A happy marriage has three foundations: the emotional basis, the material basis, and a harmonious conjugal life.
If these three are complementary to each other, then one is indispensable, let alone money, otherwise all the problems of human nature will be infinitely magnified. In short, you have to remember a sentence, married life, is also the most realistic life in the world.
After all, the main content of married life is chai rice oil and salt, old-age care, human relations, family affairs and so on.
All these things are inseparable from the support of money, otherwise married life will be difficult to move forward. So in a sense, the premise of marriage is that it is best to have a stable income. At least the income of the two of you can afford the most basic and ordinary married life.
And this is also in the case that parents can help you with the children, otherwise when you have children, you will have to pull one of them back from the workplace back to the family.
The real reality of life has only just begun.
If there is no money, what are the real problems that arise in marriage? The following tells you where the sadness of marriage without money is!
1) You have no way to prove your feelings.
For example, you love your partner very much, on a holiday, anniversary, but also especially want to show, create a romance, but the economic conditions are not allowed, what do you do? Reluctant to take time off, because of the pain of that day's salary, and then can only honestly go to work, come back to say to your partner: Happy Holidays.
You have a heart, but this "heart" is only clear to you, and if you don't express it, it is equal to nothing. It is rare to prove, and often say in the mouth, that this "heart" will become the act of "drawing a big pie".
So over time, with a heart but a lack of expression and proof, it is very likely that you will end up with a hat of hypocrisy.
There is a saying that is very realistic, to the effect that love does not need money, but every moment that moves the other party is inseparable from money.
Nowadays, it seems that people will really measure the degree of affection and sincerity by the value of gifts. In fact, this feeling of helplessness is even more painful than the heart.
Just ask you back, you love me, but what did you give me?
Even your sincerity can be questioned, such as when shopping, for health reasons, do not want your partner to eat out of season fruits. If you have money, your partner will think that you are really sweet, really gentle, and really love her; you have no money, and your partner will think that you are poor, that is, you are cut, and you are reluctant to do it.
2) The world is always biased against the poor.
Husband and wife quarrel, and then the woman runs to the mother's house or girlfriend to pour out her grievances, if the husband has a successful career, the people around them will most likely persuade:
"You are content, who has not yet had some shortcomings, it must be you who are unreasonable to make trouble, go home and live a good life."
If the husband does nothing, the people around him will most likely say this:
"Nothing, still dare to lose your temper with you, what is the meaning of following such a man, according to your conditions, what kind of can not be found." 」 I didn't let you marry at the beginning, you wanted to marry, now it's good, regret it. ”
Therefore, in the long run, it is impossible for the wife not to be affected a little, and then question her own choices, thus shaking the determination that she must work together.
People are not absolutely rational animals and are susceptible to the influence of those around them, including by various speeches, opinions and chicken soup in society. When people begin to question their own choices, this kind of doubting can no longer be stopped, invisibly affecting people's subjective judgments and ideas.
Unconsciously, they will stare at the shortcomings of their partners, and they can no longer discover and appreciate the advantages of their partners, and such a marriage is equivalent to coming to an end.
3, no money will make people completely turn into emotional animals.
When she first married you, in addition to having love for you, she was also sure that you were a potential stock. Then she will think that suffering is temporary, but after marriage, you have not met her expectations, soaring, career success, and she has been suffering with you.
The failure of this expectation will cause her to produce all kinds of negative emotions, including doubt, anger, chagrin, frustration, etc., until it finally becomes a ball of irrational anger.
When facing you, I can't help but put emotions into it, and when i say a word, I will immediately have to argue. The number of quarrels is more, the marriage becomes an internal friction for each other, and when the quarrel is physically and mentally exhausted, they do not want to quarrel, either make it up or divorce.
Life without money is helpless, anxious, irritable, and on fire, and it is not gentle at all, and there is not much patience for dealing with partners.
Just like the often roaring between many couples: "I was really blind before I married (married) you."
Children don't have enough tuition, they can't afford to buy things they like, in short, they live all day counting days, and in the case of survival is a problem, they have no mind. People will become more and more terrifying, and then they will attack each other in a different way, saying the harshest words.
So having money and not having money is not only the difference in quality of life, nor is it that the husband does not allow the wife to make mistakes, and the wife does not allow the husband to have any faults, but the real life does not allow it. Even if it is only a small matter of losing 100 yuan, it may cause a fierce quarrel between husband and wife.
In this life, each other's shortcomings will be infinitely magnified, and vice versa, the advantages will be infinitely hidden. And because they knew each other too well, and then emotionally, the knives stabbed at each other were extremely sharp.
Even if you can't have your own hobbies, otherwise you don't do your job and don't think about making progress.
Without money, many of people's rights seem to be deprived, including dignity, and are often trampled on by their partners. There are also people's vanity problems, greed problems, prejudice problems, but also because there is no money, will be magnified to the extreme, try to ask what kind of marriage, can withstand the impact of these problems again and again.
Now people's values have changed, having money is an ox, having money is great, and having money is right to say anything. In turn, there is no money, and no matter how reasonable you are, you will be ruthlessly denied.
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