In the past, nibbling mainly referred to those who, after becoming adults, already had the ability to work, but still did not go out to work and relied on their parents to support themselves. Now, the scope of the meaning of nibbling on the old has been expanded, not only the money of the older generation, but even the energy must be "nibbled".
Case: Grandma can't move two babies, call grandma to help with the baby, and finally tragedy
After Ms. Zhang and her husband got married, she gave birth to two little male treasures within three years, Ms. Zhang and her mother-in-law lived together, after the eldest was three years old, Ms. Zhang considered the economic pressure of the family, so she proposed to let her mother-in-law take care of the little guy, she and her husband went out to work together, and the mother-in-law also agreed at that time.
But the eldest is three years old, the second is only more than one year old, it is the most difficult age to bring, Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law alone can not cope with it, so she called the child's grandmother to bring the baby together, the child's grandmother is 73 years old this year, and it is still healthy, so when taking the child is still a little sharp.
Of course, Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law is not only responsible for taking the children, but also responsible for making meals for the whole family, in order to save money, Ms. Zhang and her husband will also go home to eat at noon every day, so the task of cooking also falls on the mother-in-law, who is not busy taking care of the children every day, or is busy cooking and cleaning, which also makes Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law feel physically and mentally tired.
The child's grandmother is no exception, and she also circles around the child every day. Once the little guy has been making a fuss about running outside, but the old man just wants the child to be able to sit quietly, so he does not allow the little guy to run out, did not expect the little guy to break free, has been running outside, this time the grandmother in order to catch up with the little guy, when she got up, she accidentally twisted the waist, and this twist is still very serious, directly lying in bed to recuperate.
This is good, Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law task has one more task, that is, to take care of the elderly, in the face of such a scene, Ms. Zhang's mother-in-law is even more devastated, but also dare not tell her son and daughter-in-law, can only crush these grievances into the stomach to swallow.
01 The old man has been upgraded again, and after chewing on generation after generation, the old man under the new model is helpless and has a word of suffering
In fact, if you go to observe many elderly people with babies around them, they will find that they may be separated from their children for about two generations, the reason for this phenomenon is mainly because now young parents will rush back to work after giving birth to children, and the age of in-laws is relatively light, most of them are only forty or fifty years old, not yet to the age of retirement, which also leads to the task of taking a baby can only be handed over to the child's grandfather or grandmother, most of whom are around seventy years old.
In the past, most of the children's grandparents to bring the baby, and now the old age has been upgraded again, nibbling on this generation, and continuing to nibble on the elderly of the previous generation, the elderly face this situation, in fact, they are still very helpless, but sometimes in order to reduce the pressure of young people, so most of the time can only endure silently.
You know, don't say that the child's grandmother is too grandfather, even young parents with babies are very difficult, because the child is always like a useful energy, and the elderly's energy is less, more likely to produce fatigue, and the child is tired of playing may have some rest, and the elderly also have to be busy with some other trivial things, so the general old people are still more difficult to cope with the matter of taking the baby.
Moreover, now some young people not only give their children to the elderly to bring, but even have to go to the homes of the elderly to eat, but they do not pay any food fees, take the parenting of their parents as a matter of course, and even ask for good food and drink. You know, parents have no source of income at a certain age, just rely on a few hundred agricultural insurance every month, maybe the two old people's own life is OK, but lick two or three pairs of chopsticks, but can not afford to supply.
Therefore, if you want to eat and live with your parents, young people should also learn to give their parents subsidies, at least in terms of living expenses, other aspects must also depend on their own wishes, can not let the elderly both manpower and financial resources, that for the elderly, it is "worse".
Of course, for the current young parents, the pressure is also very large, the child to the elderly to bring is also the most ideal decision, but in addition, we can also take into account the body of the elderly, if the elderly are not in good physical condition, then do not let the child add trouble to the elderly, rather put the child in custody, or the mothers work hard for another year or two, wait until the child grows up, with the ability to take care of themselves and independence, the mothers can get out.
Conclusion: I also don't want young people to take the old people to help with the baby as a matter of course, to learn to be grateful for the efforts of the elderly, they actually have words of suffering, but for the sake of the children and are willing to bear some, so young parents should learn to understand the elderly, filial piety in front of the children, but also to play a certain role model for the children.