Last week I rarely got off an early shift, waiting at the kindergarten door early, waiting for my daughter to come out, I quickly took out the cheese stick that had been prepared long ago, I thought I would cheer as usual, today I just picked it up, I didn't even eat a bite, as a mother, I saw at a glance that my daughter had something on her mind.
"Mom, I don't want to wear this dress anymore." Before I could ask, my daughter opened her mouth first.
I looked at my daughter doubtfully, usually she likes skirts the most, almost without wearing pants, and I asked with concern, "What's wrong baby?" Is it the teacher who does not let you wear it? ”
My daughter shook her head, and I had to ask, "Is that a dress you don't like?" ”
My daughter continued to shake her head, only to tell me that there was something dirty on my clothes, for a moment I just felt five thunderbolts, my head was blank, all kinds of possible situations kept appearing in my mind, I pulled my daughter over and examined it carefully, and the appearance of the clothes did not find anything abnormal.
On the way home, I thought about what might happen, and I also thought about how to appease my daughter, and when I got home, I helped her change her clothes according to her daughter's will, and when I changed my clothes, my brows couldn't help but wrinkle together, I took off my clothes and looked at it carefully and found that there was nothing abnormal, I was very confused, so I asked my daughter " The clothes look very clean, can you tell your mother where it is dirty?" ”
My daughter held out her finger to the hem of her skirt and told me the truth.
It turned out that when I was playing this afternoon, there was a little boy who had been spitting at his daughter for no reason, and the daughter had not bullied him, and after her daughter's repeated warnings were unsuccessful, the boy became more and more rampant, and even began to push his daughter.
Listening to my daughter's words, my hanging heart finally let go, but new problems also followed, my daughter did not tell the teacher after being bullied, I was worried that this would cause psychological shadows for my daughter.
In the evening, after the husband came back from work, asked the daughter how to warn the boy, the daughter demonstrated it to us, and sure enough, the daughter just told the boy in a small voice not to bully her, there was no deterrent, and then the husband instructed the daughter how to become a little stronger, so that the other party was afraid, to achieve the purpose of not daring to bully herself.
When my daughter was finally able to say "you don't bully me" with a strong attitude, my husband and I were very pleased, and in order to let my daughter better protect herself, I reviewed this "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Book" with my daughter that night.
In fact, this set of picture books she read a long time ago, but children, it is inevitable to forget, which also blames me for being too busy usually, spending less time with my daughter, not helping her consolidate the knowledge on the picture book in time, causing her to be bullied and do not know what to do
Sure enough, reading picture books still has an effect, the next day when I went to pick up my daughter, my daughter jumped around with a cheese stick along the way, and told me how she used the method she taught her yesterday to tell the boy not to bully her, and how to run to tell the teacher, looking at my daughter's happy look, I suddenly felt that it was worth doing all this.
That night, the teacher called us again, apologized, and praised her daughter for being able to protect herself, and I was curious to ask the teacher what kind of child would not be bullied.
The teacher told me. In fact, children of this age do not all dare to bully, and children with these three characteristics are often impossible to be bullied.
First of all, they will not be bullied, as long as others do things that make them uncomfortable or unhappy, he will tell the teacher or parents loudly, unlike some children, even if they are uncomfortable, they are not happy or just quietly refuse, do not dare to tell the teacher.
Secondly, this kind of child's social ability is very good, this kind of child often comes alone, and can't play with others, over time it will cause inferiority, loneliness psychology, it is easy to be bullied.
In addition, this type of child knows how to use the power of teachers and parents to protect themselves, when others bully themselves, they immediately tell each other, they have to tell the teacher about this matter.
Listening to the teacher's words, I felt from the bottom of my heart that if I wanted my children not to be bullied, parents must pay attention to it, and I can't think that kindergartens teach everything, after all, children are our own.
After that, I put this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books" in the most conspicuous place in my home, which was used to remind me to often accompany my daughter to read this set of books.
This set of picture books has a total of ten volumes, covering "I don't like to be teased", "I don't like to be excluded", "I don't like to be touched" and other content, using cartoon stories to help children understand what bullying is, learn how to deal with and protect themselves.
For example, this book "I Don't Like to Be Bullied" starts from the child's point of view, enhances the child's sense of substitution, and tells the child how to distinguish whether he is not bullied, and how to call for help when he is bullied.
At the end of the story, there are also tips to tell parents, reminding parents what kind of knowledge they should add to their children after reading the story, so that children can better protect themselves.
Every word in the book is marked with pinyin, which is in line with the child's reading habits, and can also allow the child to consolidate and learn pinyin.
Bad shadows will hang over people's lives, it is recommended that parents take half an hour every day to accompany their children to read this set of picture books to help children have a happy childhood.