The cousin's child, Sissi, attended a kindergarten not far from home in September last year and officially started her day-care life.
But the kindergarten life that was expected to be beautiful did not start, and every time the cousin went to pick up the child from school, Sissi was crying and crying and telling her: "Mom, can I not go to school tomorrow?" ”
The cousin tried to communicate with the child, and she asked, "Isn't kindergarten fun?" ”
Sissi shook his head again.
3-year-old child, the narrative ability is not enough, the cousin and Sixi communication for half a day can not find the problem, only to hear Sixi constantly chanting: "I also want small red flowers." ”
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The next day, the cousin communicated with Sisi's teacher and understood the problem.
It turned out that Sisi's ability to take care of himself could not keep up, and other children could already eat with their hands, but Sisi also needed to be fed by the teacher. The kindergarten has a rule that children who perform well can get the reward of small red flowers, and many children in the same class have it, but Sissi has never received it.
After a long time, even the children in the same class began to laugh at Sissi. Sissi felt that he could not fit into this small group, so he developed resistance.
After listening to my cousin's explanation of the reason, I also hurried to give her a trick as a person who came over. The cultivation of children's self-care ability needs more parents to guide them to complete, don't think that throwing children to kindergarten can be all right. At the beginning, the teacher may also patiently guide and help the children learn. But when most children have mastered the same skills, it is difficult for children who have not been able to learn to please the teacher.
"So what to do?" The cousin also realized the seriousness of the problem.
What to do? Of course, it is "too late to make up for the dead"!
As a result, my cousin and family no longer do the work for Sissi, and when they return home, they will exercise himself to eat and dress himself. At first, Sisi would make trouble and ask his father and mother for help, but he saw that there was no hope for help, and he was forced to "rely on himself".
It has to be said that as parents, we are likely to underestimate our children's ability to learn, thus depriving them of learning opportunities.
Taking the cousin's child Xixi as an example, after less than a month of exercise, he can eat and dress independently, and many things within his ability can be completed by himself, just like a small adult.
Afterwards, my cousin also told me that since the improvement of Sisi's self-care ability, her self-confidence has also improved, and now she no longer rejects kindergarten life, and she is very happy with children in school.
I often listen to many parents discuss privately, lest the kindergarten has "unspoken rules", teachers will "feel poor and love rich", not good for their children, in fact, these worries are somewhat redundant. With the improvement of the kindergarten management system, kindergartens rarely have the problem of favoring children because of family conditions. But the teacher is also a "mortal flesh" emotional animal, in the emotional balance is naturally biased towards those sensible, well-behaved children, some children willful self, indeed not welcomed by the teacher.
In addition to the above mention that the first kind of children who do not have strong self-care ability are not welcome, there are two kinds of children whose teachers do not like it!
Children with selfish personalities who do not know how to share
After all, the kindergarten is a large collective, the teacher can not be the same as the parents, give the child close, meticulous care, and then there are kindergarten toys, teaching props, etc. are shared items, if a child is selfish, do not know how to share, hope to privatize all the items, such children are not liked by the teacher.
Think about it in other words, because children completely lack "property rights awareness", they often clash with other children because of the problem of sharing items. Once or twice, the kindergarten teacher will be responsible for mediation, if three, four, infinite cycles, how can the teacher who is forced to increase the workload feel good about such children?
★ Countermeasures: In order to avoid children being "unspoken rules" because they do not know how to share, parents should educate in advance so that children have a clear sense of property rights to personal items and public goods. At the same time, don't think that because of the love of parents, everything good belongs to their domineering personality. In daily life, parents can consciously guide their children to exchange and share items with their relatives and friends, and gradually children can understand the truth of sharing.
Children who act loosely and do not follow discipline
It is not an exaggeration to say that kindergarten is a milestone in the growth of children. Kindergarten is the first group life that children start, and they need to act according to discipline, do not move around and do not make noise during class, otherwise it will affect others and teachers.
But some children just can't do it, and they always have to be "different" in kindergartens, which adds a lot of trouble to the teacher's work. For such children, the teacher's greeting once or twice is not effective, and it is difficult to maintain a good attitude for a long time, and it is reasonable to be unpopular.
★ Coping strategies: rules and discipline do not have to be learned after the child enters the nursery. In family life, parents must consciously tell their children what can be done and what cannot be done. Simple preaching may be too empty, at this time parents can use some relevant picture books, so that the child's role as a bystander to judge what is done right and what is done wrong. This kind of subtle education method and scene-based creation are very conducive to children's mastery of the sense of rules and good discipline in play.
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Parents must remember that children meet the conditions for entering the nursery, and are not limited to age standards. If you want your child to start a pleasant kindergarten life in kindergarten and be favored by teachers, then the formation of good habits, the cultivation of self-care ability, and the improvement of emotional control ability are very important.
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