in her opinion, the mother-in-law knows how to maintain the body, healthy and healthy, but also to reduce some trouble for the couple.
Ruoting for the first time felt that her mother-in-law was a selfish person, only thinking about herself, it was after she gave birth to a child, After Ruoting gave birth to the child smoothly in the hospital, she could not eat anything, and her mother was very worried, so she would go home to make all kinds of nutritious food for Ruoting, because Ruoting's home was far from the hospital, so every time the mother went home to cook, she had to drive her husband to accompany her.
Although there are doctors and nurses in the hospital, after all, Ruoting has just given birth to a child, and she can't be accompanied by no one around, so the husband lets her mother-in-law accompany Ruoting, and when Ruoting wants to turn over, she calls her mother-in-law to help, but her mother-in-law says that she has no strength, and then she slowly calls the nurse.
The nurse sent the child to Ruoting's ward, let Ruoting breastfeed, the mother-in-law did not know how to help with the handle, said that she was afraid that the child peed on her body, and said that she had not held the child for more than twenty years, and had long forgotten how to hold the child, anyway, it was not helpful at all.
Ruoting stayed in the hospital for three days, and then went home to confinement, the mother-in-law said that she had a son, and did not know how to serve people to confinement, it certainly could not help, so during Ruoting's confinement, the mother-in-law did not go once, and Ruoting's mother was busy for a whole month.
After the confinement, Ruoting wanted her mother-in-law to help and let her mother go home to rest for a while, but her mother-in-law said that she had made an appointment with some sisters and wanted to travel, and the ticket had been bought and could not be refunded.
In the face of these behaviors of her mother-in-law, Ruo Ting's heart was very angry.
02.
The husband took his mother-in-law on a trip
One day, the mother-in-law came to Ruoting's house crying, and saw that the mother-in-law was crying very wronged, ruoting and her husband were a little confused, and the husband asked the mother-in-law, "Mom, what is wrong with you?" What happened? ”
"Son, didn't I tell you?" I want to go out with some little sisters, the tickets are booked, but they are not willing to go now, some say to bring children to their sons, some say to serve their wives at home, their wives can not be taken care of, they are left with me, my things have been packed, they are not going, let me do what? ”
"This is a big deal, since they can't go for the time being, you don't want to go first, and then go after a while, what does it mean to go out alone?" Besides, I don't feel at ease if you go out alone. ”
"But I've already bought my clothes and a high-definition camera, so I want to travel now."
"So what do you say?" I'll go to your little sisters and ask them to accompany you on a trip. ”
"What are you looking for them for?" A group of people who don't count, you accompany me on a trip, and our mother and son have not traveled yet. ”
"I can't go out with you on a trip, Ruoting just gave birth to a child, I have to take care of them both at home."
"The child has been born, the confinement has been sitting, what needs to be taken care of, besides, and your mother-in-law, if you need a man, with your father-in-law, what can you help at home, I think it is an extra mouth to eat." 」
"Then I can take care of them at home."
"Son, seriously, you go out with your mother, your mother's things have been packed, you buy the ticket, we can leave immediately, not to mention only go out for a week, soon come back, there is nothing to delay, if you don't accompany me, I will go alone." 」
"You can't go alone, what if something happens?"
"Then let's go together."
The husband told Ruoting about this, Ruoting was very angry and did not let her husband go, but the husband said to Ruoting, "I don't trust my mother to travel alone, I have to accompany her, you are at home to see the children, we will come back soon." ”
03.
Divorce from your husband
The husband left his wife and children to take his mother on a tour, and Ruoting's heart was both angry and aggrieved, and she wanted to divorce her husband.
Ruoting can't bear the mother to run back and forth every day, so she took the child back to her mother's house, the house where she lived with her husband was her dowry, Ruoting let her father find an intermediary to help her sell the house, the agent her father found was still very efficient, the next day she found a buyer, the buyer looked at Ruoting's house at a glance, paid on the same day, and the transfer was also done by the agent.
The husband went home to know that the owner of the house had been replaced, he did not understand why Ruoting wanted to sell the house, the house was in a good location, or the school district room, in the future the children's school is also convenient, the husband thought that Ruoting wanted to change a bigger house, but Ruoting directly proposed a divorce with her husband.
"I sold the house because I want to divorce you, that house is my dowry, I will deal with it in advance, find a time to go through the divorce procedures, I only need the custody of the child, I don't want the money in the passbook." 」
When the husband heard that Ruoting was going to divorce, he was a little confused, "Why?" We have a good relationship, the child has just been born, why did you suddenly mention divorce to me? Am I doing something wrong? ”
"You said you did something wrong, you also know that the child has just been born, I have not been out of the confinement for a long time, we all need your care, but what about you?" How can you be so irresponsible when you go on a trip with your mother and throw us both to my parents, you are my husband and the father of your children? ”
"Didn't I go for long?" I just don't trust my mother to travel alone, you two have father-in-law and mother-in-law to take care of, I am very relieved, so I will accompany my mother out on a trip. ”
"After the birth of the child, it has been me and my parents who have suffered, what about you and your mother?" Your mother is not helped at all, you are a husband as a father, every day is also very leisurely, I have had enough, I want to divorce, is not it the same with children alone? I don't mean you. ”
Ruoting insisted on divorce, and eventually the two divorced.
As a husband, you must not abandon your wife and children to accompany your mother, usually, the mother's companion should be the father, and your companion is your wife and children, if in the mother and wife of these two choices, you always choose the mother instead of the wife, the wife will feel in your heart, she is not so important at all, and do not want to continue to live with you.
The daughter-in-law has just given birth to a child, as a mother-in-law, how can she go out to travel at this time, as a son, how can she leave her wife and children to travel with her mother? A woman will become very vulnerable after giving birth, she has just become a mother, need time to adapt, at this time, the mother-in-law and husband should be by her side, help her adapt to the role of mother as soon as possible, and should not leave her to do something else.
The mother-in-law's inconsiderate and the husband's inconsiderateness will completely hurt a woman's heart, if a woman has just given birth to a child, the mother-in-law and husband ignore her, then she will definitely be disappointed in the marriage and will choose to end the marriage.