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Some time ago, a video was brushed in a certain tone: the couple and the younger son sat in the car, the eldest daughter and grandparents stood behind and watched the car drive away, the eldest daughter cried tearing her heart and lungs, and her eyes were full of reluctance and helplessness.
This mother also wrote a seemingly very warm text: Daughter, sorry, let you become a left-behind child, you have grandparents at home, but the father only has the mother and brother, the mother is not willing to let the father get up early in Shenzhen and greedy, the mother and the brother have passed, your father is tired at least there is a spiritual sustenance, you study well at home, you are worthy of the father to raise you so hard.
When this mother posted this video, she should have felt that she was great, and she was moved to cry. But it makes people read with anger. First of all, this mother is so clever PUA, this said, reminds me of Qiong Yao's classic line, you just lost a leg, and what she lost is love, as if her parents are sacrificing for the family, and if the daughter is not obedient, she does not understand things.
Moreover, these statements are really naked patriarchalism. At that time, I was miserable, and replied to this mother, you are obviously a son preference, and you can't go to work with your son, why don't you take your daughter with you, or stay in your hometown to take care of two children. Then he was blocked by this mother.
Coincidentally, the same is true of a relative next to me. When she gave birth to her eldest daughter, she was weaned just after the full moon and let her mother-in-law take her back to her rural hometown to raise her. Later, he gave birth to a son, and he and her husband took their son to live in the city. My son began to enroll in various talent classes at the age of three, and now he is confident and confident, and he looks like a child who grew up in the city. And the eldest daughter is still playing in the mud in the countryside. At the same age, the son enjoys various education and training, but the daughter waits in the countryside to attend primary school. Seeing this contrast, I really don't know what to say? Little girls will also have a question from an early age; they are the children of their parents, why they and their brothers are treated so badly.
Senior son preference: Leave the daughter in her hometown to become a left-behind child, and take her son to work in the field. This happens in many couples, but they don't admit to preferring sons to daughters.
If you can't afford it, don't give birth, you can't have one to take with you, you have to keep a child
Children's childhood is only once, and what children need most when they are young is the company of their parents and fathers, so that their bodies and minds will be healthy and they will be more capable of facing the future wind and rain. But if you throw your child in your hometown from a young age, the child's most critical years do not have the company and teaching of parents, although grandparents can also let children eat and wear warm, but the elderly can never replace parents, children's family education is grandparents can not replace. Left-behind children who were brought up by their grandparents from an early age have more psychological problems, and those childhood injuries from an early age need to be cured through a lifetime.
Not to mention taking one and keeping one, or leaving all the children in the hometown, the two children go out to work well to earn money, improve family conditions, and the children can accompany each other at home. Or take the child with you, no matter how difficult it is for the family to be together, the child has the company of his parents, and the days are bitter and sweet. But how much psychological damage will be caused to the child who stays with one child, many selfish parents are not willing to think about it at all.
【Topic Discussion: What do you think of this mother's words?】 】
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