The New Year is coming, many sisters will face the first time to go home with their boyfriends to meet their parents, to be honest, to see the parents is definitely a hundred times more nervous than the interview, in addition to their own performance, it is more important to observe each other's family atmosphere.
However, there are often many small couples who are not prepared for anything before meeting their parents, and even directly tell each other to meet in a hurry, which does not leave a good impression and lets the other parents directly reject this "future daughter-in-law".
But even if some couples are fully prepared, they still make each other's parents dissatisfied or even disgusted, what is wrong?
Here's an inventory of mistakes you make when you meet parents:
"Rushing to do the housework"
Many girls make the mistake of going to the man's house to eat, rushing to wash the dishes after the incident, and even taking all the housework into their own hands. It's true that you want to show your own virtuousness, but you rush to show yourself by rushing to do housework, and the next time you don't help their family with housework, you are likely to be labeled lazy.
The right thing to do is to go to your boyfriend's house and politely ask if you want to help, which is a kind of respect for his parents. If the other parent actually asks you to wash the dishes, you can ask your boyfriend to help, instead of letting him play with his phone on his own. Properly show that you are not a good and lazy person, but also appropriate "lazy", then his parents will have a higher impression of you.
"Too self-cooked, casual, not reserved"
I believe that most parents will say when they greet their sons and girlfriends: Just treat this place as their home. This kind of polite words some girls will take it seriously, as soon as they arrive at home, they will start all kinds of fuss, grin and don't care about each other's parents' opinions, and even lie directly at home, lazily waiting for their boyfriends to feed and so on.
These behaviors will become unreserved in the eyes of the other parents, and even think "This girl's family, I can't see that the personality is like this." In fact, as long as you pay a little attention to your own words and deeds, understand the preferences of each other's parents in advance, if you really don't know how to respond when you get along, you can also signal to let your boyfriend help, which is better than your own blind collision.
"Casual complaints"
In the process of meeting parents, the indispensable topic is: What do your parents do? How's your job doing lately? What friends do you play with? At this time, don't think about pleasing your future mother-in-law, expose everything you have, try not to mention what you should say, don't complain about how your original family is, don't say that you get along with your friends, and don't complain to his parents about his work.
Otherwise, it is easy to give the other parent a feeling: you are pessimistic, not easy to satisfy a girl.
Finally, if you want to make the other parent completely satisfied with your "future daughter-in-law", you also need to remember the three small suggestions of Huang Yue, the star mentor of the Broken Mirror Reunion Company:
01
Don't be too close to your boyfriend in the process of meeting: although young people are more open, the elders are still more conservative, and we need to pay attention to intimacy when we go to the house, don't show affection in this "public place", otherwise the elders will only think that you are a casual girl.
02
Don't go along with your parents to count him down: many parents will politely count down their sons in chat, telling you to be more responsible, then don't go along with your parents to count down your boyfriend, saying that he is not good at anything. As a parent, no one wants others to count down their children, most of them are decent, you just need to smile and nod.
03
Don't call your boyfriend in front of the elders: Maybe in daily life, your boyfriend will spoil you into a little princess, and many things are done by yourself, but when you go to the other person's house and ask him to help you do this and that, his mother will inevitably be unhappy when she sees it.
"Seeing the parents" is largely a good move to promote the relationship between two people in love, in the face of various unknown situations that may exist in the middle, we are naturally nervous and anxious, and in addition to full preparation, your attitude is the magic weapon to win.