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Marriage is our second rebirth, you can't decide where you are for the first half of your life, but you can decide your happiness for the second half of your life.
Someone once said: "Only talk about marriage and do not talk about feelings, marriage is the graveyard in the heart of love; only talk about feelings and do not talk about marriage, love is the rogue in the heart of marriage." ”
I deeply believe that a good marriage is based on love, and if there is no love, everything is just empty talk.
I don't know when it started, but as more and more people divorce, the odds of many people choosing a second marriage have also greatly improved.
In this regard, a series of questions arise: Will the reorganized family be happy?
Naturally, everyone has their own answer to this question. Unlike people who have experienced an unhappy marriage, people who remarry happily will live with enthusiasm.
And they recognize these three things.
1, choose to remarry, the purpose is not to escape
There is a saying that says, "Life is not something you can escape if you want to escape." ”
Indeed it is.
Life is full of too many variables, and, there are some things that you don't want to escape from, and it won't happen.
For example, the "marriage change" will always be unexpected, perhaps, the original love of the couple in the eyes of the outside world, without a word, received a divorce certificate.
This is all that we cannot influence.
The same is true with regard to remarriage.
Since we choose to start a new life, we must understand that our purpose is to pursue happiness, not to escape the eyes of the outside world.
Just like the marriage of Tianhou Faye Wong, her emotional experience, like a legend, fell in love with Nicholas Tse in the early years, and later broke up, met again in middle age and chose to divorce Li Yapeng and re-be with Tse Tingfeng.
I have to say that Faye Wong's remarriage is not to escape from her existing life, but to be herself again.
In front of Nicholas Tse, Faye Wong will also want to give gifts to each other like a girl in love, and the two spend romantic time together.
That's what marriage is all about.
Not to please anyone, but to be yourself.
And as ordinary people, we should also do this. Don't deny love because of the unhappiness of your last marriage and don't want to start over.
Know that happiness is created by yourself. In this way, we can have a future.
2, choose to remarry, first reflect on their own problems
There is a saying that refuses to reflect, "let the past pass", often leads to a dead cycle of suffering.
It is true that people who do not know how to reflect will never realize their mistakes.
The same is true in marriage.
Even if you choose to get married after divorce, you will think more about it, but you can't ignore your own problems.
After all, with a failed marriage experience, you have to change the deficiencies that led to you. Otherwise, it is difficult to go to the whitehead with the person you love.
Netizen @Shunmu shared a story of his own.
He was married twice.
In the first marriage, his wife was his college classmate. Because the two are in love with long-distance running cultivation results, so the first two years after marriage are also very sweet.
However, with the birth of the child, his temper became more and more violent, and sometimes, not only did he not quarrel with his wife because of a little contradiction, but also because of the child's crying, he would yell at the swaddled child.
This makes the wife feel very uncomfortable.
Then, because of the lack of work and the nagging of his wife, he began to beat his wife, and the other party could not bear such a marriage, so he filed for divorce.
He did not object.
Later, for a long time, he was living in a muddy state, and he was also thinking: whether he was too emotional to personally ruin a marriage.
After the epiphany, he met his second wife, this time, he let go of his violent disposition, tolerated and cared for each other, and lived happily.
It can be seen that there has never been an unhappy marriage, only a lover who does not know how to reflect.
We always complain that our lovers are too wordy and disrespectful to ourselves.
But he never thought from the other person's point of view: maybe he was tired, maybe he was just worried about himself.
Therefore, if we have experienced an unhappy marriage, we must reflect on ourselves before we re-encounter true love.
In this way, you will be happy.
3, choose to remarry, but also believe in love
Many people will experience a failed marriage, full of bruises, and no longer believe in love.
But what's the point of that? Doesn't change anything. Because, when you are crying for each other's sadness, perhaps, the other party has already had a new love, and the only one who can't get out is ourselves.
Why bother?
As there is a saying, "Remember that dignity is not sought, but earned by yourself." ”
This sentence makes a lot of sense, and dignity is earned by oneself. Love does not believe in tears, the more humble you are, the less the other party cherishes you.
So, divorce is nothing, and when you remarry, you can still choose to be happy.
Just like Zhou Xun, she has had 6 marriages, and every time she tries to love, she has never lost her expectations for marriage.
A few months ago, she divorced her 6th husband, and netizens commented: "If I hadn't seen the hot search, I wouldn't have known she was married." ”
Who says it's not?
Zhou Xun is already an elderly actor, but on her face, she can't see the traces left by the years, she is still so charming.
It wasn't until the hit drama "Xiao MinJia" was released that everyone understood: this actress who has been married many times turned out to be so good.
She was divorced and remarried, but she still believed in love.
I thought: That's what we deserve respect.
Everyone is a passer-by in our lives. It's just that someone leaves, someone can stay.
Life has never failed anyone, only we ourselves can not break free from the prison and immerse ourselves in the past time.
If you can, may you wait while you work hard. The right person will meet you at the end.
Xiaoyuan's message: Remarriage is a common phenomenon in today's society.
Even if there will be many problems in reorganizing the family, only if it can be solved rationally, there is no obstacle that cannot be overcome.
As an adult, because there are too many concerns, you can't say what you like like a child.
We are always careful, and we always miss happiness.
If you've ever been divorced, don't lose faith in love either. As long as there is love in the heart, everyone will have their own happiness.
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