Zi Yue: "Parents are here, not far to travel, travel will be good", since ancient times, family affection has always been a topic that we Chinese cannot avoid.
No matter where you are, no matter how old you are today, no matter what job you do, as long as your parents are still there, they will always be the warmest harbor for children.
"The mother's hand is threaded, the wanderer's clothes are clothed", and "the mother is bitter and the child is not seen, and the child is uneasy", in the pen of ancient poets on the mainland, countless poems praising motherly love have been recorded.
However, we are surprised to find that there are very few poems and songs that involve fatherly love.
Fatherly love
In the eyes of our masses, Father's love is silent. He will provide you with the backing in your most difficult moments, he will provide you with the strongest arm when you cry, and he will guide you when you are lost.
The famous writer Wang Shuo left a deep impression on everyone that he was uninhibited and free, and he was mercilessly "shy" of everyone.
In fact, Wang Shuo also has an unknown side, he left his gentleness like water to his daughter Wang Mi.
In 2013, Wang Mi and her boyfriend Cinnabar entered the palace of marriage.
On the wedding day, Wang Mi's relatives and friends came to the scene to send the most sincere blessings to the couple, but at this warm time, the scene did not see the figure of her father Wang Shuo.
Wang Mi married
A lot of people are puzzled by this.
Why would Wang Shuo, who has always held her daughter in the palm of her hand and spoiled her as a baby, miss the most important moment in her life?
In the end, It was Wang Shuo's good friend Chen Danqing who gave the answer:
Wang Shuo was instigated.
He did not dare to face the scene of his daughter marrying someone else, he did not dare to imagine the moment of separation from his daughter, so on the day of Wang Mi's big wedding, Wang Shuo actually chose to escape and hide at home to feed the cat.
How did Wang Shuo educate his daughter? What kind of warm story happened between him and his daughter?
The prodigal son turned back
In 1958, Wang Shuo was born in a military family, and at that time, Wang Shuo's family conditions were relatively good, and it can be said that he was a well-off family.
Wang Shuo
Many people envied Wang Shuo's family environment, but few people knew the pain in Wang Shuo's heart.
When he grew up, Wang Shuo followed his parents to a military compound in Beijing to settle down, and every family living here was a figure with a head and a face, and they had a great influence on Wang Shuo's growth.
As the second child in the family, Wang Shuo, like the other second eldest, often does not get enough attention from his parents.
Like most fathers and mothers, his parents tend to care only for the oldest child and the youngest child, but rarely greet the children in the middle of the age.
Since childhood, his parents have always pursued the education of Wang Shuo as "filial piety under the stick", and the requirements for Wang Shuo are very strict.
Not only in terms of learning, but also in terms of being a person, parents also have high requirements for Wang Shuo.
Because the father and mother have been very busy at work, they basically have little time to take care of the children personally, and such a growth experience has caused Wang Shuo a lot of harm, resulting in him always feeling that he lacks a sense of security and lacks the company of family affection.
Every time Wang Shuo was sick, her mother always got notice from the nurses in the hospital before rushing to the hospital.
After dealing with Wang Shuo's affairs, her mother quickly left the hospital and went back to her work.
Regarding the memory of his father, Wang Shuo is almost reluctant to mention, his father is very strict with Wang Shuo, every time Wang Shuo makes a mistake, his father will be mercilessly scolding, in Wang Shuo's eyes, his father has always been the most severe father in the world.
In the parenting model of his parents, Wang Shuo developed a sensitive introvert, sentimental, and insecure personality.
Without the correct guidance of his parents, Wang Shuo became extremely rebellious in adolescence, never listening to his teachers, and often working against his parents.
After many years of opposing his parents, it was not until the year of his father's death that Wang Shuo understood that it was time for him to reconcile with his parents and to reconcile with himself.
Wang Shuo has been introverted since he was a child, and his greatest hobby is writing.
Just when the college entrance examination was resumed, Wang Shuo insisted on writing while preparing for the college entrance examination.
Wang Shuo's work conference
He submitted his articles to many magazines, and after publishing them, they caused a huge sensation, and people remembered this writer with a special literary style.
Many years later, many of Wang Shuo's works have also been remade into movies and TELEVISION series, providing a lot of spiritual food for the people on the mainland.
