The child participated in the after-school tutoring, and as soon as he got home, he told the parents that I had finished my homework in school, and you let me take a break! As a result, as soon as I rested, it was time to go to bed. And parents say, you read a book or do some homework. The child said, after the school is done, besides, the teacher did not let me do it, I did not do it. Parents are worried about their children's learning, do not understand what their children have learned? I want to intervene but I don't know how to do it. I work with a lot of parents.
The first trick is to make a plan with your child
During the time from home to bedtime, make a plan that suits you. Make a plan that must be with your child and respect your child's opinions. Some parents themselves are very assertive and feel that their children are also very obedient, so they help their children make a full plan and let the children strictly implement the plan. When the child is young, it is ok, and it is also suitable for children in the first and second grades. Starting from the third grade, after gradually having your own ideas, you will slowly talk to you about the conditions and find various excuses. As we get older, this phenomenon will increase.
So how do you make a plan? First of all, be sure to involve your child, and think more about it from your child's point of view. Make a plan that suits your child's age characteristics. For example: the child returns home 1, dinner. 2. Help with housework. 3. Read thirty minutes of extracurricular books. 4. Exercise for 30 minutes. 5. If you participate in an interest class (piano), practice the piano for an hour. 7. Preview. 8. Wash up and go to bed at 9:00 on time.
Secondly, the plan must be in line with the characteristics of the child, so that he is interested and willing to take the initiative to do it. You just need to be reminded and supervised. As a parent, be sure to remind your child in time. Some children, at first interested in improving, are bored later.
Finally, make an agreement with your child. After making a good plan, it can be carefully implemented, and it can be discussed, if a week can be insisted on completing, it can be properly rewarded, and the reward can be larger for a month. Of course, if there is something that cannot be done, it is appropriate to encourage, and if it is not done, it can be properly punished. For example, help mom and dad do more housework and so on.
The second trick is that parents should play a role in supervision
We worked with the children to develop a plan so that parents could rest easy. It's not the case, a good plan is a piece of paper if it's not implemented and if it doesn't take action.
Children naturally love to play, and at the beginning they are seriously implemented, but after a few days, they gradually can't stick to it. At this time, you stand up and encourage your child to persevere. As a parent, there must be supervision in place, and the younger the age, the more you must accompany you. While supervising, you can complete it together. Don't let it go.
I have met many parents, who are very serious at the beginning, but in the end, they can't stick to it, and the result is obvious. Children can't do what they plan. A good child must be followed by an excellent parent.
The third trick is that parents should lead by example
It seems to be about the teacher, but many times mom and dad are more important than the teacher. Children are the shadow of their parents, so at home, parents should lead by example and be a good example.
The child is reading the extracurricular book, we are next to it, put down the mobile phone, pick up a book, and read it with the child. Not only will children improve their concentration, but we will also gain something. The child is doing chores at home, and you are next to him to complete it, enjoying it and enhancing the distance and feelings between you and the child.
After-school tutoring has been going on for a semester, some parents have adapted quickly, and their children are getting better and better. If you are still confused, I hope that these three tricks of mine can guide you to the confusion.
