People live for themselves, not for others to see, live at home, as long as they are happy. If you care too much about other people's opinions and want to behave well in front of others everywhere, you will live a very tiring life and lose yourself.
Whether the shoes are comfortable or not, only the feet know, and the same is true of marriage. What outsiders see is always the appearance, the real days are their own lives, and the happiness is only known to themselves. If you are really unhappy, then divorce is not a bad thing, a lifetime is very fast, there is no need to be too aggrieved yourself.
But some people are more vain and like to pretend that they are doing well in front of others, so as to gain the envy of others. In fact, everyone only cares about their own life, whether you are living well or not, others at best just say a compliment to you, why do you have to care too much?
Some couples, obviously, are not happy, but for the sake of face, they pretend to show affection in front of outsiders. In particular, some celebrities, who showed their love on social media yesterday, suddenly announced their divorce today, and such things abound.
The husband and wife show affection every day, and after 8 years of marriage, they are divorced
Tianshui and his wife are high school classmates, and in the third year of high school, the classmates were working hard for the college entrance examination, but the two of them quietly fell in love. Because of the love, the grades of the two people plummeted, and after the teacher found the problem, he immediately asked the parents of both sides to talk.
Then, the school and the parents work together to get the little couple to end the relationship and spend time and energy on learning. But the more the adults suppress, the more the two children want to be together, really how much pressure there is, how much rebound there is.
In the end, neither of them was admitted to college, and the parents of both sides had to find another way for them. Tianshui was sent by his parents to learn to drive, and later became a driver in a factory, specializing in goods purchases and deliveries. My wife went to a clothing store as a clerk, and her salary was not high.
As soon as the two reach the legal age of marriage, they are licensed to marry, and they have to prove to others that they are truly in love with each other. After getting married, she had to live independently, and the wife soon became pregnant and gave birth. After having children, the expenses became larger, but the wages of the two were not high, so they began to have conflicts because of money.
But no matter how contradictory it is behind closed doors, the two still show great affection when facing outsiders. The wife will often show affection in the circle of friends, and Tianshui cooperates with her to pose in various gestures of affection.
In fact, their hearts did not want to show love, but in the beginning, they wanted to die and live in order to be together. If we let our relatives and friends, or our former classmates and teachers know now, that they are not loving and are making noise every day, is this not punching them in the face?
Therefore, in order to prove that their choice was right, the two people cooperated with Xiu En'ai. In many things, the two of them have differences, but on the matter of Eun Seol, the two are highly consistent. Therefore, in the eyes of outsiders, their husband and wife are kind and loving, and the family of three lives happily.
Once, they met their high school homeroom teacher, who apologized to them for what they had said when they were prevented from being together. Of course, the couple said that the teacher was also for their own good, but they did not understand things at that time and did not understand the teacher's good intentions.
In the teacher's opinion, they are speaking politely, but only the couple knows that they are telling the truth. Both of them originally had good grades, if it were not for early love, they would definitely be admitted to college, and life would be completely different.
After separating from the teacher that day, the couple returned home, and the more they thought about it, the less it tasted. In the end, the couple had a big fight, and each blamed the other for not coming after him in the first place. To tell the truth, they all regretted it, and a large part of the reason was that they insisted on being together in order to gamble with teachers and parents.
Now that opposition is gone, the two are really together, and they even have children. But they found that they were not suitable for each other, so they always quarreled, and if they didn't agree, they would quarrel. For the sake of face, in front of outsiders, they also have to pretend to be very affectionate and do not want to be laughed at.
Living like acting, in the end it is very tired, Tianshui and his wife married for 8 years, after all, they are divorced. Before this, the two quarreled almost every day, were physically and mentally exhausted, and had to show their love in front of outsiders. As a result, it became more and more difficult to pretend, and finally it could only end in divorce.
After the divorce, both Tianshui and his ex-wife had a feeling of relief. Because of the relationship with children, although the two divorced, they are still involved. However, when they met again, they were calm and did not quarrel anymore. They all recognize that they are paying for the impulsiveness and willfulness of their youth.
Living for one's own sake, not for others to see
Life is real, and only by living in reality will the heart be solid and stable. If you live with the heart of acting, the day will become more and more tired, and you can't tell where it is true and where it is false, and people will live in an illusion.
Tianshui and his ex-wife, when love had just sprouted, because of the adult's obstruction, the two of them had a special personality and insisted on being together. As a result, because of this love, the two lost the opportunity to go to college, married early and had children, and shouldered the responsibility of raising children.
In fact, the hearts of both people regret it, so they vent their resentment on each other, and the couple will quarrel. And because of their good looks, the two people don't want to be laughed at by others, so they show affection in front of outsiders, showing that their original choice was right.
But pretend love is, after all, pretend, able to pretend for a while, but not for a lifetime. In fact, living for yourself, not for others to see, there is no need to care too much about other people's opinions. If the original choice was wrong, then bravely admit the mistake and correct the mistake, it is no big deal.
If you are not willing to face mistakes and use show kindness to cover up your mistakes, it will only make your life more painful.
True love doesn't have to be shown
For a couple to show affection, there must be a purpose, either for the sake of gain or to satisfy vanity.
Most of those stars who show affection are to maintain their image and thus gain benefits. For ordinary people, show love and interests are mostly not linked, but they are related to face.
Trees want bark, people face, want to have a good image in front of others, this is also the common sentiment of people. But if you think so, wouldn't it be better to run a marriage well and have a truly loving marriage? It doesn't make much sense to make everyone feel that you are very loving by showing affection.
Truly loving couples do not need to show, love is an emotion from the inside out. A couple who truly love each other, a look, a simple action, can convey love. Each other will also be considerate and tolerant of each other, marriage must be tolerant, there is no tolerance, then you and no one can pass the whitehead.
When we look at a couple, we can't just look at their external performance, some people like to show affection, some people don't. Do couples who show affection necessarily love each other? Of course not. If you don't show affection for a couple, won't you love? The answer is also no.
In short, whether the husband and wife are truly in love, only they themselves know, and outsiders only see the appearance. The more couples who need to show their love in a high profile, the more unhappy they may be, because they have to disguise themselves and want to make themselves look happy.
Whether couples are happy depends on how they look behind closed doors, and at home, they will truly express themselves. In fact, two people can become husband and wife, this is to be fate, both husband and wife should cherish.
Couples should spend their time and energy on running their marriages and families well, rather than going around showing affection. If the couple is truly in love, there is no need to go around showing.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.