Not only that, Wang Shuo's literary talent has also won him a beautiful love.
Love story
In 1984, Wang Shuo met Shen Xujia while playing at the Beijing Dance Academy.
Wang Shuo and Shen Xujia (left, second from left)
Shen Xujia, who had a pure appearance and extraordinary temperament, immediately attracted Wang Shuo.
Wang Shuo fell in love with the girl in front of him at first sight, and he secretly swore in his heart that he must chase Shen Xujia to the hand.
After the two met, Wang Shuo launched a fierce pursuit offensive.
Wang Shuo was very good at taking advantage of his advantages, and he began to write love poems to Shen Xujia madly, and Shen Xujia, under Wang Shuo's fierce pursuit, gradually attracted to his talent, agreed to his pursuit.
Although Wang Shuo's economic conditions at this time were very bad, he would also give Shen Xujia the best life within the scope of his own economy, and in order to give the other party the best life, he was also willing to "climb the grid" every day.
Wang Shuo and Shen Xujia (first from right, second from right)
The sky paid off, and Wang Shuo's diligent writing every day was finally rewarded.
By writing articles, he got a lot of writing fees, which is undoubtedly a huge fortune for this economically stressed couple, and their living conditions have finally improved.
In order to commemorate their love story, Wang Shuo also wrote a novel "Surface" based on two people.
"Surfaced"
Two young people who love each other have finally entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
The Road to Marriage Change
In the second year after marriage, the crystallization of Wang Shuo and Shen Xujia's love came to the world.
Wang Shuo was ecstatic about this. After an unhappy childhood, he did not want his daughter to follow his old path again, he wanted to leave the best life for his daughter.
In order to make his wife and daughter live a better life, Wang Shuo redoubled his efforts to work outside.
All the things in the family were left to Shen Xujia to take care of, and Shen Xujia naturally knew in her heart that Wang Shuo's difficulties were not easy, so she never complained.
Although the life of Wang Shuo's family is not very rich and noble, the small life of a family of three can also be regarded as a tasteful life.
However, such a happy life did not last long.
Wang Shuo worked outside all day, saw the bustling world, experienced many different experiences, and met many new people. He was blinded by the world, and finally derailed and took someone else's hand.
Hearing such news, Shen Xujia was devastated.
Wang Shuo cheated
Over the years, she has been taking care of her daughter alone, taking care of her daughter meticulously, and putting all her energy into her daughter, but who would have thought that she would take care of the family wholeheartedly in exchange for such a result.
The family has a loving daughter
After her parents divorced, Wang Mi was taken to the United States by Shen Xujia and lived with her mother.
In order to make up for the child's missing fatherly love, Shen Xujia was doubly kind to Wang Mi.
Under the careful care of Shen Xujia, Wang Mi was not affected by her parents' divorce and spent a happy childhood.
Wang Mi
Wang Mi has been very considerate of her mother since she was a child, and she has never let her mother be sad and sad.
When her mother is in a bad mood, Wang Mi is always the first person to find out, and she is also the one who has been with her mother to comfort her.
Wang Shuo naturally knew that he was indebted to his ex-wife and daughter.
In many, many moments of his daughter's growth experience, Wang Shuo did not give her enough companionship, which has always been an eternal pain in Wang Shuo's heart, so he has always hoped to compensate his daughter in his heart.
Wang Shuo's way of educating his daughter is completely different from his father's attitude towards him.
Due to the huge psychological shadow caused by the scolding of his father when he was a child, Wang Shuo vowed not to let his daughter, who was also under such pressure, and he has always taken the way of "free-range" for her growth.
Wang Shuo supports all of her daughter's interests.
He would never force his daughter to learn any skills, or must be at the top of the class, as long as her daughter liked, she could bring her happiness, and all her hobbies, Wang Shuo gave him the greatest support.
Wang Mi's grades are not good, Wang Shuo has never blamed her, but instead greeted the teachers in advance, asked the teachers not to be too strict with Wang Mi, and told the teachers that the children's grades were not so important.
Under Wang Shuo's way of education, Wang Mi grew up healthily.
Although her parents divorced, the original family gave her enough self-confidence, and also allowed Wang Mi to develop a cheerful, sociable, optimistic personality, which also had a great impact on her future life.
