Women learn to forgive themselves for these three "flaws" and your marriage will get better and better!

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Text | Miss White

In today's society, the requirements for women are getting higher and higher.

It is necessary to be able to make money and educate children; to cook and wash everything, and to take care of men.

Obsessed with work, some people say that you are too ambitious and disregard your family; being a housewife, and some people think that you are a mother who can only reach out to your husband for money, and it is too difficult to be a woman.

Desperately trying to maintain a perfect image, but found that they were paying more and more, and their lives were getting more and more tired.

You know, no one in this world is perfect. Another way to express love is to accept your imperfections.

In marriage, learn to forgive yourself for these three shortcomings, and you will get better and better.

01

Can be appropriately selfish

Bo Bonnie has a saying: "For many women, marriage is a long effort. From the moment she got married, her efforts were actually a lifetime. “

A woman's love is a kind of continuous lifelong giving, when in love, she gives everything to the man, and after marriage, she puts all her enthusiasm into the chai rice oil and salt at home, and is willing to eat.

No one in this world likes to give without asking for anything in return; if there is, then it must be because she is in love.

However, not everyone who is willing to give can be treated equally.

You are always busy paying, and in the end there is nothing but the name of a "good wife and mother"; you are afraid that men will not do well, that the children are too young, and that they will take care of everything.

Whether it's marriage or career, the more selfless you are, the easier it is to be slighted.

Many times, women who are a little "selfish" will be more likely to get the attention and love of their families. Because they reject self-sacrificing efforts and have the capital to grow themselves, they can live the life they want.

This kind of selfishness is not only to love oneself, but to first let oneself live as a light, and then to illuminate the people around you.

02

Allow yourself to be lazy

Among the many adjectives that describe the beauty of women, there is such a word: industriousness.

It is true that hard work is a virtue, but it is too diligent, and it is easy to raise a man who does not understand gratitude and does not understand understanding

Boiling water to cook you to dry, laundry and mopping the floor you to do, pick up and drop off children, serve the in-laws or you; finally you find that men become taken for granted, pouring a cup of water are waiting for you to dry, children come to reach for food to open their mouths, and lose their temper at every turn;

You're like a robot that can never rest, ready to give everything for this home.

No matter who you fall in love with, learn to be lazy. Cook and cook, let him play a hand; wipe the glass and sweep the floor, let him change the water to wash the rag.

Learn to be lazy, discuss, or spoil, men can feel that they are needed, and slowly will pour more energy into this family and take on more responsibilities;

Learning to be lazy, children understand that their parents will one day let go, so as to learn to be independent, learn to cherish, and learn to understand the difficulties of parents.

03

Allow yourself to be "ignorant"

Backstage saw a fan message: "My husband always praises me for being gentle and gentle, and never making unreasonable trouble." When it rained, he forgot to bring an umbrella and never let him pick him up; he couldn't get out of bed when he was sick, so he resisted on his own.

Gradually, my husband was a little impatient with my attitude. I was amazed that I was so sensible and never bothered him, so why would he? Didn't he personally praise me for my understanding? ”

To be a woman, you can't be too sensible.

You know, not everyone can understand your efforts, and some people naturally don't know what empathy is. Your forbearance and accommodation are in their eyes a bottomless weakness and flattery.

You want to be praised, you want to be recognized, like you want to make everyone happy with your own efforts, but you never think about whether you really want to do that.

Silly woman, did you know that "flattery" is like a poppy, and it is addictive.

You always care too much about other people's opinions, afraid that others will blame you with "ignorance", comfort yourself with understanding, do not dare to fight for your own things, do not dare to think about what does not belong to you, and finally find that you have nothing.

In fact, some things can not be exchanged for "understanding", on the contrary, when you show your fangs, some people will understand the meaning of respect and equality.

The German writer Hesse said: Willfulness is the most underrated virtue.

Whether it is friendship or love, if you need to do everything you can to please and tolerate, then this relationship must not last.

True understanding is to please oneself before understanding others.

There is only one person in this world who deserves your life to please, and that is yourself. In a healthy relationship, you will always be relaxed and bright, please yourself first, and then learn to get along with the world.

Good women end up getting only one "good" word, and bad women end up getting all of them.

Although the "sensible" you have grown up, I still wish you to become a "less sensible adult, do your best to fight for what you like, and have a heart that is not ashamed when you fail."

May you dare to say no, cry when you are wronged, laugh when you want, no longer be careful to please others, and first learn to please yourself.

In the future, no matter who you meet, don't bother to worry about it, and play the perfect woman in the eyes of others.

Learn to accept these three "shortcomings" of yourself, and you will find that your life is getting smoother and warmer.

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