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Being good at finding lessons from historical experience, being good at finding experience from the lessons of others, exercising and improving ourselves is a shortcut for us to avoid detours.
Today, I will summarize and share with you the experience and lessons of major choices in life and less detours, hoping that they can help you take fewer detours.
The first lesson is not to make important decisions rashly without research, from what clothes to wear to work, to whether to resign and jump ship, we have to make countless decisions in this life, large and small, but what really affects the direction of life is actually only a very small number of conceptual decisions. For most people, these decisive things are nothing more than choosing what university to go to, choosing what job to do, choosing who to marry, and the result of these decisions will directly affect the state of life many years later. Therefore, if time permits, we must do our best to do in-depth research. But according to my observation, the degree of arbitrariness before many people make major decisions is not much better than ordering a dish in a restaurant, for example, I am like this, then in the first semester of my junior year of high school, I basically determined that I wanted to apply for the Chinese department in the future, and then, I checked the national theater Chinese on the Internet. The top five schools in the ranking crossed out the obviously unable to pass the exam, and then referred to Baidu Encyclopedia to basically lock in my first choice school, which is so sloppy. After that, my research on it is basically stuck at the level of finding the law from the score line of the calendar year, what is the advantage of teachers, the policy of research, academic characteristics, urban development potential, related industry levels, internship opportunities, graduate employment destinations, etc., all of these factors have hardly entered my decision-making framework, and even after the college entrance examination is obviously beyond the level of play, I did not adjust the scope of voluntary inspection in time. There may be friends like me who are willful and volunteer. Later, I bought a house, employment and other issues also appeared again and again, although major decisions that have not been studied in depth may not necessarily lead to bad results, but they will make the process seem like gambling.
The second lesson, did not start investment and financial management as soon as possible, before the age of 28, my financial management level only stayed in the money into regular savings is a notice deposit, 28 years old I only because of the hot so-and-so Bao'er knew that there is a monetary fund such a thing, to 30 years old I opened my own stock account, 32 years old to seriously read the financial management books, began to invest in index funds, nothing else, the last read financial books or fixed investment index funds, if I can start three years earlier, The financial situation will be much better than it is now. Almost everyone wants to make money, but very few people have studied the methods and laws of wealth accumulation, so I sincerely recommend that you start paying attention to this matter as soon as possible.
The third lesson is not to make good use of their own resource advantages. After I graduated, I entered the media industry and have not left for 11 years. I can say that I am most familiar with this industry and am also the best at my skills. However, in the past decade of this wave of new media, I did not identify and seize the good opportunity as soon as possible, not that I was not keen enough, in fact, I registered and updated my account in 2013, downloaded a certain tone in early 2017, and registered a book last year, but it was not until September 2021 that I officially began to produce my own self-media content regularly. The four full years of 15, 16, 17 years, and even 2018, which are full of incremental dividends, have been perfectly wasted by me. The simple reason is that although I am very familiar with the industry, I do not really realize how valuable the resources and skills I have at my disposal are. I found that similar problems exist in many people, and people are more accustomed to complaining about their own industry, half of their minds are on work, and the other half of their minds are thinking about changing careers. In fact, each industry has its own unique resources, depending on whether you are good at discovering and using. We may not be able to eat the turnips in other people's fields, and the potatoes in our arms are actually very fragrant.
The fourth lesson, not realizing the importance of intimacy early on, is probably the one thing I regret the most, is that I didn't learn how to build and manage intimate relationships at a younger age. In the past, I would take my work career very seriously, I would take it very seriously, regard independence as success, regard dependence as weakness, and think that not getting married was fate or not meeting the right person. What about friends who have similar ideas? Welcome to play inside the barrage. But it wasn't until recent years that I realized that in many other things, I might have some talent for doing things well just by feeling. But in the establishment and handling of relationships, I definitely belong to the people who need to work hard to learn and make up lessons. Relationships are a mirror, and it is only from the other side that we see our own shadow side. The relationship is the cultivation field, without experiencing subversion and crushing, there is no way to transform and reshape, the relationship is a safe haven, giving two people more courage to explore the outside world, the relationship is a real value investment, the longer the time, the more gifts will be received. I have witnessed many people who have established good relationships and their lives have begun to change, but unfortunately I did not realize this earlier. I know that many young people are very indifferent to marriage and relationships, and they are indeed doing well alone, but I still believe in the importance of relationships for the growth of two people. Well, that's the lesson a 36-year-old would like to share with you today.
To summarize:
First, distinguish which decisions are really important, and do your best to gather information and research.
Second, learn the knowledge of investment and financial management as soon as possible and plan your own belongings.
Third, make good use of the resource advantages you have and seize major opportunities.
Fourth, learn early and get into intimate relationships.