Later, after studying in the United States, Wang Mi's personality advantages were reflected.
Coming to an unfamiliar environment, maybe everyone is more or less uncomfortable, and even some people can't slow down for many years, and Wang Mi is extremely adaptable, and she quickly accepts all this new life.
The schools in the United States and the education system in the mainland are completely different, there are not so many rules and regulations, support the free development of children, and give children the greatest personal space, which happens to be Wang Shuo's attitude to Wang Mi's education from childhood.
Before coming to the American school, Wang Mi's academic performance had been very bad, and she was unknown in the class. However, after the environment changed, Wang Mi seemed to have found a learning method that really belonged to her.
Here, Wang Mi has plenty of time to develop her own interests and hobbies.
The free learning atmosphere, cheerful classmates, and teachers who are also teachers and friends all make Wang Mi feel extremely fresh, and here, Wang Mi found her true belonging, that is, art.
After graduating from high school, Wang Mi came to the University of California, Berkeley to study art history, and when she saw that her daughter had found something she really loved, Wang Shuo was happy for her daughter.
Daughter married
After graduating from college, at the strong request of her father, Wang Mi returned to China.
When he first returned to China, Wang Mi's job search has been very unsuccessful, seeing his daughter running into walls everywhere, Wang Shuo is very uncomfortable in his heart, and has always wanted to help his daughter, but Wang Mi has a strong personality and resolutely does not accept his father's help.
But fortunately, Wang Mi finally relied on her own efforts to find a job suitable for her and came to a newspaper as an editor.
By chance, Wang Mi came to France for a tour, where she met a young man with similar interests to her, cinnabar.
Cinnabar's father is zhu Xinjian, a famous painter in the mainland, who grew up in an artistic family, and cinnabar naturally heard about it and was very interested in art.
Wedding scene
Two young people hit it off, whether it is art history or family environment, both people have a lot of common language, such a tacit understanding is rare, and a strong fate binds the two together.
Soon after they met, the two quickly fell in love.
In the eyes of outsiders, whether from the perspective of age and appearance, or from the perspective of the growth environment and family environment, Wang Mi and Cinnabar are both talented women and door-to-door pairs.
This pair of lovers has received heartfelt blessings from many people around them.
When it came to the age of talking about marriage, Wang Mi and cinnabar chose to join hands with each other and spend their lives.
Feng Xiaogang at the wedding
Wang Mi's wedding came up with many famous social figures: Feng Xiaogang, Jiang Wen, all kinds of literary giants...
They all came to the wedding site on purpose to witness the happiest moments of the two couples.
However, this happy picture is missing only one important person, that is, Wang Mi's father, Wang Shuo.
At a time when everyone was confused, the famous painter Chen Danqing relieved everyone of their doubts.
Chen Danqing
As a good friend of Wang Shuo, he naturally knew very well what Wang Shuo was thinking in his heart, and naturally knew the real reason why Wang Shuo chose not to appear.
Chen Danqing told everyone that Wang Shuo loved his daughter too much, so there was no way to hand her over to others, no way to see her daughter and another person walking across the red carpet, and no way to accept the truth that her daughter had left him.
Just when everyone was gathering together, this "father-in-law" was hiding in the house by himself, secretly crying while feeding the cat, and he was reluctant to marry his daughter from the bottom of his heart.
Although Wang Shuo divorced Shen Xujia when Wang Mi was very young, he did miss many important moments.
Wang Shuo and his daughter
But it is undeniable that Wang Shuo loves his daughter very much, which is also an important reason why he is so reluctant to marry his daughter, and he is not willing to give his treasure to others.
After understanding the story of Wang Shuo and his daughter, we naturally understand why Wang Shuo did not dare to face his daughter's departure and did not dare to attend his daughter's wedding in person.
Maybe it is the expression of deep love, perhaps only the deepest family affection will have such a performance.
Wang Shuo's educational method is worth learning from many of us, he does not put academic performance and "having a career" in the first place, what he cares about most is always the real feelings in his daughter's heart.
It is precisely because of this that Wang Mi will be so sunny and so confident.
Compared with the tenderness of mother's love, father's love is more like a mountain, always behind your back, supporting you.
No matter what difficulties you encounter, whether you are tired or tired, he is always there with his hands open, waiting for you to come back.