"You just have to study hard, and the rest of me and my dad will help you." Friends and relatives around you often say this sentence.
For example, my sister-in-law, who is a teacher, although she bears the heavy responsibility of educating other people's children, but faces the pressure of expectations for her own children, and also only pays attention to the good and bad learning of children.
Every Friday, the sister-in-law's children will go home for the weekend on vacation, and then come back to school on Sunday afternoon. Children will sleep late on Saturdays, wake up to eat lunch, and even get up at 2 or 3 pm. The sister-in-law will make the food hot, and then make it hot when it is cold, anyway, when the child gets up, he can eat delicious hot rice immediately.
It is conceivable that housework is not done for children at all, in addition to learning or learning. As long as the child learns well, it is the success of the child, and it is also the success of educating the child.
So, is it right to judge a child's success by learning well? In my opinion, whether the child learns well or not is important, but the ability of other aspects cannot be ignored, otherwise the child will not necessarily appreciate you when he grows up.
1, children should know how to care for others
Just like I saw a message in the circle of friends some time ago, my friend complained that he brought up his child and did not know how to care about others. Friends are unwell, so they ask the company for leave and lie in bed to rest.
The child came home from school and slapped the door on the door, and the friend had no choice but to force himself to open the door for the child. Ask the child why he didn't open the door by himself, whether he didn't bring the key. The child said that he had brought it, but he did not want to look for it in his school bag.
The friend climbed into bed again to rest, and accidentally fell asleep. In the evening, the husband came home to shake the friend awake, asked her whether the meal was not cooked, whether it was uncomfortable, and only then did he know that the child had not come out when he returned to the room.
Children are not born to care for others, and often need the guidance and education of their parents.
Therefore, when the child wants to help the parents to do things, do not feel that the child is small, in the help to refuse, just think more, this can not guide the child to care about others. A child who knows how to care for others is the beginning of understanding.
2, children should know how to take care of themselves
Children will grow up one day and face society and life alone. So, should parents teach their children the ability to take care of themselves before their children grow up? If the child grows up but does not have the ability to live independently, how can he stand on the basis of society?
Some time ago, the younger son of the uncle's family brought his girlfriend home, and the uncle's family was very happy and liked this girl. However, after the girl lived for a few days, the uncle's family was a little dissatisfied. It turned out that the uncle had found that this girl had a detail that was not done well, and every time she washed clothes, she would throw all her underwear, underwear and other clothes into the washing machine, and even tried to throw socks into it.
Uncles and aunts muttered privately that a girl was so unhygienic and too lazy. Fortunately, this girl's personality and quality are very good, washing clothes is not exquisite, it should be that she did not develop good habits when she was a child.
Therefore, when the child is young, parents should know how to let go, let the child do what he can, cultivate the child's ability to take care of himself independently, and let the child grow up to be able to walk more easily.
3, children should understand the rules
Children are small and do not understand things, do adults not understand things? When we meet a bear child, we don't blame the child, we only think that adults don't understand things.
Yes, there are always some parents who feel that their children are still young, or think that their children are naturally free-loving, do not love to be constrained, and give up the supervision and management of their children in the name of love. Even after the child breaks into trouble, he still finds reasons and excuses for the child to defend the child.
Behind every bear child, there must be such a parent, or even two parents. Such a parent, who may be a grandmother or any member of the family, is, in my opinion, not far-sighted.
You know, when the child grows up, he does not understand the rules and does not know how to deal with people, which is harmful to the child. After the child hits the wall many times, he will not be grateful to such a parent in his heart.
Therefore, when the child is young, we must tell him what the rules are, what things cannot be done, and what things cannot be said, so that the child can develop good habits from an early age.
4, children should know how to be strong
Today's children, too spoiled and habitual, can not eat a little bitterness, the child's physical education teacher sent a message in the group. It turned out that the afternoon physical education class was a running test, and the result was that the number of students who came was one-third less, in exchange for a large stack of leave slips, which was felt.
Some parents say, there is no way, the child is one, the family pet is too late, can the child suffer? Some parents say that teachers should punish as much as they want, and we support it.
Different parents have different views on the matter of children suffering. In my opinion, the days when children should suffer hardships should let children suffer, so as to exercise the child's strong will.
Therefore, when the child is young, we should not help the child cover all the difficulties, but appropriately let the child experience and try to solve the problem.
Written at the end: a truly excellent child, learning well is not his only strength, but also know how to care for others, have independent self-care ability, understand the rules, strong good qualities. If the child has the above advantages, the child will definitely go further and easier in the future. (The picture is from the network, if there is infringement, it must be deleted)