In 1992, Wang Shuo and Ma Wei both led their children to an antique shop. Wang Shuo's daughter Wang Mi pointed to an old watch and said she liked it. Wang Shuo asked for 800 yuan, and without saying a word, he bought it.
Ma Wei was shocked by Wang Shuo's behavior, at that time, people's monthly wages were only 300 yuan, and Wang Shuo was really willing to do it. Ma Weidu had said more than once that Wang Shuo was a person who really regarded money as dung, and this time, he saw it again. However, Ma Weidu still said: You are really willing, 800 yuan is not a small amount, don't spoil the child. Wang Shuo's reason made Ma Wei unable to refute it, he said: I should spend money for my daughter, I just want those stinky boys to know, 800 yuan don't want to cheat my daughter. Wang Shuo's education of his daughter and his parents' education of him are two completely opposite models. Wang Shuo was born in the military compound, his mother was a doctor, his father was a soldier, and it is said that many people are envious of such family conditions, but only by being in it can they understand the hardships inside.
Wang Shuo was sent to a nursery school just after he was born, and his parents took him back at the age of 10, before Wang Shuo did not know that he was born by his parents, thinking that the child was born on the assembly line. Before the age of 10, he did not feel the warmth of the family, after returning home, it was not much better, Wang Shuo was naughty, and the education method used by his father was to fight until he could not move, so Wang Shuo had a lot of resentment towards his father. After the birth of his daughter Wang Mi, he thought that he must be good to his daughter, to give her a front stand, no matter what her daughter does, he will support and tolerate, never like the father, will only hit the child.
It was only not long after his daughter was born that Wang Shuo experienced a lot of things, and he could not get by with a lover and wife, and he was suppressed by the literary circles and ran to foreign countries. He missed many of his daughter's growth moments, and later Wang Shuo recalled that he felt particularly ashamed of his daughter, so after he returned to Beijing, he doubled down on his kindness to his daughter. His daughter didn't like to study, and he didn't blame her, he asked her: Don't you want to take the first place? My daughter said: I am afraid that I am too good at studying, and other children will have inferiority. Wang Shuo smiled and had the demeanor of a father.
To this end, he specially ran to the school and told the teacher: The child does not love to learn, you do not give her too much pressure, we as parents will not blame you, you do not blame the child. It is estimated that the teacher will be very surprised to hear this.
Generally speaking, if his daughter wants anything, Wang Shuo will buy it for her, so he doesn't want to buy the watch for 800 yuan. When her daughter was in high school, Wang Shuo sent her abroad to study, here, there was not much pressure to study, Wang Mi found her own interests, her academic performance soared, and finally entered the University of Berkeley. Wang Shuo was very pleased that he did not force his daughter to study, but that her daughter took the initiative to become excellent. Wang Mi grew up and fell in love with the son of the famous painter Zhu Jianxin, and on the day of the wedding, many of Wang Shuo's good friends were present, but he was absent. Friend Chen Danqing said: This is very normal, Wang Shuo does not have the courage to hand over his daughter personally, he can't hold it.
Indeed, Wang Shuo has been strong in front of the media for a lifetime, and he is afraid that he will not be able to stop crying, and simply do not participate, and this tear, sooner or later, he will still flow out. Speaking at the wedding, the daughter said: "I am particularly fortunate to have a pair of very tolerant parents who let me grow up freely, and even in the days when I left them, their love has always protected me. ”
When his friend relayed this passage from his daughter to him, he still cried. Wang Shuo once said, "I am a hooligan, who am I afraid of," but in 2002, when his father, brother, and friend Liang Zuo died one after another, he felt so close to death. When he thought that he could only leave his daughter alone to face the world after he died, he had too much intolerance. For this reason, he wrote a book specifically for his daughter to teach her how to live in this world. Wang Shuo said: Boiling soup is more important than writing poetry, and you must be rich in your heart in order to get rid of the superficial similarities in life. It contains a summary of Wang Shuo's life from half a life.
Wang Shuo's many parenting concepts are different from most families, he said: Home should be a place of infinite tolerance, if the child makes a mistake, he does not even dare to go home, then where can he go.
Wang Shuo has always given people the feeling that he is not afraid of heaven, looking for your daughter to be born, he has a soft rib, he gives all his tenderness to his daughter, so no matter how he is in other aspects, at least in the eyes of his daughter, he is an excellent father.
