The most headache for couples is the problem of educating children, what you do not let your children do, the more you contradict you, the children do wrong, you are either criticizing or accusing, not only you are physically and mentally tired, but also make the children miserable. How many points do you think you can score for this dad's approach?
The child had just taken a cup of water from the table, and before he could take two steps, he fell down, and the water spilled all over his clothes, and his father was on the side. In the face of this scene, what will you do, whether to be angry or let the child handle it himself!
You will think from heart to heart, if this happened to you and your child soiled a new piece of clothing, how would you react? What is the child's reaction? Think about it, and then, let's look at this dad's approach.
This dad asks questions to let himself find a way to deal with it, which is a perfect score for family education. Most of the questions are nothing more than two, the first is to ask the child how he feels, whether he is injured, whether he has fallen, so that the child will rely on you. The first is to blame, think that it is the child's fault, how to be so careless, etc., the child will be particularly sensitive in the future.
It can be seen that the above two methods are not very good, one may come from grandparents, one from the mother. But this father thinks it doesn't matter, as long as the child is not on the line, this father's good mentality has played a role.
This dad's approach is not comforting, let the child think about what to do next. Your child will take off his wet clothes, change into clean clothes, and then wash his hair and blow dry his hair. Such a small child can be calm and self-assured, and he is not in a hurry or busy when things happen. It is not that the child does not grow up, but the child's opportunity to grow, groundless accusations or doting, it is better to encourage the child. Sometimes the endless fatherly love makes the child grow up imperceptibly.
Their husband and wife's family must live a very happy life every day, but it is just a child who wrestles, often cries, and is criticized by his parents, and the correct way to do it can let the child face it alone and grow up from it. In particular, the father's words of encouragement inadvertently educate the child, and all the emotions are a good day. Expecting children to grow up no longer fear difficulties, bravely challenge suffering, no big deal, get dirty by themselves, clean up by themselves, this is the power of correctly educating children.
Summary: Many times, most parents feel that educating their children is annoying, how children are disobedient, there is nothing to cry and love to make trouble, etc., stemming from our wrong way of education, making children become a heavy burden for us. When you encounter the problem of educating children, think about it, this father's approach, maybe there is an answer.