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A reason for self-persuasion to maintain a chicken feather marriage is for the sake of children; and the dissolution of a bad marriage is also a reason for self-persuasion — for happiness. "Children" and "happiness" have become two defensible "reasons" for adults to survive marriage, and children seem to be hedging against the "happiness" of adults, and adults seem to "throw everything away" for "happiness". So, when the marriage of the husband and wife is unsustainable, just for the sake of the children, should they divorce or continue to last?
Quite a few couples, when the marriage has been cornered, they have not divorced, the most convincing reason is only one, that is, for the sake of children. Divorce transforms children from primitive two-parent families into children of single-parent families, from a "strict father and mother" family model to a single parent model of "one person being both a father and a mother". Children's growth and educational environments, including in schools and limited social contacts, are generally perceived as aggrieved by children from single-parent families in the form of adult thinking, at least not as sunny as life.
Ah Hui and her husband Dahu have been married for ten years, the two have an 8-year-old boy, probably in the year of marriage "seven years of itch", the two couples are numb to the terrain and tasteless white water, in addition to living under one roof, the interaction between husband and wife is basically nothing. Occasionally talk about a few words, but also about the child's things, Ah Hui even did not bother to pay attention to the big tiger night is not home whether to drink too much, or with what "red face" night chat can not go home; and the big tiger is the same, guarded for five or six years of "love enemy", a crush on Ah Hui for seven or eight years of "male girlfriend", he actually looked away, before this did not argue with Ah Hui, now? There are mouths that do not ask, and deaf ears.
Ah Hui did not complain that he was "a widow", and DaHu never pointed at Sang Huai, saying that he was "too difficult to be a monk", and only his son was maintained by their husband and wife. The two once calmly talked about breaking up, which is strange, right? The big tiger did not bother at all about the "male girlfriend" of his wife, and Ah Hui did not emphasize the shadowy "red face" around the big tiger, but only exchanged views around his son. Obviously, the big tiger can't stand his son living with his mother, because Ah Hui does not dare to guarantee that he will not marry again, and if Ah Hui marries again after divorce, what if the person who remarries "abuses" his son? In the same way, Ah Hui also pestered her son to be disliked by the "stepmother". The divorce was put on hold indefinitely.
The child is the crystallization of the love that the husband and wife once had, and when the love disappeared, the "crystal of love" became the "bondage" that the couple could not break up, or the child became the "obstacle" for the couple to pursue happiness. Think about it carefully, this is just a grandiose "throwing pot" reason for the couple who are holding the crippled and deficient, how many children of single-parent families have been "miserable" after their parents remarried? There are many reasons not to divorce, maybe the husband and wife have feelings, may not have confidence in remarriage, or "red face" or "male girlfriend" is not reliable, but the marriage survival under the pretext of children, in addition to the grand sound of "throwing the pot", in fact, the main thing is to let their soul as a father and mother be comforted.
Parents have no choice, as children of single-parent families, children are still parents, just a different way of life. The child's growth process may have a small part of the lack of father's love or maternal love, and may also cause the child's lack of self-confidence or even inferiority to a certain extent, but do not underestimate the growth of people, the vast majority of children in the process of growing up more and more confident and become stronger. For example, the stars in the circle Mao Xiaotong, Qi Wei, Wang Ziwen, Wang Ou, Zhou Xingchi, Sun Li And Deng Chao, Jay Chou, Shu Chang, Liu Yifei, Liang Chaowei, Maggie Cheung, etc., they/they grew up in single-parent families, are they/their strength and excellence worse than those artists who grew up in two-parent families?
There are also those couples who have not chosen divorce because of their children, do not look at the "stars", only look at the people around them, how many people have a miserable and miserable relationship after divorce? It is estimated that few and more people have started a new happy life. Therefore, the minds of adults are sometimes so shameless, using children as an excuse to maintain marriage, is this not to let children bear the guilt of their parents' unhappy marriage? The future of happiness is their own struggle, children are not a stumbling block to adults' pursuit of happiness, adults who are unsustainable in marriage only need to deal with their children's life and education, insist on companionship (the party who loses custody can also accompany them regularly), their own happiness and the healthy growth of their children can be achieved at the same time. Please don't use your child as a shield again, your child can't afford it.