As of 2021, there are still about 9.02 million left-behind children on the mainland.
"Once the charger is pulled, goodbye is another year", this image and sad metaphor tells the current situation of many working couples.
Every couple who is struggling outside the home has a "left-behind child" waiting for them, and every reunion must face another separation.
Every year after the Spring Festival, sugar mothers can't bear to see the picture of husband and wife leaving home to work, the child holds the thigh and does not let go, follows the car where the parents are riding and cries and runs, and finally fails to let the parents stay. Many couples want to sneak away when the child is not found, thinking that everyone will not be sad, in fact, the child's reaction is more painful.
The couple sneaked away in the early hours of the morning, and the child cried sadly for 1 hour
Time always passes quickly, many people have not lived at home enough, they have to embark on the road back to work, and those with children are even more reluctant to go.
Recently, a couple was preparing to return to work, worried that their young children would cry when they saw them leaving, so they left in the early hours of the morning while the children were still asleep. Pack your bags, unplug the phone charger, and open the corner of the quilt to see the cute face of the baby before leaving, and the two of them walked out of the back of the yard, which made people look a little sad.
Or because the couple did not hear crying when they left, their footsteps did not hesitate or turn back, and they could not see that there was sadness, but then the elderly at home made a phone call or made them very sad.
It turned out that after the baby woke up in the morning, he had been crying to find his parents and cried for nearly 1 hour before he was coaxed. The couple is very distressed but there is no way, in order to earn money to give their children a better life, they have no other choice for the time being.
Once a year, when you go home to see your baby, are the parents of left-behind children really cruel?
Many people in the comments are saying that the couple is too cruel, how can such a small baby be willing to stay at home, and only one person can't work? Isn't it okay to take your child with you? But the family has a difficult scripture, and it is really not cruel to go out to work for a long time and not go home to see the baby.
Finally, the child's basic life is not carefully taken care of:
How to choose "bricks" and children? That most classic quote is not wrong at all. It is said that holding a child cannot hold up a brick to make money, but in the hearts of some people, only after holding a brick can they have the qualification and ability to hold a child, because they do not want their children to live a hard life and a poor life.
From the perspective of children's physical and mental growth, left-behind children will indeed suffer some adverse effects. Therefore, couples should try to accompany their children as much as possible in non-essential situations.
Whether parents know the suffering of left-behind children
The youngest left-behind babies may be only a few months old, and they simply don't understand what's going on. Most of the children who are most reluctant to leave their parents are children who reach the age of 3 or 4 in elementary school after the age of 1. They just want to be with Mom and Dad, regardless of making money.
When the child reaches the later stage of primary school, the self-care ability becomes stronger and more sensible, and can understand the parents to a certain extent, although they are very aggrieved when they are separated. But there is no crying. But parents should be clear that left-behind children, in addition to suffering from missing their parents, are not easy in other aspects of life.
First of all, left-behind children do not get good psychological counseling, they do not like to make friends in school, and they are often ridiculed and bullied by their classmates.
Secondly, even if the couple can guarantee that they will spend a lot of money at home every year to spend on their children, they may face the situation of estrangement and rigidity of the parent-child relationship, and future education is also a problem.
Of the left-behind children, about 89.3 live with grandparents or grandparents, 3.3% live in relatives' homes, and about 3.4% have no guardianship at home, while 360,000 (about 3.4%) are rural left-behind children who are unsupervised.
There are many left-behind children around Sugar Mother, if you have really seen their lives, you will know that the "psychology" of left-behind children needs to be taken care of more than being taken care of in their daily lives.
If you have no choice but to go out and work hard, the couple should pay attention to these few things
Life can not be perfect, choose to go out to work is also a helpless move, if you need to go out to make money can not take children, we must pay attention to these things.
1) Before the child is 2 years old, try not to go
If you can, try not to leave your baby to work before he is 2 years old, which is a critical period for the establishment of the child's attachment psychology, and it is also the stage when the child needs to be carefully cared for. If you miss this opportunity, there is no basic emotional cultivation, and it is difficult to remedy it later.
Even if you wait until your baby grows up and then goes out to work, you must explain the reason to him, so that the child knows that his parents are not abandoning him, so that he has a bottom of mind.
2) Frequent video and phone calls
Nowadays, the Internet is very convenient, and videos can be used at any time with mobile phones and computers. If you can't go home often, we often video call our children so that they can see our faces and listen to our voices. When chatting, pay more attention to and understand the child's life and learning, and ensure that there is always emotional communication with the child
In addition, pay attention to the fact that if you make a promise to your child when you are away, you must fulfill it in time after you go home, so that your child will not lose trust in us.
After you go home, you should pay attention to high-quality companionship, put down your mobile phone and play games with your children, or take your children out shopping to make up for the time without accompanying your children as much as possible.
Candy Mom has something to say:
As a person who came over, Sugar Mom is not very recommended to sneak away this way. Before separating from the child, let him be mentally prepared, such as telling the child the news that he is leaving the day before leaving; when separating, he bids farewell to the child generously.
Sad crying is inevitable, and it is better to say goodbye formally than to walk away quietly, otherwise the child will feel cheated and abandoned, and his heart is very hurt.
【Today's topic】With children and making money, how will you choose?