Child psychologist Tyman Johnson said: "Successful tutoring produces successful children, and failed tutoring makes children who fail." ”
The future of every child is in the hands of the parents.
The growth of children is the most important assessment form for parents in their lives.
Every school season, many parents feel that it is enough to hand over their children to the teacher and focus on their work.
However, the People's Daily clearly states:
Educating your children well is not only a matter for teachers, but also the most important cause for every parent in this life.
In the documentary "Guardian of the Liberation of the West 3", 9-year-old boy Xiaoyu steals something and is caught by the clerk on the spot.
When the police arrived, he was helpless and aggrieved.
He said he had only stolen it once.
He also insisted that he was instructed by his senior students to be beaten if he did not do so.
Throughout the narrative process, his thinking is clear, the logic is clear, and there are various details.
Even the police had a hard time detecting from his words whether there were traces of lying.
But soon, insiders revealed that everything the boy said was a lie he had fabricated.
Not long ago, the boy had already stolen something in the store once, and it was his mother who came forward to deal with it, and even his father did not know it.
On weekdays, my mother has a lot of work, can't take care of herself, and doesn't want to spend too much time disciplining him;
Dad was on the construction site all day, so busy that he didn't have the time or energy to understand his situation.
Nowadays, boys are young, full of lies, and even have the bad habit of petty theft.
Imagine if his parents continued to let him go, how devastating the consequences would be.
As a parent, it is understandable that you want to run more while you are young and strong, earn more money to support your family, and let your children enjoy the best eating and drinking.
But put all your mind into work and miss the golden age of accompanying and educating your children.
No matter how much money you make, you can't get back a child with three views and a good personality.
Former U.S. President John F. Kennedy said:
"Miseducation of a child is tantamount to discarding that child."
Don't think that working hard to earn money to support the family and satisfy the child is the best love for the child.
Many times, after earning a body of honor and money, the child is not a tool, enough to make his evening scene miserable.
Last year, my cousin, who was an executive at a large company in Shenzhen, decided to give up his high salary and resign to go home to freelance work.
For a long time, the cousin has been the "benchmark" among the relatives of the same generation.
Smart and talented, 985 graduate students graduated from the university, and after graduation, they directly entered the world's top 500 companies without interviews.
After 5 years of work, he has worked diligently and developed rapidly.
Not only did he rise faster than in the same period, but even the big leaders appreciated him very much and planned to send him to the Beijing headquarters to take up an important position.
Just when everyone was envious of his success, he suddenly decided to resign.
As soon as the news came out, everyone was stunned.
The reason for his resignation was simple:
Work is too busy, there is no time to spend time with the daughter, now the children are almost do not recognize themselves, think about the higher salary, or the daughter is more important.
Some people wonder, isn't it better for someone as powerful as he is to make more money for his daughter to spend.
But I understand it.
Nothing is more important than educating your own children. No matter how big the career is, it is not big enough to accompany the children.
There is a saying that goes like this:
If your child is well educated, you are a shareholder and will continue to give you dividends. If you are not well educated, it is a creditor's right, you are a debtor.
Nowadays, seeing his cousin often post a photo of a family of three in the circle of friends, the happiness on his face and the intimacy of his cousin and niece are really enviable.
In the eyes of others, it is not worth giving up such a good job opportunity.
But only he knows that the companionship of the child is gone; if he misses the child's education, it will be difficult to change it if he wants to change it in the future.
Speaking of this, I especially admire Zhou Yumin, who has recently become popular again with "Reverse Game".
Fans expect him to take advantage of the situation to chase and shoot a good drama.
Instead, he decided to take a break from work and go home to take care of his daughter, because he didn't want to owe her companionship anymore.
Professor Li Meijin said: "Family support is not only material, but also spiritual support. ”
No matter how rich the parents are, no matter how big the family business is, it is better to wholeheartedly accompany the child and educate and guide him.
Japanese educator Ibuka Dai display:
"Educating children is not a pastime or leisure, nor is it something that can be easily organized by spending money and time."
For children, there is nothing better than the guidance and companionship of parental love.
Regardless of the parents' economic conditions and living environment at this time, in the education of children, please be sure to do these three things:
1. Give the child the necessary care
Entrepreneur Kai-Fu Lee led his family out of the United States and returned to China, only to find that his youngest daughter was particularly unsuitable for Chinese education.
Learning can't keep up, there are language communication barriers, and you often fall into self-doubt.
To this end, Lee Kai-fu is busy again, as soon as he returns home, he chats with his daughter, constantly encourages and enlightens her, and insists on writing letters to give his daughter the strength to grow.
It is his meticulous care for his daughter, who slowly regains her self-confidence and becomes more and more motivated to learn.
He also trusts him more, and will take the initiative to share any problems with him and seek his guidance.
The relationship between father and daughter is as close and loving as ever.
The writer Su Qian once said: "Love and trust are not to come, but to be exchanged." ”
I want to win the heart of my child and protect him from all the malicious intrusions of the outside world.
Parents must observe the color, understand more about what the child is experiencing, and pay attention to and guide him in time.
Only in this way does the child know that he is important to his parents and that no matter what happens, he is willing to be close to his parents.
2. Guide children to establish the correct three views.
In an interview, Guo Jingjing talked about the situation of her husband Huo Qigang accompanying the baby:
No matter how busy you are every day, you will take time to spend with your children.
On weekends, he doesn't have to go to work, and his time is almost spent on children.
In the company, he would take his children to the street to sell flags and bazaars, or go down to the field to plant seedlings to experience the hardships of laborers, or wash his own car in exchange for pocket flowers.
The key to educating children is not to use the authority of parents to force children to become what kind of person they are.
Instead, in an atmosphere full of love, a little guidance children know what to do and what not to do.
There is not enough intimacy, and if the child is asked to obey the principle, the child will only feel offended and ordered.
Only when parents themselves do their duty first and nourish their children's hearts, can children continue to adapt themselves and become popular in the world.
3. Discipline your child gently and firmly.
Some parents worry that if their child has a problem, discipline will destroy the love and warmth between parents and children.
In fact, what a child needs to know most is what rules and boundaries he needs to keep, and how his parents will accept him or educate him when he makes a mistake or misbehaves.
Gentle and firm discipline, full of love, can also remind children:
Even if you are inadequate, we love you; you have places where you can't do it, and we guide you upwards with an attitude of responsibility for you.
A good education should be a combination of grace and power, so that it can get the respect and trust of children.
Buffett, the god of stocks, is not only the leader in the investment industry, but even the education of children, but also the object of emulation by many parents.
As a successful man of a wealthy country, he didn't think about how much money he wanted to make, how much property his descendants would own.
Rather, it pays attention to the education of children from an early age.
Do not miss the important places for your child, and communicate with your child about what happens every day whenever you have the opportunity.
Even when the children are young, they let the children work odd jobs to earn money and earn wealth by their own labor.
Although he has a lot of wealth and a great career, he does not ask his children to follow his old path and take the same life.
Therefore, under his careful companionship and sincere teaching, the three children are particularly independent and realize the value of life in their respective fields of expertise.
What exactly is the most important investment for parents?
There is always only one answer:
That's the kids.
To be a parent is nothing more than to hope that the son will become a dragon and the daughter will become a phoenix.
But the real success is to spend enough time on the child, to train him, to discipline him.
So that the child's future, in their own hands continue to add value, to the highest peak.
Investing in children is investing in the second half of your life.
Educating a good child is the greatest asset in this life.