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Many times, the details determine love, and at the same time, love will be defeated. It is often some small things in life that easily affect each other's feelings.
No matter how good the feelings are, we must learn to operate, and we must know how to tolerate and accommodate, otherwise the best feelings will be consumed.
Feelings and marriage need a lot of things to support, not just love is enough, more is the need for both parties to work and maintain.
Most people will gradually get lost in marriage, in fact, it is easy to affect each other's feelings. Therefore, if you want to get better and better with each other, these few small things must not be done.
Don't always think about returns
Loving someone should not ask for anything in return, and since you want to be good to a person, you should accept the other person's response. No matter what the other party does to you, your efforts are your business.
If it is customary to morally abduct and demand that there must be a response to the demand, this is often fruitless.
Being too demanding is often counterproductive. In fact, as long as you treat a person with your heart, the other party can feel it and will respond to you positively.
But if you always force yourself how much you have to give, ask the other party to respond, it will disappoint the other party. Feelings are not transactions, and loving someone should be willing to give.
Don't always hit each other
It is said that good feelings are exaggerated. Many times, your proper encouragement and affirmation will make a person very powerful and make him willing to give.
If in the process of getting along, you always hit the enthusiasm of the other party, the other party will not be willing to take the initiative after a long time.
Love needs to be affirmed, and your approval is the best love for the other party.
Two people together, there will always be contradictions, there will be shortcomings, this is the norm, since the decision to be together should be more inclusive, more affirmation, less complaints and calculations.
The more you know how to praise the other person, the more motivated he will be.
Don't just flip through old accounts
In fact, whether it is a couple or a couple, since it is two people together, there will be contradictions.
After all, two people grow up in different environments, there will be a gap between each other, naturally there is no way to avoid some arguments.
Emotional quarrels are not a bad thing, as long as you grasp the degree well, some people will quarrel more and more harmonious.
In fact, there is nothing to quarrel, what is afraid is that a person grasps on one thing and does not let go, and turns over the old account at every turn, and the past things are easy to affect each other's feelings.
You know, the past things have passed, and mentioning them again will only make each other unhappy, so why punish each other with the past things? Home is not a place to quarrel, but a warm haven.
Don't insist on yourself
The reason why many people will be separated is because they are too persistent and do not know how to think about each other.
You know, feelings need both parties to tolerate and accommodate, not rely on one person's efforts.
Everyone has their own thoughts and cognitions, blindly demanding themselves and asking others to listen to themselves, which is selfish.
Since we are together, we should think in a different position and think from the other side's position, rather than insisting on ourselves.
Many times, too much attachment will only affect the relationship between each other and make each other's feelings contradictory. Loving someone should learn to tolerate and understand each other, and it is the best way to discuss and measure.
summary:
Feelings are something that requires two people to operate. We must learn to respect each other, tolerate each other, know how to see each other's advantages, and learn to appreciate, so that the feelings will get better and better.
If you only see yourself and ignore each other, even the best feelings cannot withstand consumption. So, if you want to go better, don't do these little things.