When a woman gets married, you will find that everything will change, you will integrate into other people's families, and you will leave your parents.
At the same time, the previous boyfriend may not be the same as you imagined, sometimes it will disappoint you, sometimes it will make you happy, and after marriage you may love and hate your lover.
When a woman says goodbye to her girlhood, a woman will have less innocence, because at this time you have left the protection of your parents, and when you become a parent, you must also begin to shelter your children, and your mentality has undergone a series of changes.
Although everyone has experienced some similarities, they need to enter the process of marriage, facing each other's seven aunts and eight aunts, and also facing the heartache of separating parents. But some people live more and more beautifully after marriage, but some people live more and more decadent after marriage.
Although we can't get around the arrangement of fate, we can sometimes make our lives colorful, and we can open up a broader world on this road that originally belongs to us, sprinkle our warmest flowers, and let others applaud us.
After marriage, the more beautiful women live, they all understand these two truths.
01.
Keep up the pursuit of your teenage years
When a woman gets married, she will slowly forget her girlhood self, because your life now is different from before, so you will have something new to do.
Some people maintain a particularly good wish in their teenage years, this wish may be that they will become a writer in the future, this wish may be that they will become a painter in the future, or they may hope that their future self will become a person with a particularly outstanding temperament and a perfect appearance.
When you are married, you have a mountain in front of you, and every time you do something, you have to climb the mountain. Especially when you have children, you may forget your dreams and forget your own pursuits. Most women forget everything and end up throwing themselves into the family.
After a few years have passed, you find that the friends around you are more and more wonderful, but the more you live, the more backward you are, the jade flower in the class did not look like you, but now you look inferior to each other, not because you are incompetent, but because you do not have the arrangement for yourself after marriage.
After a woman gets married, if she lives more and more beautifully, it means that this woman has not forgotten her pursuit and dreams as a girl, although you are now married and have become someone else's wife.
But you are still you, you are still a very independent person, you can still have the right to pursue happiness, and you can also have the right to pursue self-independence.
There may be some of your dreams and some arrangements in the family, there are some conflicts, so you choose to obey the arrangements in the family, so you lose your pursuit, once or twice, if you will do this every time, I have to say that you are a very cowardly person, you go down like this, will only live more and more sloppy, will not live more and more beautiful.
A smart woman knows how to keep her original intention, if there is some conflict between things in the family and herself, do not feel that the family is important, and sometimes you must weigh the pros and cons.
If you have achieved yourself now and will make the family better in the future, then you can achieve yourself. If saving the family will make you better and better in the future, then you can also save the family.
Therefore, when encountering some things, do not think that obedience to the collective is the most important, and sometimes have their own pursuits.
02.
Be kind to others and be kind to yourself
Gentle women, always smiling to sing the songs of life, never complain about the tempering that life gives. Reduce every failure to an attempt and not be inferior.
When a person makes some mistake and causes harm to this woman, the woman can still be gentle with others. Know how to give others a chance, but also know how to give themselves a chance, know how to give others a step down, but also know how to leave a way back for themselves.
When this woman encounters some trials in her life, this person may have some pain, but she will also use these trials as a weapon for future success.
Life may always suppress this woman, but sometimes women will not give up their original intentions, will not think of doing something to destroy others, let themselves get some benefits.
I have an aunt who is particularly filial, and when she married, this aunt was not outstanding.
At that time, the aunt was going to get married, I was a very small child, in the crowd saw the aunt sitting on the car, I think this aunt looks very old, at that time I still think this is the bride's mother, I do not understand the understanding I shouted in the crowd:
"Why does the bride's mother get in the car?" Instead of the bride going to the car? ”
My mom felt a little embarrassed to shout, reached out and covered my mouth, telling me not to talk nonsense.
But some time ago when I went back to my hometown, I saw that this person who had been married out for many years also returned to his mother's house, when I saw the other party, I was stunned that I did not recognize this person, that is, the person who married out that year, and later others called out each other's names, and I understood.
Although the other party is not good-looking, but the other party knows how to treat others well, but also knows how to treat their own family, the in-laws and mother-in-law served well, and later the in-laws are also willing to help this woman with children, because the in-laws have helped this woman bring children for many years.
So this woman has time to develop her own career, and many of the things in it, she has not done it herself, but she is thriving in her career.
When a woman has achieved something in her career, her appearance temperament is also different, and this woman has become very capable, with short hair, wearing special slim clothes, and looks much better.
Good and good are mutual, some women always think about how to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, and sometimes they think about how to deal with their mother-in-law, however, some people think of getting along well with this mother-in-law, filial piety to this mother-in-law. In the end, you will find that this mother-in-law will also help you with the children.
Of course, things are not absolute, there are some mothers-in-law who are really difficult to entangle, and these mothers-in-law are really evil mother-in-law. If you say you're with parents like that.
So at this time, you must let this person know how strong you are, and don't let the other party be on your head all the time. If you meet a kinder mother-in-law, you must also know how to get along with each other gently.
After marriage, women face every challenge, but smart women will cope with the challenges and live themselves more and more glamorously, while some women let themselves become more and more depressed.
In the family, it is indispensable for women to pay, but do not blindly pay for this family, or leave a little love to love yourself.