In the long river of life, we will meet and know many people, and even some people will become extremely close friends.
When you are young, you feel that you have friends, and you often regard your friends as more important than your relatives. But the further you go, the more you find that some people are doomed to not be able to complete the journey of life together.
Whether you are excellent or mediocre, there may always be some people around you who will dictate your life and judge you from the moral high ground.
You treat them as friends and treat them with all your heart and lungs, but it is difficult for you to gain equal friendships.
When you are young, everyone has a time to look at people, and the need for friendship varies at every age. After the age of 30, when you still have these two kinds of friends around, please be sure to stay away from them.
01 Look down on your friends
In "White Night", it is written: There are two things in the world that cannot be looked at directly, one is the sun, and the other is the human heart.
In this life, people cannot avoid dealing with all kinds of people. Especially when you are young, most people like to call friends for a life, because the days when there are friends together, the world will be colorful.
But making friends is also exquisite, when you are young, you have no scruples, everyone eats, drinks and has fun together, it is just a pleasure, and when you reach a certain age, you must learn to screen the people around you.
Some people in the name of friendship, but do not get along with you with sincerity, on the surface seem to be your friend, but behind the scenes, they look down on you at all, and degrade you to nothing.
You tell him everything you say, but he keeps pretending to be using you. Even when you are in a low valley, it will stomp on you fiercely.
Mr. Yang Dai said in "Walking on the Edge of Life" that in this materialistic world, life is really bitter enough. If you are an honest person who has no quarrel with the world, people will use you and bully you, and if you give in generously, people will infringe on you and harm you.
Be friends with someone who looks down on you, and you'll never get peer-to-peer friendship from him. He grabs the desired benefit from you, uses it and kicks you aside.
He always thinks that what you do is wrong, saying that nothing is right, you carefully match the costume, but he sneers at your figure; the copy you write late, he scoffs after reading it...
You carefully selected the gifts you gave him, but he threw them aside... You show 100% sincerity, but he repeatedly tramples on you. Such a friend, please be sure to stay away from him.
Before the age of 30, you have the opportunity to trial and error, and after the age of 30, such a friend will only hit your confidence and vision to nothing.
02 Negative energy friends
Do you have any friends who are very "lost"? Say some discouraged words every day, complain about the unfairness of fate but never reflect on their own problems, see others succeed, and they will say that there are "hidden feelings" behind people.
Often post some very sad sentences in the circle of friends, look at social phenomena in various ways, and what things become abnormal in his mouth, as if his failures are blocked by others.
People with negative energies are like a black hole, trapping themselves in it, over-amplifying pain, and allowing themselves to live in torment. And in this state, he will continuously suck away the positive energy of the people around him, and even pull it into the abyss.
After the age of 30, it is the most critical period of life, career, family has just started, if you mix with people with negative energy all day long, it is difficult to say that you will not be extremely impacted.
Near Zhu is red, near ink is black.
Since childhood, we have been asked by our parents to "be with those classmates who have good academic performance and positive performance, and stay away from those poor students who do not love to study and often make trouble."
Because a person's growth environment will be affected by the surrounding factors, and parents desire us to grow into excellent people. With motivated people, subtle changes will affect psychological changes.
For example, if you are surrounded by people who love to learn, you will unconsciously pick up books. If you are surrounded by some negative energy friends, then your emotions will also be affected, followed by negativity, sluggishness, and even depravity.
Sometimes negative energy friends are not necessarily aimed at you, but you are involuntarily affected.
Hearing friends complain and blame, and seeing friends fall into pessimism, you will become more and more unhappy.
Teacher Jia Pingwa said that the circle of friends is actually the world of your life. Your circle of friends represents your aesthetic and life level.
A person has no way to choose his own origin, but what kind of friends he makes is able to decide for himself.
Choosing friends and making friends can make friends play a positive and powerful role in their own lives.
Only true friends can help you get through the difficult times in the critical moments of life and correct them in time when you make mistakes.
And those who look down on you are useless to you except to extract the value you can use; people who are surrounded by negative energy will not bring you any benefit except to make you negative and pessimistic.
Many of the troubles in life actually come from the interaction between people and people.
With luminous people, you will eventually become radiant; with inappropriate friends, your view of life may change.
People live, do not have to please all people, even the best people, there will be some people who do not like.
So, be the one you like, you don't have to make friends for the sake of making friends.
You know, friends are not earned through hard work, but met when running on their own paths. It's no big deal for a person, run up, there will be a lot of people waiting for you in front of you.
After the age of 30, you must understand that on the road of life, it does not matter if you are lonely, but it gives you more time to think, in fact, you do not need to spend all your energy on communication.
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