Two people come together, and if appropriate, every detail is tender; if not, every fragment is torture. Everyone is looking forward to entering a marriage, but not every marriage

Two people come together, and if appropriate, every detail is tender; if not, every fragment is torture.

Everyone is looking forward to entering a marriage, but not every marriage has a good outcome.

One couple's marriage has long since broken down, but because of a house, they dragged on for 9 years.

For 9 years, because the house was not properly negotiated, men wanted to divorce, but women did not cooperate.

In the end, the man's brother could not see it anymore, hired a lawyer, and solved the tug-of-war in 3 days.

Sadly, they wasted 9 years of good time for a house.

Isn't a woman miserable in this marriage?

The answer is yes.

But if you think about it, what really makes people feel painful is not the ruthlessness of the other party, but their hopeless but stubborn persistence and expectation.

Some people say that marriage is unhappy, and there are two solutions:

First, divorce, simple and rough, fast and efficient;

Second, if you don't want to divorce, start with yourself and try to change;

But many people hover between these two answers.

They neither want a divorce nor bother to take the initiative to change.

So there is this conversation:

Why did I change, not him, and why?

— Then you tell him to change. If he had known how to change, he wouldn't have become like this.

— Then get a divorce.

— It's not that I don't want to leave, but what should I do if I have a divorced child?

In this way, the chat enters an endless loop.

This is the current situation of many people who are unhappy in marriage.

In the face of a broken marriage, who suffers is who changes, who needs to compromise.

Human nature has a weakness, the more despicable it is, the less it is loved.

There is a couple where the woman is very fierce and the man has no status at all in the family.

The man thought, "I can't bear her like this; if I can't bear it, she won't torture me to death."

As a result, for more than ten years, women's tempers have also become more and more serious, and many times they have violated men's bottom line.

The man really couldn't bear it, and had a big fight with his wife, and as a result, the wife not only did not dare to do anything to him, but slowly became gentle.

Another couple, the husband cheated, the woman thought: "Bear with me, if you can't bear it, he can't divorce me." ”

She endured for three years, endured a body of illness, lying in the hospital for surgery, looking at her two white-sided parents around her, she finally made up her mind.

As a result, after she filed for divorce, her husband knelt down and begged for forgiveness.

Many people think that sacrifice and flattery can make a marriage happy.

Not really.

The truth is who suffers and who changes, and who needs to compromise.

As long as you are willing to change, the greater the possibility of happiness.

In the face of a marriage that can no longer be repaired, the only way out is to "break away".

When there is a problem in the marriage, it will only make it worse.

If you have compromised, changed, or not satisfactorily, it is better to try to choose to face the worst outcome.

The worst times have already survived, no matter how bad, no matter how bad the results, how bad can it be?

The wrong person is the wrong person, and the other party will not find out because of your tolerance.

Ye Zi and her husband married through blind dates, and after marriage, they lived more steadily.

A year later, she gave birth to a child that didn't look different.

However, when the child was half a year old, the husband cheated on a woman whose husband had liked before marriage but had not been able to be together.

After the spread, the husband did not have any remorse, and also said that if he was willing to endure, he would continue to live, and if he could not bear it, he would listen to his honor.

She also tried to save it, but in the end she was dead hearted.

For the next two years, she ignored her husband's presence.

She said that although she did not plan to divorce, she was always ready for divorce.

Good feelings will make people feel at ease; good marriage will make people feel comfortable.

Therefore, when the marriage is unfortunate, don't hold on hard, when people's hearts are not there, cut off their expectations, let go of their inner obsessions, and stay away from the sad years.

Regardless of men and women, don't lose yourself in a failed marriage, try to break away from the past, and restart a new life, is the wisest choice.