Yesterday I took my children out to class, and several parents sat together and talked about their children. It's a lot of fun, so I'll share it with you.
A mother said that my children are particularly lively, do not love to learn, love to move around, a day is not enough to play.
Mother B said that my children love to learn, and they scolded in the room all day and did not go out to play, but their academic performance did not see how good it was!
Mother C began to boast about her children. Said that his son stays in the room every day to study, for the child's learning, she has never cared about the child, nor has she made up lessons, but the academic performance is particularly good, as for the child's athletic ability, it is really a bit poor, the future college entrance examination needs to be tested to get sports points, do not know what to do?
Listening to the words of these three mothers, I also have my own thinking, should children love to play well, or should they love to learn well? Is it that every child who does not like to play and only learns will win at the starting line?
With these questions in mind, I flipped through a lot of educational books. It turned out that the so-called loss at the starting line had little to do with whether the child loved to play or love to learn.
For a child's future, the real starting line is actually the vision pattern, mind and way of doing things for children's parents. As for the growth of children, in fact, they all have their own growth laws. If you want your child to grow well and run far on the road of life, the education method of pulling up seedlings and promoting growth is absolutely impossible to commit.
Smart parents respect their children's growth rules. It will only control the child's general direction, rather than whether it is fun or willing to sit quietly. After all, every child has its own characteristics, and the difference in each lifestyle and personality also determines the difference in children's behavior and behavior, and some so-called differences will also determine the trend of children's future development.
Some children grow up a little, can run and jump, like wild horses that are out of control, they are naughty and naughty, they don't like to stay at home, they like to run outside, but the future of this kind of child cannot be said to be bad. Often such children are very creative and have the ability to communicate with people.
Other children, on the other hand, like to sit quietly and do what they like at home. You can't say that this kind of child must be a bully. We can only be sure that this kind of child's concentration is relatively good, they can sit still, and they may engage in some technology or quieter jobs in the future!
In fact, after the two types of children grow up, there will indeed be some differences. For example, those who like to be quiet, like to be alone, and study something are often more likely to succeed as adults. Because their personality is more quiet, and their concentration is better. And those children who raise their legs and run out, presumably have a very cheerful personality, and the place to succeed is usually in social skills.
Of course, our society also needs some extroverted people, people who are more capable of communicating with people. in a word. When parents can not blindly require that children must love to move or must love quiet. On the basis of conforming to the child's personality, it is of course the best to be able to combine dynamic and static, and when it is impossible to do so, then respect the child's natural attributes.
On the road to parenting, we are all novices, how to take better care of children, you can pay attention to me, and discuss with me those things on the road to parenting.