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Recently saw such a video, a full-time mom holding up an ID card to report her husband.
She is a full-time mother for six years, because she has no job with her baby, and she has also seen her husband's eyes, and her living expenses have reached out to her husband, but her husband has calculated the amount every time, and in the end, she needs to make an IOU, and her husband will give her money.
In addition, her husband also abused her three times in front of the child, each time because of a trivial small thing, even if the domestic violence against her, the husband has never apologized once.
Such a married life made her feel extremely depressed, and at first she would use her enthusiasm to impress her husband, and then there was only cold war and silence between the two.
Married for 8 years, the original phrase "I raised you" has now become "I borrow you", and her husband is financially embarrassed by her, making her completely disappointed in this marriage.
However, during the epidemic, if you want to find a job, you also need time, your children also need to be taken care of, and she can only pick up her ID card to expose her husband on social platforms.
Seeing this woman's story reminds me of the "56-year-old self-driving aunt", Aunt Su Min became popular because of self-driving travel, and the reason why she traveled by car was that it was too depressed at home.
She and her husband began to make AA when they were young, and it is not that she likes the AA system, but that her husband has to figure out everything with her, and eventually the two people can only AA system.
Aunt Su Min, like most Chinese women, endured all the unfairness in her marriage for the sake of her children until she retired and fulfilled the responsibilities on her shoulders, by which time she was already depressed.
She told herself that she could not continue to be so depressed, she saw on the Internet that others were very envious of self-driving tours, so she drove the car that her daughter bought for herself, bought a roof tent, and began a self-driving life.
How much grievance does a woman have to suffer in marriage?
The grievances given by men have to be tolerated for the sake of children, as if women enter marriage, patience should become a compulsory course for them.
But who cares about their own thoughts?
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Not long ago, a 21-year-old pregnant woman who was two months pregnant jumped into the river, and in the suicide note she wrote before she died, she apologized to everyone, and she felt that she was too cowardly to fit in with everyone.
She wished she could live in her own world as she had done in school, thinking about nothing, just going to school, going home, writing homework...
In her suicide note, I saw a girl alone facing the helplessness of all relationships after marriage.
At the age of 21, she should have developed better, but she entered marriage prematurely, and married life is far from being as easy as when she was a girl.
If you're lucky, marriage can lead you to a good life, and if you're unlucky, marriage can stifle a girl's fantasies about all the good things about the future.
On January 18, the news reported that a young woman had jumped into a lake with her two-month-old baby and died, suspected of being in an argument with her mother-in-law at home.
Whenever something like this happens, I'm very sad.
As a woman, I can better understand what contradictions will be in the initial marriage, and if the relationship between husband and wife is not handled well, it will make two people often quarrel, which will cause the intimate relationship to enter an impasse.
In addition, many girls live with their in-laws after marriage, and even have other family members in the in-laws' families, and it is inevitable that there will be various contradictions over time.
For the man, it is his own home, and he has become accustomed to this family model, but for women, they have to adapt to this new family model, and even exclude each other from the rest of the family.
In addition, during pregnancy and childbirth, women are more likely to be depressed due to physiological reasons, and they are also prone to conflicts with their families, if the family understands this psychological development process, they are more tolerant of her small temper, if everyone is incompatible, the woman at this time will be very miserable.
This is the true portrayal of a woman after marriage.
Even if there are only two people living after marriage, it may be like the woman who reported her husband at the beginning of the article, the relationship between husband and wife is not handled well, or the man's domestic violence and economic restrictions will also make the woman fall into a depressed situation.
Let's think of a woman, in addition to having children, but also take children every day, do housework, life is already very boring, coupled with the husband's incomprehension, domestic violence, and even accuse themselves of not making money, then how can they be happy in their daily lives?
We have to admit that many women have a drastic change in their lives after they get married.
Remember the girl Fang Yangyang who was abused to death by her in-laws' family?
She married at the age of 19, and for two years she angered her in-laws' family because she had no children, and they punished her, starving her, freezing, beating her, and torturing her in various ways.
Before marriage, she was 160 pounds, but when she died, she only had a few dozen pounds.
This girl, because of her marriage, only lived to be 22 years old.
The happiness brought to her by marriage is short-lived, but the pain is long-lasting.
Don't think that Fang Yangyang is just a case, there is such a domestic violence video on the Internet, the woman sits on the sofa with her child in her arms, and the man is like a mad cow, punching the woman's head with one punch.
At this time, the woman did not fight back, just tightly protected her child, and then the woman simply pushed the child away and let the child run fast, but the man did not have the slightest intention of stopping, and even intensified, across the screen can feel the strength of the man's pounding.
The mother-in-law heard the noise and rushed to play, but just held the child and played next to it, did not pull away her son, nor dissuaded, at this moment I believe that people who see the video, will not be able to help but scold.
This is what some women do after marriage.
Ma Tianyu once told the story of his mother in the show, when he was 5 years old, his mother died of medication, and he slept with his mother's body all night.
Although he did not know why his mother took the medicine, his father owed a lot of money when he was a child, and later abandoned his wife and son and ran away from home.
His mother and several children live in threats and intimidation every day, and even Ma Tianyu's younger brother has been robbed by the creditor and has not been found until today.
If Ma Tianyu's mother lives happily after marriage, will she still choose to take medicine?
We all know the answer. But the tragedy that marriage brings to women is not something that everyone can avoid.
How to minimize the loss of women who live in pain?
This is a lesson that all women should take well, stop losses in time, and stay away from those garbage people.
In marriage, the concession that should be made, the stop loss that cannot be compromised, and the law that cannot escape is left to the law to solve.
The examples of grief are enough to make many women wake up, but after waking up, we must learn to think deeply, only if we are strong enough to face those powerful "enemies".
Finally, tell all women to protect themselves no matter what kind of situation they are in.
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