Many people say that bao moms give birth to three children, the most tired is bao mom, in fact, in real life, most of the families that have given birth to three children, the most tired person is not bao mom, nor is it the child's grandmother, but "someone else".
Case: The three children of the family were all brought to the grandmother, and the mother complained about gratitude
After Ms. Ding and her husband got married, they had three children in five years, which was more stressful for a family whose family conditions were not very good, and both were boys, if they relied on their husbands to raise such a large family, plus there was a mortgage to repay, every month was unable to make ends meet.
So after giving birth to three children, Ms. Ding at home to take the little one to the end of the lactation period, ready to go out to find a job, and the child's in-laws are also working, in order to increase income, the mother-in-law suggested that the child be handed over to the grandmother to take, the old man is now 69 years old, the body is also very tough, the child can also accompany the old man, it is more appropriate, Ms. Ding feels that this is a good idea, so the next day to hold the child to find the grandmother.
The child's grandmother naturally knows the hardships of the family, so she is willing to help. So when Ms. Ding found a job, when she went out to work every day, she and her husband sent the child to the grandmother's house, and then picked up the child after work, so the child's grandmother began to take charge of the task of taking the baby, and a family also operated like this.
Until one time, Ms. Ding came back from work to see two children watching TV, and it was very close to the TV, and the youngest baby was crying in the cradle, which made Ms. Ding see a very hot fire, thinking that the old man was too irresponsible, so she let the child go unheeded, so she said unhappily to the old man, "Grandma, how can you let them watch TV so closely, the child is crying you don't care." ”
The child's grandmother was also accused of being very wronged, she had just come out of the kitchen, she not only had to take the baby, but also cook, but also to take care of the three children, where can she take care of it, by the granddaughter-in-law so criticized, it is really a hardship.
After giving birth to three children, the most tired is not the mother, nor the grandmother, but them, and the young people are not satisfied
Now most young parents will go out to work, and most of the children's grandparents are also in their forties and fifties, it is impossible to retire so early, so that the task of carrying a baby naturally falls on the child's grandmother, especially in multi-child families.
Because the pressure of multi-child families is greater, the mothers also need to go out to work, the child's grandparents in order to reduce the pressure of young parents, to help the child, so they will continue to work, and sixty or seventy years old grandparents become the best candidates for the baby, because on the one hand, the age is not very large, on the other hand, the body bones are also relatively tough, leisure time is also more, and the elderly also have more experience with the baby, so it has become the most suitable helper.
So in most multi-child families, usually the child's grandmother is often the most tired person, but not the child's grandmother or mother. But even so, some young parents do not know how to be grateful, but feel that the elderly in the family to help with the children is a matter of course, if the elderly do not help with the baby, but may be criticized by young parents.
Of course, in most cases, the elderly are willing to help with the baby, mainly to reduce the pressure of the small family, but the young parents do not know how to be grateful, sometimes see some of the way the old man with the baby, but will feel angry, think that the old man is not reliable, with the baby is not scientific, will affect the growth of the child, etc., sometimes will be therefore contradictory with the old man, at every turn to the old man's temper.
Such things often happen in life, and it can only be said that this part of the young parents really do not understand what "contentment" is. The education method of the elderly is more traditional is very normal, perhaps some of their ways of taking the baby are indeed unscientific, but this is not what young parents can complain about, the correct way is to communicate patiently with the elderly, teach them the correct way to take the baby, and believe that the elderly of the previous generation are happy to learn, because the young parents and their purpose are the same, all in order to bring the little one well, education well. Therefore, they are also willing to use the scientific method to educate their children, and they will be happy to see their children well educated.
If young parents only know how to complain, or blindly blame the elderly, it is easy to cause more contradictions. Presumably this is not the situation that everyone wants to see, so do a good job of communication with the older generation, but also can not completely shake the hand, regardless of the child, still need to do a good job in the child's education work, otherwise if the child lacks the company of parents, they will also have a lot of problems in the process of growing up, after all, no one can replace the role of parents.