Compared with the past, the current in-laws tend to be younger, many people may become grandparents in their forties, and later in their early fifties, and at this stage, unless they are some housewives, in-laws basically have their own jobs.
Not to mention young people, the current social work pressure is high, naturally both have to choose to work, then in this case, who to bring the baby has become a big problem.
01 76-year-old grandmother helped with the baby, and collapsed in less than two months
Ms. Zhou's young daughter is 3 years old, because the family conditions are not so good, so she and her husband are going out to work, originally to give the child to the mother-in-law, but after the introduction of others, the mother-in-law also has her own job, in order to reduce the burden of the whole family, so four people are going out to work, this time the child can only be handed over to the grandmother.
The child's grandmother was willing to help take care of the child at the beginning, but after all, the child is only three years old, many things are not understood, and it is not convenient to take care of, unlike the children who have gone to primary school, and they may be able to understand the reasoning. This also makes grandma very busy, not only to prepare food for the children, but also to prepare food for the family, mainly to save money, so Ms. Zhou and her husband, as well as in-laws, will go home to eat.
In addition, because the child is not willing to stay at home every day, so the grandmother also has to take the child out to play from time to time, originally let the little one sit on the cart, so that the old man can push in the back, which is relatively relaxed. But the little guy is not happy, that is, to walk and run on his own, the old man can only follow the child's ass to chase, for the old man with inflexible legs, it is more than enough and insufficient.
After more than a month, when cooking once, the child's grandmother heard the child's "bang" sound, and then cried loudly, and when she rushed to see it, because the kitchen was too slippery and went in a hurry, she fell directly to the ground, resulting in a fractured thigh bone. At that time, the child did fall, but fortunately it was not serious. Or the next door neighbor heard the child crying for so long and no one cared about it before he took a look, only to find that the old man who fell to the ground and could not get up was really guilty.
Since then, the grandmother can only rest in bed, the child's grandmother quit her job, and the whole family has begun to regret giving the child to the grandmother to take, otherwise the grandmother will not become like this now, and the burden on the family has become heavier.
In fact, at present, many families have such a division of responsibilities, young children and in-laws go out to take the baby, and let the child's grandmother or grandmother take the baby. Many people think that this is actually a kind of "new type of filial piety", but also a kind of disguised nibbling on the old.
02 The old man has escalated again, and the old man has no words to speak out
As usual, it is more reasonable for the child to be brought by the in-laws and in-laws, but considering many family factors and the pressure of various aspects, many in-laws will also choose to go out to work, so they will think that the children with the baby are transferred to the child's grandmother or grandmother, and few people consider whether the elderly are willing.
It can be said that the old people have worked hard for decades, and in their old age, they should have enjoyed the blessings, but they have imposed a responsibility on them, and the old people dare not speak even if they are bitter. And many elderly people themselves are not very good, when with the baby is also easy to cope with, if you have to bear other responsibilities at this time, just like the grandmother in the above case, but also to cook for the family, it is even more hard, which is why many people say that this is a kind of disguised reason for nibbling on the old.
Before that, many people have been saying that young people handing over their children to their in-laws and mother-in-law is already nibbling on the old, and it is even more an upgraded way to give the children to the grandmother to bring.
In addition, many elderly people with babies are indeed more than enough and insufficient, as the age slowly becomes older, the energy is becoming more and more insufficient, may not be long after the activity, can not cope with the child, but must take care of the child, otherwise they are afraid of unexpected problems.
It is worth mentioning that many young people do not have any gratitude, hand over their children to the elderly, if there is a problem of small bumps, or children have some inappropriate behavior, they will blame the elderly, and even directly blame the elderly for not teaching the children well. The old man who was treated in this way was even more pitiful.
Of course, if the elderly themselves take the initiative to express their willingness to help and have a good physical foundation, they also need children to accompany them, then they can let the elderly come to bring, but young people can not be the treasurer, still should understand the needs of the elderly from time to time, as far as possible to reduce the burden of the elderly, rather than all the responsibility to the elderly, in the end there may be a little problem and blame the elderly.
Conclusion: The original task of the old man with the baby has been completed, and he should have enjoyed the blessings in his old age, but it is a love to be willing to help take the baby, not their duty, and the young people should be more grateful.