Before, the daughter was very disgusted with going to kindergarten, when she said to go to kindergarten, the smiling little face instantly shrugged down, and even noisily said that she did not want to go to kindergarten, in order to let her go to kindergarten, I bought her toys, and bought snacks for her, but the child just kept crying.
It turned out that the little girl next to her would rob her daughter's belongings when the teacher did not pay attention, and it had been several times.
At this time, I told my daughter that if she snatched your things again, you would warn her loudly: This is my thing, if you want it, let your mother buy it for you, and stare into her eyes while talking, before you speak quietly, she will certainly not be afraid.
The day before yesterday, when I went to pick up the children from school, my daughter was very happy, and on the way home she told me: Mom, the method you taught me really worked, she didn't rob me of my things, and when the teacher heard me talking loudly, she came to ask me what happened and criticized her.
I said to my children: In the future, if someone bullies you, you will stop their behavior so that it will not happen a second time.
After this incident, I also discussed this question with the kindergarten teacher, why are some children not bullied in kindergarten?
After communicating with the kindergarten teacher, the teacher concluded: 3 characteristics make the baby not good.
When the child tells the parents that they are bullied, most parents will let the child use the same way to solve things, in fact, there is no need, if the parents have this awareness, they will teach the child how to protect themselves in advance, so that the child develops a bad trait, so that no one dares to bully.
First: For the first time being bullied, be brave and say no
Children grab things for their daughters, if the first time the child can bravely say no, there will certainly be no second time.
Children are generally "bullying the soft and afraid of the hard"
The daughter looks very introverted, speaks softly, treats people very politely, and never takes the initiative to "provoke trouble", which becomes an easy target for being bullied in the eyes of classmates.
The first time a child grabs her belongings, if the child only says "no" in a civilized manner, it will not be taken seriously, and if the tone is stronger and the eyes are firmer, they can stop the other party's behavior.
Second: strong social skills
Before I watched a documentary about kindergarten, there is a child who is everyone's "punching bag", both boys and girls like to bully him, the child is very lonely, no friends.
In this regard, parenting experts suggest that kindergarten teachers let children find a few more fixed friends, no matter what they do, everyone should be together.
After having friends, you will not be easily bullied.
For small children, in kindergarten, their social skills are very strong, they can become friends with every child, and when they have friends, they will be bullied at will.
On the contrary, introverted, relatively isolated children have become the object of bullying.
Third: Be brave enough to tell parents and teachers
Many children are bullied by others outside, do not dare to tell the teacher or parents, afraid of being scolded, as time goes by, the child becomes more cowardly, do not dare to resist, so if parents find that the child has abnormal behavior, must find out the matter clearly.
After many children are bullied, if they tell their parents, most parents' first reaction is: "What do you want your hands to do?" He hit you and you won't return it? ”
This kind of education seems to teach children how to deal with "bullying", but in fact, it is to reprimand children.
Many children are bullied and dare not tell the teacher, and parents are afraid of trouble with the teacher.
But for kindergarten teachers, in dealing with this problem is not disgusted, if the matter is not very serious, can be timely education of children, better than one day children due to "bullying" bullying injury, much better, if really at that time, things will be serious.
After this incident, I launched anti-bullying education for my children, took out the "Anti-Bullying Enlightenment Picture Book" that I bought for my children before, and tomorrow night I will accompany my children to read for half an hour, through the form of storytelling, to enhance children's anti-bullying awareness and tell children how to correctly handle bullying incidents.
I suggest that all mothers can prepare a set for their children, eight protagonists, eight stories, from different aspects of the theme to improve the child's awareness of anti-bullying.
There are many forms that even adults don't realize, such as giving nicknames to others, being forcibly asked for items, being deliberately pushed, and so on.
Eight different themes in the form of stories tell children which are bullying behaviors, how to deal with bullying when encountered, and how parents should correctly educate after learning that their children are bullied. Instead of using the concept of violence to teach children.