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Some people, as soon as they see a child, can guess their child's future, do you believe this? I didn't believe it before, but now I believe it.
"Good study is innate", the person who said this is the father of a child, his daughter has a good academic performance, and has been admitted to Tsinghua University.
Dad said that since the child started kindergarten, he was identified by the teacher as a "top student", and the kindergarten teacher praised the baby at that time, saying that the child would definitely be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University in the future.
Sure enough, the teacher's words were very accurate. Children from small to large in terms of learning, there is no need for parents to worry, all of them are children's active learning, hard work.
In the end, this child became a typical bully in the eyes of others, achieved good results, and the child's father also became the father of the school bully, respected and envied.
So, how did this kindergarten teacher see that the child will be a bully in the future?
Professor Li Meijin once said that kindergarten is a very critical period for students.
In fact, some kindergarten teachers can see that whether a child will be a bully in the future is also speculated through the child's own performance.
In general, children who are easy to become school bullies in the future have some common characteristics, which are very obvious and can be seen through by the teacher at a glance
Children have strong concentration and can play with one thing for a long time
Adults will feel bored doing something for a long time, but if the child is very focused, shows a long-term interest in a thing, and does things with a high degree of concentration.
For example, if you play with one thing for a long time, then this shows that the child's concentration is good. Can use strong willpower to self-discipline, maintain interest in a thing, highly love this thing, mobilize emotions, self-entertainment.
When the child is in kindergarten, he plays with toys alone for a long time and entertains himself. Or the child can sit alone, sit on the bench without crying or making trouble, and study quietly for a long time. Then, the kindergarten teacher will feel that the child's concentration is good.
A child with strong concentration can become a real bully in the future in learning.
Children are interested in disassembly and often dismantle things in a mess
Garfylau said that the three conditions for studying are: more observation, more hardship, and more research.
In kindergarten, the teacher will lead the children to play games, such as playing with stacks, playing with trolleys, etc. But the teacher will find that in addition to playing, some children will also be interested in disassembly, and even destroy the good toys and unload eight pieces. Then, rearrange and assemble, come up with a new look, or restore things to their original state according to memory.
This hobby habit of children, in the eyes of experienced kindergarten teachers, is the manifestation of potential bullying.
Because a child wants to learn well, he must have the spirit of research and the courage not to be afraid of difficulties, which is the basic condition for children's achievements in the eyes of teachers.
Children do not like to cry, have a strong personality, and have resilience
Children go to kindergarten, some children love to cry, the teacher says a little word, the child sounds stiff, the child may cry nose. The more such a child is, the easier it is for the teacher to think that it needs to be perfected in terms of personality.
After all, a child who can really learn well should be a child with a strong personality and resilience. Otherwise, learning is so hard, children do not have the spirit of hardship, and they cannot learn well. I don't even have the persistence of reading a hundred times, how to become a bully!
To sum up, if you want to cultivate your child into a school bully, you need your child to have the above three characteristics.
However, it is not easy to cultivate children into academic bullies, and parents need to pay for a long time.
Parents should strive to cultivate the following three characteristics of their children, which is the basis for children to become a bully!
Have concentration
Ditzgen says repetition is the mother of learning.
Children learn homework and need to repeat the review, which requires children to have a certain degree of concentration. Unfortunately, not all children have this kind of concentration, and some children are too familiar with the textbook, which is prone to pride. This requires parents to help train as soon as possible and strive to cultivate their children into a child with strong concentration.
In this regard, parents can do this: within the specified time, first let the child learn the subjects that interest them, and then divide the child's learning into different time periods. Every ten minutes, you can ask a question, let the child think, and then continue the next learning. Children learn with tasks and can also concentrate and improve their concentration.
Have a spirit of research
If you want to cultivate your child into a bully, you must first let your child have the spirit of research. Only when children are interested in learning, willing to study homework, and willing to spend effort on learning, can children learn well and get high scores.
Specifically, parents can find some "puzzle game" type problems for their children, and the math titles with slightly higher difficulty are appropriate. Then, parents accompany their children to exercise problem-solving thinking, hone the spirit of research, and discuss with each other, which is the process of improving children's research ability.
Have a spirit of hardship
There is a famous saying that the one who suffers is the best person.
If a child has a hard-working spirit in learning, even if the child is a little stupid, he can also rely on diligent study and improve his grades. Hard work may not necessarily have good grades, but it does not take time to learn, it does not work hard at all, and the child will definitely not become a bully.
Parents can cultivate their children in this way: occasionally let the children do some physical work, sweat a little, feel the hardships of working to earn money, and simulate the state of entering the adult world in advance. In this way, children have personal experience, know that life is not easy, and will naturally be more willing to suffer more in the coursework without physical strength.
Sharpen the knife without mistakenly cutting wood, when the child has these basic abilities, and then learn, the child's grades can have a leap forward growth, and finally rely on diligence and skill, persevere to fight into a bully.
There is a bully in the family, which is really the glory of parents. At the same time, it is also the result of correct education for parents.
Interactive Topic: So, do you think that children are not potential bullies in childhood, and in what ways can they be reflected?
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