Educating children is the most important and greatest cause of parents' lives, and the position of parents is not replaced; educating children is the most valuable long-term investment of parents' lives, which requires intensive cultivation. Work career miss can be repeated, once the child's education is missed, there is no opportunity to redeem, regret for a lifetime.
1, 0-3 years old, to build a sense of security for children, cultivate self-confidence.
Before the age of 3, children are still a symbiote with their mother mentally and psychologically. Everything in the outside world is unknown to babies, and they can only gradually establish their understanding of this unknown world through their parents' body language, emotional reactions, tone of voice, etc.
The smaller the child, the more psychologically fragile it is, and the more difficult it is to make up for the damage suffered. Dr. Maria Montessori says that children develop three years after birth, to a greater extent and importance than at any stage in a child's life. 0-3 years old is a critical period for the establishment of a child's sense of security, during this period, whether parents can establish a sense of security for their children determines the emotional connection mode of his life with the outside world.
No matter how important the parents' work is and how smooth the career is, if you miss the first three years when the child needs to be accompanied the most, it is equivalent to taking the child's future happiness in exchange, so, 0-3 years old, parents must take the child with them.
2, 3-6 years old, to establish a sense of rules for children, cultivate a sense of awe.
Dr. Maria Montessori pointed out that 3-6 years old is a critical period for children to form a sense of rules and early behavioral habits. Harvard University has shown that 3-6 years old is the most critical period for the cultivation of children's personality and behavior habits, which can be described as "wet cement period". 85%-90% of children's personalities, thoughts, and behaviors are formed at this stage.
A common feature of spoiled children is that the child's requirements are met immediately. Parents should learn to delay gratification and let their children experience the bottom line rules of the family.
Children do not establish rules before the age of 6, and even the best education is useless. Only by educating children to develop good habits and know how to abide by the rules, and establish the quality of self-discipline, can we have a lasting positive impact on children's future behavior and ultimately determine the success or failure of children.
3, 6-12 years old, to establish positive values for children, cultivate vision and pattern.
A family's blessing is the result of the joint efforts of family members. Meeting a master can affect a child for three or five years, but the influence of parents on a child is a lifetime. How big the parents' cognitive vision is, how big the child's development space is; the parent's mindset pattern directly affects the child's future prospects, and even determines what kind of person the child will become in the future.
Children's behavior is guided by intrinsic values, positive values necessarily lead to positive behavior; distorted negative values inevitably guide negative behavior. Once the child's values are formed, they have relative stability, and it is difficult to correct or change them, so the best time for parents to influence the formation of children's values should not be missed!
Teacher Wang Xulin said: Any excellent child is not born, but determined by a good family education of the day after tomorrow. Educating children is the most important and greatest cause of parents' lives, and the position of parents is not replaced; educating children is the most valuable long-term investment of parents' lives, which requires intensive cultivation. If you make a mistake in your work and career, you can start over, but if you miss it, you can't get it back.
There are three golden periods of children's education