996, the internet buzzword that was first used to describe the Internet work system, has now become the normal work of current workers.
If you've never experienced 996, you're embarrassed to say you're a hit worker. At present, this state of work, which belongs only to adults, has seriously affected children.
How many people are tired of running and working hard in the tedious work, how many children are silently waiting at home for their parents to accompany them for a long time, although they live together, they gather less and leave more. And these waiting children are all "left-behind children of 996 parents".
plight
According to the "2021 China Urban 996 Children's Growth Status Report" released by Tencent News Guyu Data, it was found that 85 out of every 100 urban children aged 6-12 belonged to "996 children".
Their parents are always busy working overtime, starting a business, working hard, of which the income above the standard of 10,000 yuan accounts for nearly 30%, they can provide children with rich material and living conditions, more willing to kryptonite for children, but there is not enough time and energy to devote themselves to the growth process of children. These children may not lack material resources, but the lack of parental company will make children uneasy.
Mom, am I not important for a job?
Dad, why didn't you take me out to play football?
Why do other children have mom and dad pick-up and drop-off, but I don't?
The year before yesterday, I saw a viral post on Douban titled "996 people have children, what to do?" Netizens described it this way: the child stays with the nanny and the elderly for a long time, and when he sleeps at night, his parents have not yet left work, and when he gets up in the morning, his parents are already on the way to work.
My neighbor to the door is in such a dilemma! Both of them are engaged in the advertising industry, one is AE, the other is design, for endless customers, overtime classes, it can be said that it is the benchmark of 996!
For this reason, they specially invited an aunt to help with the child, at first the child will cry, do not want to let the parents go to work, but slowly, the child is used to their disappearance, sometimes travel for a few days, the child also behaves indifferent. But as soon as the aunt takes leave, the child will be unhappy, and will cry with a shriveled mouth and say, "I miss my aunt, and I want my aunt to sleep with me." ”
For their children, parents are dispensable, and aunts are true love.
The hardest thing in life is not "996", but doing the work of "996" and still wanting to be a good parent.
Even if you're busy at work to provide better financial conditions for your children, the absence of companionship will only make your parent-child relationship worse. When you want to make up for it later, the long-term sense of distance is difficult to repair.
settle
The left hand wants to survive, the right hand wants to accompany the baby, how do we achieve both in the dilemma? Four words: see stitches.
#01
Use morning and evening, see stitches
Australia's "national dad" Bruce Robinson is a university professor and lung disease expert, with a full daily schedule and overtime. But when his three children recall their childhood, the most talked about was that their parents accompanied them to breakfast and sent them to school.
So we can spend a few minutes in the morning having breakfast with our kids and talking about interesting things that happened yesterday. In the evening, you can tell your child a bedtime story.
But don't use parenting software to broadcast stories to your children! Because no matter how good the dubbing is, it can't compare to the voice of the parents.
When the child is in your arms, he will pestering you to ask questions, and you will answer the child's questions. This can not only establish a good parent-child relationship, create a warm family atmosphere, but also help children enrich their knowledge in all aspects.
#02
Using a mobile phone, see sewing pins
Everyone knows the "Fu Lei Family Letter", since Fu Cong went to Poland to study classical music at the age of 20, in the past 12 years, Fu Lei and his wife have written nearly a hundred family letters. The words of advice in the letter, a sound of relief, accompanied by family letters, comforted Fu Cong's wandering heart, and gave Fu Cong warmth and strength. Although the heavens are different, the family letters build a bridge in their hearts.
Similarly, mobile phones can also establish an emotional connection between us and our children.
We can take advantage of the fact that our children are at home after school and on weekends, and take the time to use their mobile phones to make a video call to their children and ask them how their day is going? Is there anything to say about being happy or unhappy? Or tell your child when you'll be home and show your love by giving your child a kiss before hanging up the phone.
If you really need to work overtime until very late, after returning home, the child is estimated to have slept, at this time you can record a video in advance, the content can be hanging out in the office, or it can be to tell a story and send it to the family to show the child.
Although it is better to accompany each other face-to-face than across the screen, let the child see himself and hear his own voice, and the child will also feel your sincerity and love. When the child thinks of you in the future, his heart will be full of strength and he will feel warm.
epilogue
Maybe we can't escape 996, but 996 can't erase our love for children, there are no tired adults in the world, and what is needed between accompanying children and completing work is not to give up but to balance.
As long as you cherish the limited time of companionship, find the right way, and give the child true love and attentive companionship, this family affection will not be lacking due to the barrier of time and space.