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Some time ago, I saw a shocking statistic on the Internet:
At present, the detection rate of adolescent depression in mainland China has reached 24.6%.
As can be seen from this data:
Many children are facing serious psychological and emotional problems, and some cases also reflect that although some children look happy and normal on the outside, they are in a long-term depressed state inside, their words are not listened to, and they can only choose to use self-harm or even more extreme ways to escape the pain of reality.
But even with these examples or data, there are still many parents who do not care about their children's emotional problems.
In their opinion:
Those children will get sick because they are psychologically fragile and cannot suffer hardships.
They feel that they have created such good living conditions for their children, and the children cry out that they are uncomfortable and painful, but they do not know how to know enough, they are not sick, and they are looking for trouble for their parents.
That is, they don't feel that there is anything wrong with their parenting style and they don't believe that their children are being crushed by them.
In fact, it's really easy to hurt a child, and the child is really not as strong as you think.
Sometimes you don't need to hit him or scold him, and one of your actions or an expression can make your child suffer a big blow.
For example, the child has a good score, excitedly shows you his report card, wants to get your praise, but you criticize him for being too careless and not working hard enough to get a full score;
At home on the weekend, the child excitedly runs over to share with you the handicrafts he has just made, you are busy looking down at the mobile phone message, impatiently saying to the child: I am busy, you play by yourself.
Maybe you think these are small things that don't have much of an impact on your child.
But if you've ever heard of a psychology experiment, I'm sure you won't be so optimistic.
In this experiment, the psychologists chose two subjects:
A mom and her one-year-old child.
They first let the mother and the child play normally and happily, and it can be seen that the child is very happy at this time.
Then they let the mother look at the child expressionlessly, the child was a little panicked, he did not know why the mother was like this, he tried to use various methods to attract the attention of the mother, so that the mother became "normal" again, but the mother still had a straight face and did not respond. Finally, the child broke down and cried.
It can be seen from this that whether parents can respond to their children in a timely and positive manner has a great impact on their children's emotions.
Even if a one-year-old can't speak, he is sentient, he can feel any emotion of his parents and will be affected by this emotion.
Older children, on the other hand, have stronger perception and comprehension skills, and will be more acute.
So in your opinion, it may be a very small thing, or something that you have not noticed, which can become a murder weapon to hurt your child.
When the child needs to be affirmed, wants to get a smile and a hug from you, if you respond to the child with indifference and disregard, the child will be anxious, and in the long run, the child will collapse sooner or later.
Therefore, parents should not easily ignore their children's emotions.
If you are very busy at work, or because you do not understand what is the scientific education method, and you have hurt your child for a while, then take the opportunity to apologize to your child and communicate with your child, the child can actually understand and tolerate you.
For the child, he is just afraid of your neglect, afraid that you don't love him.
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