Hello everyone, I'm Empty Valley Youlan, mom of two children!
There are many parents who have written to me privately that they will turn three years old and are ready to send their children to kindergarten, so they ask me what preparations should be made when my children leave the family for the first time?
I usually tell fans and friends that before the child goes to kindergarten, in addition to choosing a suitable kindergarten for the child, the mother also needs to make material and spiritual preparations, and the most important thing is that these preparations must be applied to the child in advance.
Two 3-year-old children go to kindergarten, the first day is very different, some preparations really need parents to do in advance
At that time, my son and the neighbor's children chose the same kindergarten, but my son went to kindergarten and the neighbor's children went to kindergarten on the first day, there was a big difference.
When my son first went to kindergarten, he was just over the age of three, and he was a boy with strong independence. On the first day of kindergarten, I thought he would be unhappy and worried that he would cry when I was gone, but in the end it turned out that all my worries were superfluous.
The son had a great time in kindergarten, and in one class, most of the children were crying hoarsely to find their mother, he looked left and right, full of curiosity about the surrounding environment, and tried to persuade the crying children. When I got home, my son said to me, "I miss my mom too, but I know my mom will pick me up after school, so I don't cry." ”
The neighbor's child, Hui Hui, was the same age as my son, and the two were in the same class. Her kindergarten is a different scene, this little girl is loved by the whole family, and her self-care ability is relatively poor. She is also very dependent on her parents, and her biggest drawback is that she is more picky. So when I first went to kindergarten, a few days in advance, my father began to worry, worried that his daughter would not adapt to the life of kindergarten.
As a result, the father's worries were fulfilled, and the daughter did not eat lunch in the kindergarten on the first day, did not take a nap, and then cried to find her mother. The next day, she said she didn't want to go to kindergarten again. After a period of time, although the child has also adapted to the life of the kindergarten, the process is also more difficult.
As a parent of a new kindergarten student, it is normal for us to worry about our children. However, if the child's separation anxiety disorder is more severe, it is a kind of torture for both the child and the parent
。 When a neighbor asked me, "Why doesn't your child cry when he goes to kindergarten?" Do you have any secrets you can teach me? "By the time the child reaches the age of kindergarten, it will be too late to find the secret."
Most of the children who go to kindergarten do not cry or make trouble are from such families, and parents should be prepared in advance.
Parents give their children enough companionship, children with strong security, do not cry in kindergarten.
Even if we adults, after entering an unfamiliar environment, will feel some discomfort and need a process to adapt, children are of course even more so. However, some children can adapt quickly, and some children have a long process. If our children lack the company of their parents from an early age, it will be difficult to trust teachers and friends without a sense of security in their hearts, and it will be difficult to adapt to the new environment around them. On the contrary, those children who are safe and confident, who believe in their parents' arrangements and are willing to trust their teachers, can quickly adapt.
Therefore, before the child goes to kindergarten, we need to store enough security in the child's heart, parents to accompany the child more, care more for the child, let the child believe that you will never leave him.
Children have good living habits at home, and kindergarten will adapt quickly.
The schedule of kindergarten is more scientific, lunch, nap, outdoor activities and so on. If at home, we cultivate children's good work and rest habits and eating habits from an early age, and children can quickly adapt to kindergarten life.
Some children do not have good living habits at home, stay up late at night, do not want to get up in the morning, and are picky eaters, which need to be corrected after kindergarten. In the process of correction, children will have strong resistance, so it is important for us to cultivate children's good living habits.
Parents cultivate children with strong independence, and children are more likely to adapt to kindergarten life.
If your child's independence at home has been exercised very well, then his life in kindergarten is very pleasant. Moreover, it is stronger than other children in some skills, and it can also make children feel a sense of accomplishment and pride. Before a child goes to kindergarten, cultivating a child's ability to be independent is a magic weapon to overcome separation anxiety.
Pay attention to families that cultivate children's social skills, and most children do not cry when they go to kindergarten.
Children in kindergarten is to deal with people outside the family, teachers, children are strangers, so some language skills are limited. Children with poor social skills will be more lonely, dare not ask for help when encountering difficulties, and are not so happy in kindergarten.
Those children with strong social skills, they are often easy to mingle with teachers and children, and they can quickly adapt to kindergarten life. Therefore, it is also important to cultivate your child's social skills in advance.
The child's entry into kindergarten is the first step to leave the parents' independent life, and if this step is taken well, the child's future path is smoother and smoother.